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  1. Hello, I’m not sure who will see this as it’s my first time using this website (hope I’m posting this right), but I feel like I need an outside perspective on this. This may be long as I want to minimize the amount of unknown information to make this non one sided or biased. The main issue: my online boyfriend (age20) gets very moody when I (21) am not in the mood to do any sexual activity. context: we have been together for about a year now and since 2021 started I’ve noticed this issue coming up a lot. When he’s in the mood for sex (this is an online relationship so I’m t
  2. We are almost three years into our relationship. She was my first sexual partner whilst she had had multiple (but none long-term). The first 1.5 years or so were great sex-wise. After that her appetite gradually deteriorated to now being at a point where she has absolutely no appetite for sex in any form. When we have had sex, it’s very clear she’s not into it. And when we don’t, I get frustrated (and she can tell). I’d say my sex drive is pretty average, whatever that means (I masturbate maybe 3 times a week, and would be happy with sex once a week). Every other aspect of our relationship i
  3. I have recently been trying to come to terms with, and accept, that masturbation is normal in a relationship. Whenever I would hear my partner masturbating in the shower I would get upset. I realised (after internet research) that it was normal and even good for the relationship in some ways. So even though it still makes me feel uncomfortable when I hear it, I'm slowly starting to get used to it. I masturbate too, but I have a much higher libido than my partner. However, something that kicked me off the understanding band wagon happened this morning. My partner and I had just finished hav
  4. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years. We love each other a lot and want to be together but one thing we argue about almost once a month is our sex life. I have a low sex drive, I always have. It’s low enough that I thought I was asexual for a long time and had no interest in sex until I started dating at 20. My boyfriend on the other hand has a high sex drive and is almost always ready to go. Because of this he feels like I’m not attracted to him because we don’t have sex often and because I don’t get horny very often. I’ve told him many times it’s not him it’s me. Somet
  5. Hello All, Without getting to personal, I wanted to keep this somewhat general and ask about Sex and Marriage and the "whys" and "confusion" I have being a man with this sensitive topic - Somewhat geared towards the married woman on the boards, but open to anyone who wants to add some advice! 1. Why is it that when you date you seem to have a different perspectives on how Sex should be between the two of you, (IE - frequency, level of interest, spontaneous, experimentation of different things, and energy level etc) ? 2. Why is it when your married those things mentioned above
  6. Hey all! I have been dating a really nice guy for about 8 weeks now. We waited to have sex and became intimate on Valentine's Day. I have a question regarding libido. I am relatively inexperienced when it comes to dating- I've only ever had one long term relationship. That particular relationship became toxic...however, the sexual passion and excitement was so intense and the sex was amazing. Sex is very important to me and I would be the happiest having it at least once a day... or at least everytime I see the person I'm dating. It makes me feel connected to the other person and it is a
  7. In the past couple of months my boyfriend of 2 years has stopped being interested in anything sex related. Whenever he thinks, sees or does anything sex related he feels physically sick and recently he has stopped even thinking about it. On top of that he now says that sex is boring and is something only for teenagers. I don’t have much of an idea about what is causing this and neither does he. We have still been having sex occasionally, But only when we haven’t seen eachother in a few days, our reunions always result in sex for a few days with him interested but then he loses interest after
  8. Hello, I had a post about this while I was pregnant. I thought our sexual life would get better after delivery, but boy i was wrong.. It has been 10 weeks since I gave birth and he only initiated sex once after a fight over lack of sexual intimacy at our relationship. This same person is around me all the time. He even almost follows me to the bathroom when I am not around. His hands are always on me, he wants to kiss and cuddle all the time. However, no kiss or touch ever leads to anything more. When I finally asked him he said my attitude turns him off. Well, he had been turned off fo
  9. I`ve been with her for many years and we live together. In the beginning of our story, we used to have sex almost every time we met. I was in a bliss. Everything however started turning worse month by month, year by year.. She started wanting less and less sex, while my sex drive stayed the same. I wanted her every day, just like in the beginning, and could not understand what happened within her. Slowly this started to escalate into a number of issues for us, while everything else was still great, actually even better as our love had grown to something worth staying despite of everything.
  10. Greetings Enotaloners, It's been a little while since I sought advice here. In my usual style, this will likely be long and rambling. Also, a warning, this post is at times frank and explicit. My girlfriend and I moved in together two weeks ago after just shy of a year of dating. While it hasn't been the smoothest transition, with some pre-existing issues around communication being amplified in the process of moving and intergrating our lives, I believe we have settled down a bit and we are slowly getting into the groove. However, I am experiencing a sudden loss of sex drive following a
  11. Hi, I`m going through a really hard phase in my relationship of about 3 years. Or actually, I have been in two 3-4 year long relationships before this one, making this my 3rd long term relationship where I have moved in together with someone and shared my whole life with. This hard phase though is something i`m drastically familiar with, and I can`t even really call it a phase anymore. It`s something else, it`s like an universal rule in my life it seems. It seems to be that for many others too, from what I read and hear from time to time. So what is this, and does it really have to be this
  12. As my title says,,,sexless marriages Do they work? Is anybody in one, if so how does this work for you? Is there absolutely zero sexual activity in your marriage?
