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A couple of days ago my husband got angry with me (something unimportant and not even true) when we were driving to a progress my at my daughter's (not his) school. He scares me when he's angry in the car. So i insisted on getting out. He just got angrier, drove the car up over my legs twice (i was sitting on the grass) as if to run me over. He screamed and swore horribly. I stayed very calm and said i would not get back in the car until he stopped shouting at me. But he just got angrier. one or two cars paused as they drove by to watch. I was quite prepared to miss the meeting and tell the school i was ill. Frankly, he had gone too far. I've been driven by him when he was angry many times and i made the decision not to be in that position ever again. Then he called my daughter twice and said i didn't care about her (fake calls, it turns out), threatened to call my father and say how horrid i was (my husband is nearly 60 so that sounded stupid), and filmed me sitting on a rock crying. I began to walk home and ultimately (after half an hour of abuse) he stopped shouting and we went to the meeting. In the car he simply said that i had no manners and that i had won. He's been away for two days (work) and not called me at all. He is due to return in two days, which coincidentally is my birthday and also the anniversary of my having a very late miscarriage a few years ago. It is a difficult day for me each year. He shouts at me a lot. My doctor has told me that my husband tried to control his other two wives too. i cannot go to my family right now for advice (new covid rules). I know my husband is a bully and i mostly shut up these days. But how do i manage my birthday and christmas? FYI i am on antidepressants. Thanks :)