SooSad33

First of all, you say you've been involved 'a while'. How long is that? I will be honest, I do see him trying hard enough, to try & please you/ get along. But, what you BOTH need to do is learn how to work together..... Was there maybe something underlying on your end to why you just felt so 'crappy' on this day? 😕 Yes, I can understand him wanting to pay for gas etc ( and have NO ONE get upset about it). Again, I ask.. WHY were you upset about that? Weren't you going to pay for dinner? . Just sounds like you two are clashing a little, over the 'small things'. Maybe you could have just chilled for the day & watched movies, ordered in, etc- if it was a crappy day? ( Just an idea..). As I mentioned, to work together, meaning make sure you communicate and respect one another. Eg, Maybe he pays for gas this trip and you next time or he cover gas and you do the meal. It should not ruin someone's day though! As for his 'comment' on the pants, that's again something to let go.... 1) he's male. They really are clueless re: women & their clothes, so learn to never let that stuff get under your skin 😉 .. And 2). he was trying to please you - right? You knew this? So, the thought should count. And again, re: communication, explain to him you are Med, not X large. Let him learn something about you. And as for you and your thoughts on this ( because of you insecurites?). Yeah, that's on you. Only you know how you feel about yourself. Because, It does sound like he's pretty decent and your mood isn't his fault.. right? 😉 All in all, I feel like there's a bit of internal issue's going on with you, which maybe you can consider looking into? Especially if it's affecting your relationship in some negatives. Because, from how I see this... You were just downright upset the whole day about things that should not be setting you off to this extent, you agree? ( As you said, it was the worst anniversary Ever!, but this is life 🙂 stuff happens, we learn to let a lot of it go. So, how about you get a good nights rest and see how you feel tomorrow? Hopefully the sun is shining and so is you smile 🙂 .

You got that right. He's feeding his ego because he just failed in his last relationship. My kids boss is going thru the same thing. He;s liking this gal, flirting with another and dating someone ( for the last month), who is at least 20 yrs his junior. Sad, really 😕 . And he's barely out of his BU (marriage), for only the last 5 months. Inside, I do feel they know they can't do it, but do it anyways! Like I said, to feed their ego, to try & assure themselves they've still got it, etc. He is NOT okay.. agree? You stay away from people like this! They're not over their last relationship yet, not for a good while. ( after my marriage failed, ( of 10 yrs), it took me abt 2 yrs to feel okay to date again).

Heck yeah, get out of this toxic mess! The worst thing is to be walking on eggshells. I had a relation like that and realized no way am I gonna live like this... YOU have control over yourself & your life. You know you deserve better than some messed up guy who acts like this.. guilt trips, cheating etc.

Exactly. Sounds like she was just 'leaning' on you for some attention & support, after her BU 😕 . Is best to be true friends with those who value you in a healthy manner.

Oh, I'd say she's being 'extra' friendly. She's giving you signals, imo. Not sure about an actual 'relationship' ... but.. well, you know. Physical one at least, at this time.

Sounds like she is damaging you 😕 . This isn't good at all. And to the point of you feeling you're not good enough. Fine then, you two are not compatible, as SHE is never happy. Then I feel it's time you spoke up and inform her you can't do this anymore. it's going to just exhaust you! This is where we live & learn 😉 . You've come to realize you can't get along with this person and remove yourself from the relationship. And someday you'll meet someone out there who does value you and appreciate you in a healthy way.

It's just a darn reminder 😕 . You need less of these in order to continue working on healing & moving on successfully. I know, it never helps 😕 . Tomorrow is another day and I'm sure in each passing day, these emotions will lessen again.

I know, it sucks 😕 . But this is something beyond your control. Someone you came to fancy is already involved. You just need to give yourself some time to work through these emotions and come to 'accept'. It happens often.. I get it. Less you know, the better, in order to be able to move on with your own life. If you're friends on FB, maybe it's best to unfriend her?

He's an insecure mess, who latched on to the first person who paid him some attention. He's still struggling over his BU and the ex. He never should have gotten into a relationship so fast . And now, his struggles have affected you! Selfishness 😕 . You're better off on your own, not with someone like this. It's been 1.5 years, that's too long, time to walk. Is good you've come to realize the negative effects he's having on you and thinking about all of this now. So, just be done and return to focussing on yourself for a while to get back to good again 🙂 .

Yeah, not sure how much I believe of this. She could very well be testing you ( in an immature way), for a response. Nope, not a good thing to do! Either way, whether it was 2 or 22, and she wants you back, are YOU okay with this? My Question is: You two broke up for a reason(s), what was it? And has it been fixed? If not, it's likely the problem still remains, so you'll end up back in this position. Think wisely.

You could at least respond back ( not act like her) and say sure, sounds good! 🙂 . Then, leave it alone, until you hear from her again. She's going on a trip? Can guarantee that's heavily on her mind now. you two have only been out a handlful of times, right? Ya never know, she may be thinkin of you the whole trip.. you've barely begun to get to know each other at this point... So, see how it goes. But, it;s up to you. If you're not happy now, then yeah, ignore her and move on. Has only been time span of over a month.

