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Hi I'm from the UK, in my early 20s and male. I've wanted to try and reach out about how I've been feeling for a long time now but never quite found the courage. The main feeling is just of a never-ending sadness and just feeling lost and lonely. My life has no direction, sure I have a career ahead of me and that's great but the rest of my life, the personal side, there's just nothing. I never have anything to look forward to, there's never anything exciting happening, I'm uninterested in everything and every conversation and I'm always worrying and worrying about the tiniest of problems and overthinking to the extreme where I fabricate social scenarios in my head that never will and never do happen. I'm agitated and upset when I don't feel in control of everything happening in my life, and I get upset when other people try to takeover things or reorganise things or try to tell me how I should do something. I've never been in a relationship but I'm in love with a friend but I don't even have the confidence to address my feelings with her. My confidence is rock-bottom I hate the way I feel and just seeing everyone else around me doing so well while I just struggle to keep up and I'm just so sick of feeling this way. I just feel like every time I try to be better I always fail. I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right topic/forum but I wondered if anyone ever felt this way and got through it or maybe if anyone has any advice or comments. thank you.
Hi everybody I'm really tired of putting on a fake veil of confidence, why doesn't the confidence come from within ?? This type of confidence does make me appear good and it works very well. But I have to consciously put it on. It does not come naturally. It breaks down where spontaneity is required or in difficult conditions. So for example when a gorgeous girl or a high-level manager walks into the elevator, I totally go blank (sometimes even stammer). What do I do to make it come naturally ? It has been 2-3 years since I'm making an effort to improve myself. But I feel like I've to live with fake confidence all my life. Please give some suggestions or suggest some self help books. Thanks a lot !!