heart4chris

As in options I mean... explore what else is out there.... find out if there really is something out there better for you... .You never know.. you could be swept off your feet.......

Noone should EVER have to put up with being cheated on. After being cheated on you lose all trust for that person and its hard to get it back. Without trust there really is no relationship.... if you're questioning it, it is best to get out of it now. I know its hard to let someone go after a year and a half, but sometimes its for the best. People come into our lives for reason... even though you may not know the reason now, someday you'll find out.... maybe one day you'll realize that this girl is on;y in your life to point out to you what you REALLY need and want out of a relationship. Im sure you don't want a person who you can't trust, who you are always having to watch.. ect. Maybe its time for you to explore your options....

Thanks for the advice. I really needed some advice about life. I know I have a lot of good qualities, and I don't think I showed them all to my ex- boyfriend (that still feels weird to write and say) I just have to learn how to be strong. And learn from the mistakes. Thanks again

I have had some hard times lately, where everytime I think about myself I think of the negative things. My boyfriend of a year and a half just recently told me he needed some time to figure out what he wanted and that he didn't love me romantically anymore, just as a friend. It hurt really bad. It made me think it was something I did, something I did to drive him away. And while it may of been me calling him a lot , or wanting to talk to him all the time, all i did was love him to the best of my ability. I know he thinks some things of me that I don't like about myself. He thinks I'm too needy, he probably thinks I'm stupid and can't hold an intelligent conversation, since we never have really. Its not that I can't, we just never talked about anything really. Now I'm not so sure what I want anymore either. I know one thing I want in future relationships, whether it be with him or with someone else. I want a different kind of relationship than me and him had. I want more than anything for him to come back to me, and if he did.. I would want our relationship to be different. Not like it was before, where he walked away. I want to be someone's best friend, not just their girlfriend. I want them to come to me with their problems, and feel they can tell me the truth about anything whether it will hurt my feelings or not. I want us each to take time away from each other to be with our friends and family. I want us to love each other unconditionally, through everything and try to work every little problem out when it occurs, so we can move on with our relationship and be happy. If for any reason at all I make him unhappy I want him to tell me when he gets that way, not wait around and see if it will fix itself. Cause it only hurts worse when you know its been going on for a while. Is that too much to ask??? Am I asking too much out of something?/ I don't know what to do with myself anymore. I don't know if I should totally change the way I am about things, so I am not so needy, clingy,... just so I can keep the one thing that means everything to me. I need advice. .Words of wisdom.. anything.... I just need advice about life..... Please help.

I love it! Keep up the good work

Twiggs, my boyfriend just recently decided that he needed some time to decide what he needed and wanted in my life. It broke my heart. I cry everynight with him. It hurts me to look at his pictures, talk to him on the phone sometimes, but it also hurts not to tlak to him. What i'm trying to say is I don't think I could ever get over my boyfriend. He was such a big part of my life for so long, that I will never forget what he means to me. I will always love him She's 18-- I'm 19-- My boyfriend is 21--- I don't know what I want.. and need in life much less a relationship... my boyfriend ended it because he needs to figure out what he wants. so more than likely she isn't taking what you had seriously now b/c she doesn't knwo what she wants and doesn't want the responsibilty of a serious relationship. Give her some time. She'll realize just how good you were to her and she'll come back If she doesnt someone else iis out there, better for you.. and they're just waiting for you to find them . good luck. I wish you the best! -Ashlee

I'm going through the same exact thing right now, except i'm on the opposite end. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. The last 7 months of our relationship has been long distance. Things changed between us he wasn't really sure what caused them . He started feeling really confused about what he wanted in his life, so he need some time to figure it out. I honestly believe that letting him go, is the best thing I can do for him. I do believe that if we are meant to be together he'll find his way back to me. Him and I were also each others first serious relationship, I am 19 him 21. So we really don't know what else is out there for us, so this gives us time to experience and see if what we have was the real thing. If you decide you need to experiment and just prove to yourself that you have the real thing, it might be for the best. because always think of it this way. If you end it with this guy, and it just happens not to work out, where you find your way back to him, it happened for a reason, and there is someone out there who is better for you. Since you are in different country, I suggest this break to see what else is out there, but you have to go with your heart and do what you feel you need to do for yourself.. Hope I helped some. I really do wish you the best in whatever you decide. -Ashlee

