I don't understand girls!

[spun874554]

I've never had a girl friend I've only been kissed once, and I'm now 21.

 

I know I'm getting on in years I often feel I look about about 30 instead of 21, Ive started to noitce Hair loss and I've started to wear Glasses.

 

I scared I'm getting old and have no Girl friend, My biggest fear is growing old and lonely.

 

I am everything girls tend not to like about Lads, I mean, I am extremely Shy and sensitive, and I do lack a bit of confidence.

 

I can talk to some girls okay but I have to kinda find the approachable girls who looks like she would be easy to talk too,

I often worry about saying something stupid to a girl, I don't want to hurt anyone thats why I'm always so quite, I guess I don't trust myself with my words, I don't want to be disliked.

 

I often feel I don't deserve a girlfriend I don't think I would be able to give what she would wants, because I do lack confidence and it can stop me from doing things unless she would be willing to support me, if all that makes sense.

 

Also most girls I know are always talking about clubbing, and the clubbing music, I am not into all that I find I am very old fashioned in my taste of music, sort of 60s music, which yet again I carn't imagine girls being impressed with me.

 

Lately I've been really low down about the situation I don't want to grow old alone

[DREAM]

The funny thing is I only gave one of my mates an advise not long ago about this and I will say the same thing to you.

God has made everyone in pairs and then put you both in two different places and its left up to us to find that person.

 

Hun the wrong thing you are doing is waiting. Ever heard that saying "a watched phone will never ring" or have you ever seen that if your waiting for a bus it will never come but the one opposite will always come, this is all cos your not waiting for it. Waiting for something only delays things in your mind. So relax enjoy your single life and things will happen unexpectedly. Mark my words.

 

Come on single like is so great no one telling you what to do. where to go or say. Your your own person, and you will see what I mean after you have been in relationship and trust you will wanna be single again.

[legallybrunette]

Hon, you need to find an older woman! You sound more mature than the girls your age. If you're not into clubbing or uncomfortable w/the gals into the club scene, then go to places where the more laidback ladies are. Look in music stores, bookstores, coffee houses, etc.

 

Another venue I highly recommend is online dating. When I started back dating not too terribly long ago, I was extremely shy and had difficulty talking to guys. Plus, I've always been much better at expressing myself in writing than verbally. Simply chatting with others online was good practice. It was great for "testing the waters," so to speak, and building my confidence. And you determine IF and when you meet the person. Just try and be patient, because you may have to kiss a few frog-ettes before you find a princess!

[OmegaMan]

I would've to agree with brunette. I can't come up with anything to say when I'm next to someone in person but words just flow by when I'm chatting. Problem is, cyber dating isn't reality. I think you should go for older women. I'm 22 and I think women at the end of their 20s is more kind of women than young ones. This might also be your case. I too have trouble understanding how to date someone if you don't like clubbing. Good luck.

 

Etienne

[Shyguy24]

Hey man I can relate to you, only I am 24 yrs old , well I have consciously changed the way I look at myself and tried developing more of a attitude of positive thoughts I mean if u

 

“aint gonna go into the water how you ever gonna know how deep it is”

First of all stop thinking like I don’t deserve a girl friend ..i mean why u got 3 eyes or 2 pairs of legs .. you are a normal human being who deserves a girl as much as any other normal guy.

 

YOU CANT SAY I DON’T THINK I CAN GIVE HER WHAT SHE WOULD WANT .. HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS IF U DON’T EVER TRY TO FIND OUT ..

 

Hey I am not trying to put you down or anything ..but trying to make u realize that there is nothing wrong with you ..

 

AS FAR UR INTERESTS GO U CANT CHANGE THEM AND IF U DON’T LIKE CLUBBING THEN ..SO WHAT SO MANY PEOPLE DON’T GO CLUBIN BUT GET A GF.

 

THE MAIN POINT OF GETTING A GIRLFRIEND IS TO SHARE UR SELF WITH THAT PERSON ..ITS CALLED LOVE …

HEY I AM SHY AND SENSTIVE BUT I HAVE GIRLS COMIN UP TO ME ..ONCE I OPEN MY BIG MOUTH…YES WE HAVE TO COMMUNICATE AND don’t be shy ..think like I am a guy I am supposed to take the initiative about this

 

I am also a sensitive person there is nothing wrong with that what I am saying is that THERE ARE NO STEREOTYPES IN THIS WORLD WE ARE ALL UNIQUE IN OUR ON WAY AND THERE MUST BE A FEW MILLION GIRLS WHO WOULD LIKE A SENSTIVE GUY ..

FROM EXPERIENCE MY FIRST GIRLFRIEND PROPOSED TO ME , KISSED ME AND THEN LITERALLY DRAGGED ME TO BED WITH HER ..NOTHING SHY ABOUT HER ..BUT SHE LIKE ME FOR WHO I WAS AND THAT’S IT NUTHING MORE OR LESS.

 

 

GET THESE THOUGHTS OUT OF UR MIND

· I don’t want to be disliked …we cant please everybody not possible people will hate you and there is no reason for that.

· I don’t want to say something stupid…what might sound stupid to you might not to another person and vice versa ..think about it

· I lack confidence …all in your mind change your thinking ..say hey I am a interesting guy with amazing knowledge of 60s music or smthing like that ..be positive

 

DON’T THINK OF BEING ALONE CHANGE URSELF A LITTLE GET RID OF THE GLASSES IF THEY BOTHER U ..SHAVE UR HEAD OF AND WEAR A BANDANA .TAKE A STAND SAY I WONT TAKE THIS SH** I AM THE MAN !!

 

IF U WANT TO TALK …JUST PM ME

 

CHEERS MATE