IMO, you were left in the world of 'what if's. You've been lost through your experiences and overly thrilled to have heard from her again... I don't know how old you two were back 12 years ago, but NOTHING will be the same now as they were then. She won't be the same as you remember vice versa. you can guarantee she has changed! So, she won't be that person you remember from 12 yrs ago . Life changes us. As for HER behaviour, being with a hubby & kids, is not amusing! 😕 Why on earth would this woman be hitting on an ex from years ago, when she's in this position? IMO, you truly do not know her from a hole in the ground! you're going in blind in all of this! How would YOU feel , knowing your wife's out there hanging with an ex? I wouldn't exactly be putting this woman on any pedastal! As for you, is time you work through these possibly 'repressed memories', or how you want to see all of this. 1) It was many years ago, we all make mistakes 2) Even if you hadda hooked up, dated etc, still no guarantee things would have worked out with her , right? 😉 ( heck this coulda been you, married to her now, as she's out there hanging with an ex! , Nah no thanks). Is it maybe you're seeing her thru a different light. As I said, she is not the same person you remember 12 yrs ago.. Step back, take a good look.

So, she's going away in a couple months? Is it maybe not worth the effort? IMO, if someone IS into you you'd know it. As mentioned, it's all been YOU. I guess it's fine if you want to ask her out for a coffee, but maybe don't expect anything more.

As MissCanuck asked - this you posted a while back is still this same guy. So, things have been falling apart for a while then. He sounds like he's done with this pretty much & is just giving excuses. Then, maybe is just time to show him the door? You are YOU and he isn't happy anymore 😕 . Or hasn't been for a good while... sorry. Then you have to work on accepting and just be done now. you can't magically bring back a spark that's been sizzled out for a couple of years now.

This guy is disgusting! His behaviour an all. Stop accepting his bs lies and his yelling, etc and just leave him!

You're still young! We live and we learn. That was a learning experience. So, it didn't work out, it happens, a lot! 😉 ( sounds like you're just 'curious'? What if...?). That's okay to wonder, what if .... But as I said, we live & we learn, right? As mentioned, if you're on a date, put the phone away. Text the other person at another time. FOCUS on what's in front of you. Anyways, that was a few yrs ago, time to move forward 🙂 .

HE is toxic! He's messing you around with failing to communicate, blocking etc. Why would you want this? You should have walked away by the second Break up. He's messed up- don't let him ruin you too 😕 . Just be done, stop contacting him, totally.

Sounds like she likes to 'go out' and do stuff, but thats about it. If you're wondering about more, you need to ask if she'd like to go on a 'real date' and find out. If she ghosts you after that, then give up. Gonna suck though, its going on where you get your hair cuts 😕 .

He's fake. His words mean nothing! He's still invested in another woman. Anytime a guy mentioned issue's still w/ an ex, you walk away. No sense in wondering 'why' he'd do this to you, knowing how you've been hurt in the past, he doesn't care about that 😕 . Maybe just continue on with your divorce and your own healing. Not dating at this time.

I agree here. And it shows where you two were stressed out. I say it's just imcompatibility. She wants this and doesn't get it. You see from a different angle and you two are clashing - to the point, she's walked away from it all. Let it be a life lesson. Avoid distant relationships and good on you for keeping up with what YOU need. Move forward.

IMO, none of this is good 😕 . I understand a workplace can be stressful, but to have an outburst like this is no good. You BOTH need to stop this. Need some air? Get out for a few mins, take a break, but it's doing neither of you any good by blasting each other this way. It's not professional in any means and can be harmful to one's mental health and the health of your workplace - making all toxic.

You got this backwards. it's NOT you it's him! And don't bring this word 'love' into this. It's not love at all, it's abuse! 😕 . he's got a long while yet, before he's truly changed! Don't fall for his 'words'. You gave in because you missed him & he was your weakness, it happens often.. BUT, you need to wake up and take a good look. And yeah, you CAN be a person without him! You were fine enough before him, you will be again, after him. 🙂 You just need that inner strength and time. Time to see from the outside how nasty a person he was with you. You should never have had to remove your social media or friends! No decent partner does that. So, you remain at a distance and do NOT give in to him anymore. Go hang with family/friends and keep busy instead of considering ever seeing him again. ( remember, you already had a taste of that toxicity). Be around those who do respect you and can show you the right way.

Risk losing something stable? This is not stable. Stable, is feeling it's right. Feeling like this is what YOU want and you're happy. Not breaking up every few months! That just makes your relationship weaker. Breaking up is NOT a solution. And, often after the first BU, it weakens one's feeling towards the other 😕 . I think you should say enough is enough now, we're plainly not compatible and be done. Give yourself a little 'single time' to get over what's left with this guy before jumping on into another relationship.

No. You have to be done now, totally. or it'll continue to hurt you. You need to walk away with some self respect. And this. This whole thing is unhealthy 😕 . She is no good for you. You've had your 'fling'. Now move on and be involved with a decent woman who IS in it all for just YOU! 😉

This was a shock for you 😕 and now you have what sounds like possible PTSD from the experience.. So, it may take time for you to 'feel okay', again. Yes, she had a seizure due to the high temps .. But, that is done now and she is okay. What you need to do is keep reassuring your mind of this. ( Is common for kids/ some adults) to do this in such circumstances. Yes, maybe speak with your doctor and even consider some therapy to help you deal with this disturbance.. You need some good mental rest!