What am i supposed to do? Help me please.

[abcd1234]

Hi everyone

I have liked this girl for ages now (lets call her "mary) and we get on really well, we talk a lot on the phone and hang around together some weekends. However, recently i have arranged to hang out with her on weekends a few times and she has called me the day before and cancelled because "she has no money" or "she cant get into town" or "she is babysitting".

Also, i got into an argument with one of her friends on the school bus the other day and she goes to me "mary gets f**ck*d off with you calling her all the time anyway", naturally i didnt take any notice of this comment because it had been in the heat of an argument and i thought she was just trying to get at me further.

I called "mary" a few days later and we talked for about half and hour, i didnt mention anything about this argument and she didnt seem to be annoyed with me calling her but today i got a text off one of "marys" friends who was with "mary" at her house saying "why do you call her all the time, i no you like "mary" but she only likes you as a friend and if someone called me that much i know i would get p*$$*d off".

 

What should i think of this and what should i do?

Myself and "mary" are very good friends and although i do like her more than that, i dont want to ruin our friendship. It is true that i call her a lot but i have done for ages and she never seemed to mind it until now and it doesnt seem that she has the guts to tell me herself.

 

Can anybody tell me what they think about this and what i should do?

(sorry about the length of this but thanks for taking the time to read it)

 

Please help!

[KMSHoney2005]

omg...you're probably worrying about nothing, but then again you never know. anywhom...i don't understand why "mary" really doesn't like you calling b/c if she didn't, then i don't understand why she wouldn't just straight out tell you. although, she might be the shy type and since you two are good friends, she may not want to hurt your feelings. if i was in your position (oh btw...im a girl), then i would probably just back off for a few days. like...do you call her everyday?? if so, then for a couple days or more just don't call her. if you call her like once or week or every few days, then back off for longer (although, i don't understand how that is being called a lot). also, if you don't like that, then you can just confront her. next time you call her...just say flat right out...do you not like me calling you?? you might as well be honest w/ her of course since you say you guys are good friends. maybe her friends confront you about her supposedly not liking you calling her b/c maybe their...jealous?? they probably hear a bunch of stuff between you and her and so they say that she doesn't like you calling b/c they want something out of it w/ your response such as you liking her. either than that...im not sure. your only way of finding out is how she responds to you not calling her anymore. really though, i don't think you should worry too much. you really ought to talk to her though. just b/c friends say something, doesn't mean it's always the truth. they may not be the best of friends then. good luck!!

[paintballjunkie87]

you know what man, i have to agree with HONEY, i have a best friend that is a girl and we hang out AAAAAAAA LOT and talk on the phone constantly. and you know what when she doesnt like something or is afraid to tell me something that she thinks will hurt me, i gotta beat it out of her. so confront her and ask her that, and if it dont work and she blows you off then she aint a real friend anyways. a real friend would tell you the way it was with out a problem after being confronted. so you do what you think is best. and by the way i am in the same predicment i like my best friend more then a friend and i still get her BF and her talkin when they get into fights. so you ll know what to do when you heart tells you. i sound like a *** i know, but youll know what is right. if you like that much then discuss it with her. see what she says. i did that and we stayed friends. so try it ok. tatatatatata!!!!!!!!!

[dizzydance]

It looks to me like "Mary" wants you as a friend but also doesn't want possible boyfriends turned away because you are always talking / being with her. I completely understand this situation, it took me coming right out and asking my friend if she was interested for me to know for sure. She told me right off the bat and, although it hurt alot, I remained good friends with her because what we had was worth alot to me. Good luck - Mark

[dizzydance]

It looks to me like "Mary" wants you as a friend but also doesn't want possible boyfriends turned away because you are always talking / being with her. I completely understand this situation, it took me coming right out and asking my friend if she was interested for me to know for sure. She told me right off the bat and, although it hurt alot, I remained good friends with her because what we had was worth alot to me. Good luck - Mark

[MrDraw]

I know your problem on first hand. Just had the same experience with a girl. The end om my story was that our friendship is still there but very different. I just asked here about it. Why do I hear those things from everyone but you. What's going on?

We talked several times about it, and in the end we made an arangement to give eachother a little bit more space. She felt trapped and I felt lost.

Now it's just a regular friendship on here therms. I don't like that, because I think that things which are based on one persons wishes and opinions are false. But I just cant take it if I was to loose here.

I just don't see here much anymore and just keep conatc via SMS on cellphone. It was difficult in the beginning, but now it's just the way it is. And the important thing is that we'll keep in touch every once in a while.

So I understand your situation. Can't give a really good advice about it. But there is one thing. Be who you are and stay that way!!

Just talk about it with her, maybe she can set your mind at ease with a brief explanation!!

Succes!!