This girl at my gym...

[Alien777]

There is this girl I see at my gym everynight. I think that she is really attractive and I would like to get to know her better. My friend (who works at the gym) says that she is really cool and comes from Sweeden.

Almost everynight I use a machine or weights next to her but I havent spoken to her yet. I would like to say something to her, but not like 'Do you want to go on a date' I want it to be more along the lines of 'Hi. My name is: '. I just want to talk to her to see what kind of person she is. The thing is there are always so many people around and I feel a bit shy. I dont want to come on strong - I just want to have a conversation to see if she is as cool as my friend says she is...I need help or suggestions so that I cannot be so shy and just get the courage and guts to talk to her...

Any help is appreciated

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[no6]

I think you already know the answer to this one. Opening a conversation with a girl can be a very difficult thing as there is always that fear of rejection. However, the good thing is that the majority of girls genuinely enjoy conversation and believe it is a compliment when a man approaches them. Only a few (usually the ones that end up with poor relationships actually) have a heartless streak that compels them to respond with cutting remarks, or coldly dismiss your every word.

Bear in mind that you not in a nightclub or bar, but a gym. Everybody is there for the same reason more or less, so there are times when talking is difficult.

It would be better to treat this not as a pressured chat up, but purely as a genuine friendly and polite conversation, after all you see her often enough and know nothing about her. Just feel the water with a simple hello and an appropriate open-ended question that she can respond to with more that just yes or no. Something about the gym, the machines that you are using, etc. If she seems happy to chat, great. Just don't get too deep, keep it simple and light-hearted.

Don't worry about what others think. Generally they don't give a hoot what's going on around them. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Good luck.

[Wonderwoman]

Some practical advice...

 

If you see her everyday at the gym, chances are she's noticed you too. Start off with a simple hello to make the initial contact. Then use some excuse to talk to her...if she's having trouble with an exercise, go help her...if she's lifting an incredible amount of weight, pass a comment like "wow, you can benchpress more than me". Keep it light and casual and see how she responds.

 

Then again, you could have your friend who works at the gym introduce you to her. Try to set it up so that it's casual and it seems like it's a coincidence.

 

Good luck!