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Ill try to make this as short as possible. been dating 3+yrs. Bf is a lot younger but we have had a great relationship and it has not affected us at all. He is 24 Im in my late 30s. I have 2 18 year old sons that live at home. My bf has gotten along with them up until last year when we got into a fight and my one son developed a grudge since than. My son was extremely disrespectful last summer by talking "crap" to my bf but that was as far as it went and nothing else was said. My bf continued to come to my home and spend the night . We never had another interaction with anyone. Fast forward to the end of October when my bf had surgery and hasn't worked and I haven't seen n him much since, compared to every single day almost all last year till the surgery. We just got back from a short vacation and talked about our relationship and he told me he loves me and has been depressed about not working due to another surgery. End of discussion we had a blast on our vaca and when I got home I explained that I need us to start getting back to us and start spending more time together and get back to us. He told me he is not comfortable coming to my home ever again because of my son. he stated he is extremely uncomfortable and refuses to give in. I talked to him and explained that my son has let things go and wants me to be happy . My son even offered to leave a couple times a week so that i have privacy. My bf absolutely said no he will not come here. Even tho he was here in the month of Dec,Jan,Feb with no issues and he didn't seem to be bothered. I have told him we need to figure something out or as much as I love him I wont be in a relationship where I don't ever see him. Also going to his house is not an option. He keeps saying he is sorry he is letting me down and sorry he is disappointing me but still refuses to come over. I have asked if its something else but he just says no one likes him in my house and he is uncomfortable. I believe there is more to this. Any advice or thoughts? I dont want to throw away 3 years but I need someone in my everyday life