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  1. I think most of us could use some emotional support through the pandemic. To be clear this is SUPPORT , criticism and blaming is not needed. I know some us out here are high risk or normal risk. If you need a warm fuzzy today, I love you ❤️ Virtual hug.
  2. I know is a lot to read but please I need help solving this. If you have any questions just ask. There is this couple that started their relationship as an affair when they were both married to two different people. The marriage of her ended two months after not only because of this affair but also due to previous problems in the relationship. Everything started as just having fun but little by little, they both started falling in love for each other, feelings were very strong and they both realized they never felt anything like that for anybody. Even though he (P) had a background that ever
  3. Why is it when break ups occur, we tend to think about all the good things that our partner brought to the relationship rather than what they didn’t bring to the relationship at the end? Have you ever wondered how someone that once claimed to love you ended up walking all over you in the end? Why do we want that which doesn’t want us? There are so many questions we want answered yet we rarely get them. I can remember years ago I couldn’t get my ex out of my head. The thoughts of her with someone else always haunted me but the worst was her being HAPPY with someone else. I forgot all abo
  4. Thanks for taking the time to read this just looking for third party opinion My girlfriend wants me to admit to something I didn’t do, it’s petty, I did not do what I am accused of and told her that I didn’t nicely. She then tells me that until I come clean and admit to this petty event, that our relationship is at a crossroads and that we are in jeopardy. Here is her words: “I have no problem with accepting your little white lies about where you buy a shirt or etc. but when you Don’t admit things such as the this situation you are calling me a liar or basically making me think I’
  5. Good morning! Longtime lurker but my first time posting here. Have any of you ever dealt with a mistrustful or insecure/paranoid SO? What did you do? My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and were friends for a couple months before that. I knew from the start that he had a rough, abusive childhood and his last girlfriend cheated, and he admitted that he had trust issues. I didn’t know how bad those issues were until a few months after we moved in together (his lease had just ended so we just quarantined together). He frequently sees “red flags” and jumps into accus
  6. So I Met this Girl at an Event. Im also a Girl. We went to drink afterwards and I got tipsy and asked her to kiss me. It worked and she took me to her apartment, but as we were going there, I got completely drunk. We had sex but I forgot everything about it the next day. She told me I said horrible things about myself and I need therapy. Yet she agrees to see me again and she invites me to her apartment agai next week. I find her manners way too bad. She doesnt let me talk at times, she calls me names, shes really strict to me for no reason. Ive been bullied before, so I overreact. She explai
  7. Hello all, this is a first time post for me so I thank you for all advice given. This is not meant to be a poor me post, just hoping to get some opinions. So to start off, I’m 26 and my GF is 27. We’ve been together a little over two years together. During the first year, we would go on dates, have movie nights, I’d surprise her with flowers and gifts every now and then also sex multiple times a week. I will say my sex drive is fairly high and could have it once or twice a day. I know sex isn’t everything in a relationship and expected it to drop off a little over time. I’d easily settle
  8. I was sexually assaulted and I have a very inconsistent mother and we've always been estranged and I've accepted that but a few weeks ago I guess I felt comfortable I regretfully blurted it out to her, she started being nice to me which was something I found weird at the time. I knew that this attention would eventually fade and we'd be estranged again but I was so desperate to run into someones arms and I chose the wrong person. Today we got in an argument over something unrelated and I guess she thought I had an attitude because she blurted, "you act like I'm the one that sexually as
  9. My brother and I have always had a pretty good relationship despite living in a turbulent household (parents always arguing and dad, cheating). We're both in our twenties and I'm his older sister by 5 years. In our culture, we stay with our parents until marriage, and family is everything. So despite all the turmoil between our parents, we've all always tried to work things out to keep our family together. I've always been a mega nerd, scoring high marks and basically just dedicating my life to academics. My brother's always been extremely social and has gotten into trouble over the years (get
  10. Hi all, This is an update on what has happened to the relationship discussed here: https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=565191& I have maintained my decision not to have any sexual contact or activity with the lady in question. I also told her that I'm not ready for a serious relationship due to my poor mental health, and the fact that I just can't handle the lows and struggles that a serious relationship brings. I told her that we can continue to love each other (as friends). She cried profusely, and I felt absolutely terrible even though I think it was probably the r
  11. My boyfriend went swimming with a girl who he used to date for a very short time and she groped him several times while they were swimming even though she knew he had a girlfriend. They were drinking too. He told her to stop and she did but then she drove him home and he let her sleep in his bed. He says nothing happened but I feel so hurt and sad. He keeps saying he's a victim too and that when I say he shouldn't have been drinking or swimming with her that I'm victim blaming. I feel like this whole thing could have been avoided. Now I'm stuck because he thinks he should still be able to be f
  12. Hello, I am new to this website. Just like many of you, I was looking for help to deal with my recent breakup. My boyfriend ended our relationship last week. I finally started no contact. His reasons were it was not working for him and he can't commit to me. We were happy. We had our ups and downs but I always thought that love can conquer all. He didn't believe in that. So he left me. We work together. But I was able to change my schedule to alternate days so I don't have to face him. A part of me is so embarrassed that I was left like an unwanted trash, I can't face him. I was there fo
  13. Hi all, although I am a regular on this site with my "When it gets dark.." thread, it has been a while since I have come here for advice. And I feel I should have done so a long while ago. In advance before I get into it, I know what you are thinking- "This girl is an idiot". And you would be right. But I'm helpless when it comes to spotting the signs of a bad relationship and I am pretty much incapable of loving myself enough to walk away. So I guess I'll start from the beginning... As some of you may have seen from my previous threads, the guy in question is "Mr Perfect". I know, I tho
