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Hi Estevan, I think I can see the point of view of where you're coming from. My wish to you is that if, just if, the God I mentioned and the soulmate of your life really do exist, and you happen to encounter them, you'll not hesitate to hold on to them. These are some of the things that make one's life truly worth it. And as to what happened on valentine's day, I can tell you that I screwed up, big time, which means that as of today I'm still a 21 year old, male, virgin, who has never had a girlfriend. But I'm accepting reality and I'm not giving up. Good luck to you too. Tom

Hi Estevan, I never thought I'd post in this board until I read your message. It's because I'm also a 21 year old virgin, male, who's never had a girlfriend! You are not alone! The reason I'm checking out this board is because yesterday, on valentine's day, I just made a move on a friend i've known and had a crush on for almost 8 years. I have not heard from her so needless to say i'm very anxious and in need of advice of what to do next. Enough about myself. I totally understand how you feel, when I see my friends happily paired up and can't help wondering what the hell's wrong with me. However, i have to say that i was never embarrassed about the fact that i'm a virgin. In fact i take pride in it. Society says it's a shame to be a virgin. I say it's a virtue to stay pure before marriage. Unfortunately many people don't realize this. As to finding your soulmate, all i can say is be patient. Don't jump in a relationship blindly just for the sake of having a relationship. Remember something called commitment. To me commitment doesn't start the day of marriage. It starts the moment I think about pursuing a girl, that i will not take any relationship lightly and that i'm dating her because i'm genuinely considering marrying her someday. Being patient is something i have to keep reminding myself. If i'm fortunate enough to start a relationship with my friend i told you about, then needless to say i'll be extremely happy. But if it doesn't turn out the way i hoped, then yes i will be depressed, but at the same time i also know i'm not alone (see link removed) and that my real soulmate will show up at the right time. Good luck to your search for your perfect one and God bless. Tom