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I (M28) dated my now ex gf (F26) for 2 years and half a month. She was my first gf. She broke up with me on the 1st April this year... (yeah I first thought it would be an Aprils fools joke) because she said she wasn't happy anymore with our relationship and needed to do it before she would suffer mentally from it. After work the told me if we could talk. At the time being I didn't knew why she was not happy anymore. The days before we didnt had arguments and everything seemed normal imo... So I was really shocked by it. I cried, begged, promised I would change and do whatever I can to take me back. But of course it didn't work. Well now I do know the reasons (through thinking a lot): I basically didn't show her enough that I love and care for her (rarely bought flowers, didn't push her (we sometimes talked about going to the gym together or going out more often. We never did). I didn't help much with chores or I forgot to do some of them when she asked me to do them. I was gaming addicted (spend thousands of euros on mobile games. I went into treatment half a year ago after my last fallback...). I went to 1 on 1 sessions but rarely went to group meetings. (She was clearly disappointed by the later). But I manage to get over it. The break up kind of helped too... 😕 The addiction was one of the reasons she nearly broke up with me half a year into the relationship. The last few months were a bit declining especially in terms of ambition on my part. I am in apprenticeship as an IT specialist for system integration. I got a bit of trouble in work got basically out sourced and I need to find a new job after I am done. I didn't learn much for the then upcoming exam (a week ago). (Which I am sure did well on after finally learning for it after the break up). Me and my gf did a lot of things together (watching movies, series and YouTube or playing some games together when she wanted). So we got pretty much along really good. But I now know there are more things to a good relationship... To add to that: I went straight to life with my parents to my ex. So I never really learned how to life alone and manage all this stuff... 😕 After the break up I stayed two weeks until I found a new place. I now life with two males and we get along really good. In the time between this I did all the chores (for myself to form a new habit) and noticed how hard it was for her. One day she forgot something I messaged her about and I was frustrated (now I know how she must have felt...) My ex told me we could be friends (I first declined but accepted it a day later) and when I asked her (two times) if she thinks we can get back together she told me: "I don't know. Time needs to tell". She talked to my mother once and they basically both said: "I think he is learning from his mistakes". We are currently on friendly terms and texting sometimes. Most of the times I initiate it. But it's light and friendly. I think she enjoys it. I told her via phone call that I accepted the break up, want to look forward, learned my lesson but I like her a lot and want the friendship to work between us. So what I basically want to ask, do you think there is any hope, if I show her I change my behaviours? And can make her happy the next time? I mean the door for it is open?! Should I tell her I am trying to get her back? Or just go with the flow, being a good friend, try to show my changes? TLDR: gf broke up with me because I was lazy and didn't show her how much she meant for me, she lost trust in me. Is there a possibility to get back together, if I show her while being friends that I change?