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given the fact that while the past years i had always wanted to accompany her to visit her dad's grave on special occasions, i didn't because i had never brought up the topic of her father's passing (she had always been elusive and didnt seem to want to talk about it) when we were together. thought of dropping a message or dropping by to visit next week but don't know how to do it. well, part of me still want to get her back even though i know i can live my life without her. Ultimately im not able to understand that she losing 2 important men of her life to this. thanks for your reply, mhowe. anyone else with similar situation keen to share and advise?

my original post is on #73. have been in NC since mid october. it has been one month. thanks to other threads on this forum regarding NC and healing. doing well, dont feel the pain but yet still misses her dearly. next week is her dad's 5th year death anniversary. any advice or recommendation?

hi, anyone with similar experience manage to get back with their ex?

i forgot the important stuff. anyone with past experience can advise? my case may or may not be the same as your experience, but would like some advice so i can decide what i can do from here. thanks!

Hi, i was reading thru everyone's post the whole day and decide to register to share my story. i'm 27 this year and my ex, 25, broke up with me last week. we were together in may'08, her dad who was v close to her passed away in nov'08. January this year i suggested that we should apply for a house for our future. she hesitated and then wrote me a letter to break up. reason was that on the very night her dad came back drunk, i was on the phone with her. she was happily chatting with me until she noticed something was wrong with her dad and called the ambulance. it was too late, her dad had succumbed to a heart attack. and for this reason, she felt that she couldnt spend the rest of her life with me. all this while, from 2008 to 2012, she did not tell anyone how she felt regarding her dad's passing, not even her family, best friends or myself. i didnt want to bring up because i didnt want to remind her of it. seemed like i made a wrong move. we spoke and i told her i will be giving her all the time she needed. my priority was first to help her get over this grief. or at least she shouldnt feel guilty because she had done her best. our r/s was my secondary concern. in march'13, i wrote her a letter to show her my support and that we will go thru this together. end up with she breaking up with me because she felt that she didnt want to waste my time as i was getting older, and she don't think that she can overcome this problem. on the weekend that we were supposed to return each other's belonging, we both cried and decided to give one more try. this time, she was willing to go for counselling which i had suggested. last week aug'2013, she said 'we needed to talk' and that after talking for about an hr, she say that she had tried her best but she really felt that she can no longer continue in the relationship. obviously i am sad. I have lost my gf and my best friend over this 5 years, even though we are still very much in love with one another. i felt that she is going through 'double punishment', losing her dad and then her bf to the same event. and it's not like her family disapprove us. in fact, in the 6mths that i knew her dad, he quite liked me as well. since last week till now, we have not contacted one another. the only thing that i got her to promise is that she must tell her sister the truth, as i felt that now that im gone, one of her love one ought to know what is going on within her. she is the dream girl, good morals, values, looks, filial, everything that i was looking for in a girl. even now, i still hope to help her overcome this grief. whether we can make it together, it's secondary.