  14. I met my girlfriend about 5 years ago, and she was doing her master’s degree. We were all over each other, always holding hands and cuddling in public. It felt so good to have found someone finally. When she finished her degree, she couldn’t find jobs related to her study. She found temporary administrative government jobs, a few good, a few where she wasn’t happy with. She started complaining that she had stayed in town to be with me, that her original plans were to move somewhere else. Gradually, this turned into blaming me, that she had sacrificed her career for me. The intimacy we had g
  15. We have been together for almost 10 years and yes 5 kids. the last few years have been a roller coaster ride. I will start with my faults. like 3 years ago i was contacted from old females i dated and we had Facebook conversations- I call a spade a spade so yes I admit it was wrong but nothing went past that. She 3-4 years later still keep throwing that and other things up during arguments and she states in her eyes its same as if I had sex with them. we can never get past problems because i always become the blame of her problems. we have tried therapy and counseling and it always goes back t
  16. So I’ve been with my partner for almost 3 years and we’ve had our ups and downs like any other couple. He’s raised my son since he was 3 months old and I cannot thank him enough for this but lately since we’ve decided to give everything one last shot it feels like he’s just abandoned everything. I’ve pulled him aside on how I feel many times and it feels like he just doesn’t care anymore. He’s always saying we argue although we don’t and he’s always blaming me for things I haven’t even done or even know about. Another thing that brings me down is that it feels like he doesn’t want to ma
  17. I originally blamed the pandemic for his decision to leave. Everything was going wrong for me and I thought we just didn’t have the energy to deal with it on top of what was going on. It wasn’t until recently that I discovered what really happened and it feels like my world is caving in on itself. The past few days have been especially hard. Back in 2018, I was raped by someone I really trusted. He stressed how important consent was to him before ever coming to my house and made me believe afterwards that we didn’t even have sex. My whole family was home while it was happening, and he cooke
  18. Hi! I need some advice because my relationship with my mom just seems impossible. Let me tell you the background. I'm 26 years old, and these problems started, obviously, in my teenage years. I have never been like my mother; she always liked girly stuff and I was not like that; she always tried to push it down my throat and, of course, I rejected it. She has always been incredibly controlling (though denies it), and I have a bad temper, which in my teenage years it was naturally worse, so we had a lot of really bad problems back then. Thing is, my mom never really understood that this
  19. After 2 years & over 30 occasions of my ex-girlfriend breaking up with me I called it a day! This was 4 month ago in 2018 & I am still finding it difficult. The last time she broke up with me she said she didn’t love me any more & her life was better without me. Previous to this I managed to set some boundaries & I told her that if she broke up with me one more time then it was over. She called this manipulation but I stood my ground. After we broke up she tried getting back with me telling me she had made a mistake etc. I stood my ground. She came back a few weeks later ac
  20. Hi, Sorry if this turns out to be a long post. So.. I'm 25 years old and thanks to the lousy economy, I'm still living with my family. Which for me would be my grandma and my aunt instead of my parents. Don't ask. Anyways, my grandmother is a sweet lady but she's also incredibly controlling and prone to bad mood swings. For an example, last summer I was working my butt off to find employment and ended up getting offered a lousy job "working in sales" AKA standing on the side walk in front of supermarkets trying to sell cellphones and other products. I considered taking it...until my grandmoth
  21. Hi all. I have been limited/no contact with my ex since we broke up in June of 2017. My story is on here... he got married to my replacement in May of 2018. I went through hell during and after the breakup. I picked myself up and have been working hard to move on. I am still healing and choose not to talk to him or about him. One of our mutual friends is getting married and i am a bridesmaid. I did not ask her to do so, however she informed me she would not be inviting my ex and didnt want anything to possibly cause any negativity. I told her i appreciate her decision and thanked her
  22. So I recently came out of hospital from a minor operation, and it got me asking a big question; what if I came out of the hospital having to adjust to the new life of not being able to control my body from waist down? I have been with my boyfriend since high school and we've grown up a lot together. We have become very serious and at times talked about marriage and kids and our future together wherever it may be. When I asked him "what if I got into a freak accident and lost my legs or became paralysed babe, what would you do?" after not much thought, he answered "I don't think you can ex
  23. Hello, I met this girl I really like and she likes me. We have been seeing each other for almost for months but official bf/gf for about 2 weeks. We always have fun but we both live at home and it is difficult to find privacy. I am working on moving out but right now not an option. She has been with 15 guys and I have not been with anyone. We make out a lot and both enjoy it. I have made a good amount of advances but we havent done the deed yet. This is embarrassing for me and I don't believe she knows I have not been with anyone. Everything about the relationship feels real except that I c
  24. In February, I came out of an eight month relationship with a girl who meant an awful lot to me. It's been six months now, and I'm still in the rut of trying to move past this and be happy while still getting dragged down (I reached my absolute lowest point yesterday). This isn't for lack of trying as I've tried numerous different things to get myself out of this mess. Writing songs and getting back into writing music, online therapy (that one turned out to be a bit of a bust since I wasn't told anything that I couldn't have been told for free by someone without a fancy certificate), and ev
  25. This could potentially be quite long, however I would appreciate any guidance. When I was at school, aged 15, I was emotionally manipulated by one of my teachers who was a woman. I, myself, am female and it was an extremely confusing time for me as I had never had any feelings towards a woman before I had met her, aside from looking up to celebrities and other role models. The first time I met her she took me in so easily, I was mesmerised by her charm, her essence of being was something I had never seen before, so confident and bubbly. Anyway, after a month of having her teaching me, we st
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