I have been on seasonale for a few months, just started a few weeks ago the first month in my second pack. My boyfriend came this weekend (left today)and he took my pills with him on accident( they were in his pocket). He lives 3 hours away so I can't really go get them, so he is mailing them too me. Since its a holiday I won't get them till Tuesday or Wednesday. So I won't get to take my pill tonight, sunday night or monday night. I won't see him again till that following Thursday.. should I still be protected if I miss those three pills and start taking them again on tuesday night? It says in the pamplet that if i miss three or more pills (active) which is what i am on. That I should use other methods during the days I miss the pills and the first 7 days after I start taking the pills again. So would that make me safe on Thursday the 16th. I would appreciate all the advice I can get.. Heart4Chris

Yes, I am strongly thinking of going into Dental Hygiene. would anyone who has done this please message me and let me know anything you think I should know. If you enjoy the job/money... anything good. please. i would really appreciate the advice. -heart4chris

I can feel your pain. I am in the same boat you are. I have just started my second year of classes and I still have no clue what to do. I am majoring in General Studies right now, cause most of the classes I am taking will help me start out in any of the majors. Since I've been at school though, I have thought of a few majors and I have narrowed it down to 2. But I still don't know which direction to go.. cause the majors are going into two very different directions. I think I'm gonna take some advice on this board and go take that Internet Survey test. Maybe it'll help me figure out what I should be doing. But Everyone has told me to follow my heart and go for something I'm passionate about. Maybe I should tell you to do the same thing, ,even though I dn't know where my own heart is. If you want to chat, you could always pm me. -heart4chris

Thanks for your adivice.... I know computers really really welll. I'm always on the computer so that's why I was thinking it would be a good field for me. I would also like to try real estate but I am not very self-motivated or a go getter lol. so thanks for your help ashlee

Thanks DiglyD for your advice. That gives me a lot to think about. I really don't know what direction I am headed in as far as college goes. But I have thought about changing my major from general studies to something more concrete. I don't know what, but something that will look better. I have changed my mind so much about what I want to do for the rest of my life, but I have to keep one thing in mind... I really want to , when I do start a family, be able to stay at home and take care of them instead of leaving them with babysitter after babysitter. So that's why I was thinking of a career in Medical Transcription, I could work at home with that and that would work out really well. If that was the case, I would probably change my major to something to do with the medical field... I don't know.. There is one thing that I am really passionate about, and I've always wanted to persue a career in Marine Biology , but that's not really an option around the area I am in, plus once I get out of college I'll probably move to somewhere like Tennessee and I really don't think I could find a job around that area. I am really passionate about dolphins and would love to work with them, but I don't know how I could make it work. Thanks again for your advice. lots to think about ... thanks I think Real estate is out of the question for me, but thanks again ashlee

I have just finished my second semester in college and I still have no clue what to major in. I was thinking of finishing up at the junior college I am at, with just a general studies major, and then going to a medical college like Capps College, and get a certificate in Medical Transcription. But I'm also interested in real estate, but I don't know how to go about getting the right skills I need to get a job in real estate... does anyone have any advice for me, I'm very confused between the two.

Thanks so much everyone for your replies. I would appreciate more information if anyone has any, but I also appreciate the information I got so far thanks ash

Hi, I've recently became interested in starting yoga, except i really don't know what to do or if i am even going to be able to do it, i basically want to learn cause my mind always wonders even when i'm so busy at work and i want a way to relax and free my mind of all the thoughts............ can anyone give me some advice please, thanks a bunch. Ash.