if you ex returns to you...

[infaith]

hi all...

 

i've been doing all i can to squash any hope of my ex returning...like dating and taking up new hobbies...i still love him but i'm getting stronger each day...

however, a thought still lingers...

 

some people advise on breakups is this:

"If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours...

if it doesn't, it never was."

 

yet many in this forum feel exes getting back together rarely works out...perhaps because its hard to trust someone that left you for another...or he could make the same mistakes...

 

but doesn't the above quote imply that if an ex comes back, the relationship was meant to be and you could be secure that it would work out better than before?

 

appreciate any opinions on these 2 conflicting thoughts...

[Cid]

It is hard to tell if it is true. I think that it is hard to take someone back but if you what to then do. But dont what for your ex to come back 9 out of 10 times they dont come back so try to move on.

[duhast]

I woke up with this same question myself this morning. Everyone I've talked to has said the exact same thing and I'm starting to feel like its just a friendly way to say "move on but don't give up hope".

 

It's good to hear that you're trying your best to move on, if you've worked hard to get over your feelings but find they keep coming back, perhaps you should talk to him about it if you there is still open communication between you (and I dont mean beg him to come back etc..rather tell him why you still love him, talk to him).

 

The one cliche that is true is that the person that leaves has to be the one to return, never chase a person hoping to catch up with them.

[Donny JeffcoaT]

Maybe i'm stupid but i think it all depends on why you broke up in the first place. If someone cheated on you or if you fought with someone all the time it will probably never work out. I think when people break up for reasons like their lives are too busy for a serious relationship or if they just didnt want the relationship at the time there are good chances if you met again it could work out. I still feel that even though my ex and i broke up theres a good chance we could get back together in the future. Even though i've given up on trying to get back with her now. If you want a success storiy my friend at work broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years and they didnt talk for 1 1/2 years but somehow love found a way( ya i know that sounds lame) but anyways they have been together for a year since and they say their relationship is better than ever and after all that time they relized that the break up did them good and let them see how much they really cared about each other. I dont know how rare this case was but theres is always hope. Just remember anything is possible and theres no rule book on love.