Search the Community
Showing results for tags 'spark'.
A girl joined one of my friend groups around 6 months ago, but it wasn’t until a month or two ago that we really started to connect and get closer with one another as friends. Recently, I found myself growing more and more attracted to this person until it came to the point where I confessed that I liked her and asked her out on a date. She was surprised and said she had never really seen me like that before but that she would think about it. A few days later she said she still wasn’t sure if she saw me as anything more than a friend but that she was willing to go on a date and see where things went. We went on a date later that week and I thought it went really well. We both agreed that we had a really nice time but when I asked her if she would like to go on another date sometime, she again told me she would need some time to think about it. Eventually, she told me that while she had a great time and really tried to picture the two of us together since we share a lot of interests, goals, and get along well, the spark just wasn’t there for her and she doesn’t think she sees us as being anything more than friends. My question is. Was this outcome inevitable? Or could there have been a chance for a different one if I had escalated things physically during the date? For example kissing her at the end. (Upon reflection i feel like if I had tried there’s a chance she may have let me, we had a really nice date). I’m just thinking, because I got to know this girl in the context of friends and initially portrayed myself off as that, did I mess up by not escalating things during our date so that she could potentially view me in a different light? Or am I just reading into this and she was never really going to see me as more than a friend anyways because I already friend zoned my self? just wanna know whether I should beat myself up or not for not “kissing the girl” 😅