  13. Hi everyone, For the last few months, my girlfriend and I have been suffering from some relationship issues even though I do love her. We have few problems in terms of personality or friendship in that we have very similar interests, hobbies and an equally sardonic sense of humour The problems we have been having are pretty much all a matter of sex. Firstly I would like to say that I'm not a man with an overly active sex-drive. I would consider myself pretty average in terms of libido. I like having sex, and I consider it an extremely important part of any good relationship. My gi
  14. Me and my gf of 2.5years have almost completely stopped having sex. Over the last 5 weeks we had sex once. I spoke to her about it and she has admitted to have zero sex drive. We've changed her current contraceptive to try to rectify this but I feel like there's more to it. It's obviously upsetting for both of us but I feel it's seriously affecting are relationship and it just doesn't seam to bother her. Whenever I try to initiate sex she tells me because I've asked then it's not going to happen. Which makes me think she's just making up an excuse so we can't have sex. I have a hundred reasons
  15. Curious if any women here have FSD (Female Sexual Dysfunction), if so what treatment path did you and your doctor go with and how effective was it. I believe my wife has FSD (very low libido, absense of sexual fantasies) and am curious about what treatments you used. Please folks, before you respond and say something witty, FSD is a real medical problem that many women face, while mild cases can very often be overcome with little romantic tricks, severe cases can be much more problematic and require medical help. Thanks for your input.
  16. Hello all, First time posting here. I need some opinions. I've been with my bf 3 years. I just moved in with him and recently discovered that I can't stand the idea of sex anymore. I think the reason may be some of the ways he's treated me that I just can't get over. And I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or what. He doesn't have a ton of experience in sex. He was married a long time previously but claims they rarely had sex and I don't think he's had many sexual partners outside of the marriage. We hit it off sexually at first because we are both into kinky stuff like Dom/
  17. A few months ago, my relationship with a girl ended. It was semi mutual, but it was because of me. She was asexual, and I am sexual, but I was fine with the prospect of not having sex. We ended things because she said she didn't want to kiss anymore, and I took it as a sign that she wasn't attracted to me anymore. However, I later researched more into asexuality, since she was the first asexual person I met, and realized I was wrong and merging sexual attraction with romantic attraction. She has made it clear that I hurt her, and that she doesn't want to get back together with me. She did w
  18. Im in a relationship with a woman, who I love with all my heart. Our past is scattered and riddled with breakups all boiling down to one thing. A serious drug addiction and the habits surrounding it have spoiled our good vibes. I have made a decision to leave the drugs behind for good. I have attended my first NA meeting just lastnight. The problem is that apparently I am a trigger for my girlfriend. She has associated my face,my presence with the drug use so much that it has caused her to not be intimate with me. I understand that this may be a defense mechanism, and not a personal choice
  19. Hey guys! Questions about male sex drive. My boyfriend is late 20s and I'm mid 20s. We've been together 3 years, lived together for 2 of those. He says I'm not adventurous enough and that's why he doesn't seem passionate in bed. We haven't had any makout sessions in months. I really miss it. I'm pretty inexperienced and was quite inncocent when I met him. He's the first guy I ever slept with or did anything other than kiss. I've struggled with initiating but I've gotten better at it. He says he wants to have sex in other places but the bedroom. We tried that a few times but I
  20. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now and we have sex every month or two (lol) the issue is we both live at home with our parents. I may be 23 but i will never be able to have a boy in my room. We both have good paying jobs but where we are from its so expensive to rent a place. Most of our friends still live at home its commen in my county. The lack of sex is really becoming a problem. I always fantasize about the sex with my ex and how good it was and miss that intimacy in my life. The odd time we do have sex its akward to say the least. Because so much of our relationship is
  21. Hello and thank you for letting me seek advice from you all. I appreciate any and all input I may receive regarding my situation. I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I have been in a relationship of one year with my gf. For the most part, we have got along great and never really fought, other than petty issues that every couple has. About 6 months into our relationship, my girlfriend started to lose interest in any form of sexual intimacy - basically we haven't had sex in over 6 months. I understand sex isn't the corner stone of a healthy relationship but I didn't realize how much
  22. I have been in a happy relationship/marriage for 5 years. We have a wonderful daughter and a great life. However my wife has openly said she isn’t interested in sex and wouldn’t be bothered if we never had it again. We had a very regular sex life that has stopped recently. She says she only ever had it because I wanted it. We are both 26. How can we move on from this? Am I expected to stay in a sexless marriage? Any advice is welcome
  23. I am married to a woman who I find gorgeous and wonderful. She has a fantastic body that, when I was younger, I would have loved to "be with" all the time. However, over the last 5 or so years, I have lost interest in sex, almost completely. I want to have sex with my wife, and do occasionally, but it's mostly for her. I am happy to just go to sleep. How do I desire to have sex again?
  24. If you've read my posts, you'll see that my boyfriend and I have had some issues relating to sex of late. He and I have been together for five months. He's 29 and I'm 27. We have regular-ish sex (2-3 times a week, depending on how often we see each other). He does not have a very high sex drive at all. He masturbates & watches porn every other day, however he says he only does this for a "release" - it's nothing but a quick 2 minute process for him so he can get on with the rest of his day. We had a conversation last night that lead to an argument, where I'm feeling a bit insecure about
  25. Hi everyone, I feel like I’m in a tough spot. I think I’m in love. Something I don’t experience often. I’m a guy nearing my 30s who is still uncertain about his sexuality. I think I could be classified as an asexual because I don’t have a desire for sex. Not with women. Not with men. Still, I’d like to think someday I will find a partner. I dream of having a partner, doing things together, living together, caring for one another and loving each other. Just without sex, but with lots of cuddling, snuggling and perhaps even kissing. The thing is, pretty much no one knows about my asexuali
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