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  1. We have been married less than a year now, but we are having some problems in the bedroom. I, the husband, am having a hard time wanting sex. It seems like we are never in the mood at the same time. Last night I came on to her and she rejected me. Why am I supposed to just take that rejection for nothing, but when I am not interested in sex, it’s the end of her world. We had sex earlier today mind you. We just got back from a hike, and I was giving the dogs a bath. I finished and started cleaning up the bathroom. She comes in naked and I was more worried about cleaning up, then having sex.
  2. My wife and I got married a little over two weeks ago. We lived together before hand, so our honeymoon isn’t a true honeymoon. We are in the middle of our trip and I’m not sure what to do. She had a complete mental breakdown last night. We were walking around Honolulu and we were looking for a place to drink. I picked a bar and she didn’t want to go. She saw this other bar and wanted to go. It was a $20 cover charge, and I didn’t want to pay that as we are way over our budget already. We didn’t go, but she walked away and told me she would go if she wasn’t with me. I was a little hurt and
  3. I got a text early in the week about a co-worker whose birthday is coming up. The person asked that we all bring something for a salad bar on Monday. I absolutely cannot stand the birthday girl. She has tried to get me fired, she is super bossy, and tells me I am fat. It has gotten to the point where I just won’t talk to her. I leave the room when she comes in. Everyone else complains about how much of a she is, and has been since she started. Is it the right thing to participate and bring something for her birthday even though I hate salads and her lol?
  4. Update: I sent a text to my best man and the other friend planning it, basically saying do not bother. I don’t want any stress for travel and time off. Both guys were understanding. My fiancée was a little perturbed but in the end said it is my choice. She just doesn’t understand it. I told my best man that we should all go out fishing the morning of the rehearsal dinner since we will all be together then!
  5. She isn’t pressuring me to get strippers. She knows I don’t want any, but said she won’t get upset if I have one. I think she did it to calm my fear (that I really don’t have) that I would be worried about how she would feel if there was a stripper.
  6. I’m getting married in a few months. I don’t want a bachelor party. My fiancée wants me to have one. I have no interest in one. First I don’t want strippers. My fiancée says she is cool with it. I’m not. She said she has told my best man that I don’t want them, but she said there is a possibility they could get one anyways. She knows I’m the person who would just leave if one shows up, but told me not to leave. My best man and most of my friends live out of state. I don’t want to travel back home for a bachelor party. I don’t want to drag her brother out there with me either. He wants to g
  7. I asked her if she was done with him and she said yes. She also texted me this I love you so much. I want us. I want you. I just also need to be honest with my expectations. I expect that I can make my own choices. I expect that you trust me. I told her I feel like I’m in the purgatory of not really knowing if she is gonna continue talking to him or not. She said she is done, but might contact him when she’s drunk.
  8. So she tells me that she can see herself getting drunk and texting or calling him. I told her there are steps she can take to make sure that never happens. I ask her point blank is she doing Anything suspicious. She tells me that it was just a really close friendship. That my standards for what a friend is doesnÂ’t matter. She asks me what happens if she feels like she thinks she can be friends with him again. I tell her I refuse to play this hypothetical game. Part of me feels like she lost a good friend in her mind so sheÂ’s super sad. The other part says who the hell cries ov
  9. My fiancé has started telling me how she misses this guy she used to be really good friends with. She has spent nights crying about him, and how she misses the friendship. She told me she doesn’t think there can be a friendship between them with me in the picture. She said they were really close before and would hang out constantly. While she was married before this same guy ended up texting her telling her all the sexual stuff he would like to do to her. She said she didn’t participate but also didn’t ask him to stop. After we got together, he stopped contacting her and she did the same tow
  10. You have been friend zoned. It's nearly impossible to get out. I can't give you advice to get out of it with her but you need to ask yourself these questions. Am I ok with just being friends? If I tell her I can't just be friends am I ok with losing her for good? Can I break contact with her to try and get her to miss me in a romantic way?
  11. Now she calls me at 4am drunk to tell me that the guy ended up driving her and her friends home. Then she tell me that her friend, male, is over and they are drinking together. She told me she was going out with her friend,female, that's it. Now she has a guy over at 4am. I've never felt so disrespected in my life.
  12. I will be the first to admit I'm insecure and I'm working on it but tonight I'm just bothered. We were hanging out and I had to leave for work. She said she was probably going to go out with her friend drinking and dancing. She said she may swing dance with a guy. I wasn't thrilled but it's just a dance so I calmed myself down and let it go. We talked about my insecurities a little and said I know how guys operate. She understood and I feel I'm still wrong at this point. I told her I know she won't do anything with a guy but I do get worried about guys coming on to her. She's been assaulted be
  13. We miscommuicaited and then we talked about she asked if we are good and I said of course just a bit of a phone problem. She then asked if I was done being grumpy which really pissed me off.
  14. We have been boyfriend girlfriend for about a month, talking for a little over 2. Relationship moved super fast but we've always been able to talk about anything. The other night we got in a little fight. I got really angry but we were on the phone so she didn't really know. We talked about it yesterday when we saw each other Now I'm having some doubts about everything. We are madly in love, but something feels off. We both are pretty clingy with each other. Neither of us have been in a clingy relationship before. But today I really didn't want to be clinged on. I'm not sure if I'm of
  15. We've been on a few dates and what not. I really want a relationship with her and we are super close. We've talked about our dreams, and she wants to go far away for school, and move around. I know it's early on but her dreams really don't have me in them. I have no problem moving. She's a teacher so she won't be leaving for at least another year. It's super early in our relationship but I'm worried that she will just up and leave. I can't be mad at her for wanting to do that but I also don't want to get super serious with someone who will be gone. We are both adults so it's not like she's an
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