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  1. Hi all. 31 year old male, gay. A couple months ago I started a new job and there's a couple 18/19 year old guys that work there. Since coming out at 24 I've only been interested in other people around my age. One guy in particular at this new job caught my eye from day one, however he's only 18, which is so unusual for me. I really don't want to be that older man that creeps on young guys. Initially it was only a "wow, he's kind of attractive" and it ended there, but after working with him quite a bit my infatuation for him has begun to develop and grow. I have flirted with him here and t
  2. I've been dreading this week for months because I knew you were leaving. You included me in your going away festivities only because I hit you up first. I have no regrets seeing you up until now. I text you today to say goodbye and you couldn't even reply. This is not how I thought this would play out. This is not how I wanted our final encounters to end. I'm crushed. You could've said thank you and I would've been fine. But not this. This stings.
  3. You resurface regularly these days and I bite every time. We're about to be thousands of miles apart for the next few weeks, then you move later in the summer. I dread the fact that I'm going to miss you being nearby. I'm still not fully over you. I can't tell anymore where you're at but I know you must still contact me for a reason. I'm still not going to contact you first. If you want to talk you know where I am. I wish I could forget you. Draw a line under you. Just move on completely. Yet I can't and I don't understand why. Months on and I'm still infatuated. The thoughts of you are just e
  4. There's nothing wrong with the way that you feel. But you should accept who you are! The way you are feeling right now only confirms that being gay isn't a choice - you're born that way. Coming out to yourself and your friends and family is a unique process to everyone and happens at all stages of life. Surely you must have SOME friends who you can talk to? You'll feel so much relief when you find your feet and are comfortable starting to tell people, if only one other person at first. Do you have any female friends? I know it feels tough now, but it'll be okay! Every gay/bi/trans person g
  5. @RayRay63 - that all blows my mind. When I've dumped in the past I've never done this to anyone. This has been recurring week after week. I would've expected him to get bored by now. Why keep pinging me over and over again? The RS wasn't even that long.
  6. I can relate to this. My ex split with me last month. He's since led me on and backed off again when I called him out on it. His actions contradict what he's said to me when we've had conversations since. He has told me he still likes me, what ever that means to him. I think he's a very confused person. One day he deleted me entirely saying if I can't be friends with him he doesn't want to see photos of me and what I'm doing - a few hours later he re-added me. I don't "follow" him on instagram - I don't look at his stories, snaps, posts, etc., but he watches everything I put on there. Some
  7. For what it's worth he isn't going to text you and let you know he's sad (if he indeed is). He's going to make it seem like he's doing well. He's not going to put out there that he's down. I wouldn't read into his "haha" comment more than I needed to.
  8. Today you broke up with me. We hadn't been dating long and I know you're new to the dating scene and don't know what you want. I pushed through and accepted how you felt because I just liked being with you because I like YOU. We butt heads a few times due to misunderstandings but we kept giving each other another chance. You'd cancel plans on me, change them around, show up late and on one occasion felt like you just omitted me entirely. I'd express my frustration and concern and you would say I stress you out when I do that. Your travel schedule is all over the map and unbeknownst to you I ma
  9. Please, let's just agree to disagree. I totally respect your POV and can only thank you enough for taking the time to talk about it. I can only explain so much before a third party would need to have been there to see how everything went down. With the fine details my original post would've been 3x the length. It really did seem like a spur the moment date, and guess what - people usually drink on a date and it felt like a date, at least the first 3/4 of it did. I've been on enough of them to know the difference between it and a hook up. It's my fault for not clueing in before hand which way h
  10. @MissCanuck - that's terrifying! Thank you for sharing your story. @Batya33 - I really appreciate your input and I don't disagree with most of what you (and everyone else) is saying - I DO usually take precautions when it comes to meeting strangers and it's rare I have anyone home after the first encouter. This was a one-off that I admit I misjudged. I want to point out that at no point no one was driving after drinking. The area in which I live has a pretty good nightlife and where we went was all within walking distance. By the time 5am rolled around and he left I can safely say that neit
  11. Yes. Seems to be the same consensus all around. I know he doesn't owe me anything in terms of a response, but it's the right thing to do. Should've ignored me from text #1 after we parted ways. It wasn't my intention to hook up. In all honesty I only expected to hang out a few hours, but I wasn't expecting a one-night stand or ending back at my home. What you're all saying makes sense. I just needed confirmation on my gut instinct, which is mostly in line with everything you've all said. I guess I wanted to believe it was something more. I'll be fine. I just hate the sting that comes from t
  12. Thanks, guys. I understand what you're saying about the whole stranger thing. It didn't even occur to me at the time to think this. I consider myself a pretty good judge of character and at no point did I feel I was in danger or that the night at all was precarious. Not even a hint. Very genuine guy and even though this is how things are right now I still don't believe that it was anything beyond a friendly encounter. I have met people under similar conditions where I wasn't comfortable and I ended the night early. It did occur to me that our encounter was a booty-call, and Saturday night
  13. As the thread title suggests, I had a date and now there is just radio silence. I get it, they're not interested, but here's the back story shortened up into a couple nice paragraphs: Last Friday at work I matched with a guy on Tinder and it got off to a great start. I'm 29, he's 28. Very charming and quite attractive. By that evening he was asking me what my plans were and he ended up coming to my neck of the woods despite my insistence that we meet half way to be fair. It was a late start to meeting up, probably ~10pm, and it would've taken him about 45 minutes at that time. I was even mo
  14. We broke up before Thanksgiving. After almost a year together you put yourself back on the dating scene almost immediately. I head you're already talking to someone new and that hurts me so much. You're like me in a way and I'm surprised you can already shift your attention to someone new. I on the other hand can't bare that just yet and need to continue healing and mourning our relationship before I can allow someone to fill the void you left in my life. Wishing you all the best. I'm so hurt that you have moved on from me so quickly but I'd like to think that you're still struggling in your o
  15. I was in your city this past weekend. Such a beautiful place. Just as I remembered it. There was just one thing missing: you. Everywhere I looked I remembered that I had been there with you at some point. I avoided some areas of town which would have hit home a little too hard. Some feelings resurfaced and I became eager to leave. The drive home was awful. I cried again, just like I did when I would leave you to go home for the work week. I don't think there's one time I have left your city without crying.
  16. Here I am again. Doing so well and the last couple days you've been in my dreams again. I know I still miss you. I still smile at the memories we made in our short time together. I wonder if you think of me, or see/hear things that remind you of me? Of us. I wonder if you ever dream of me? I still think about you often, but somehow feel forgotten by you. You told me that you couldn't imagine me not in your life in some way or another when we broke up, and look at things now... you don't want contact or anything to do with me. So many things have happened recently where I've felt the need to ju
  17. Welp, I was doing really well. We've been apart basically as long as we were together. I sent you the birthday present I had been planning since before we split. I honestly didn't expect a response, but your roommate was quick to say something and happened to mention you were a little freaked out. I understand. You text me saying thank you and that it was too much (I'll take that comment for what it's worth), but you appear to have blocked me on your phone as my response went unread. Those damn iPhone read receipts are such a nuisance sometimes. I honestly have no more "tricks" up my sleeve no
  18. You're dating the new person I suspected you were. I hope this is the point where I can finally let you go. I hate you.
  19. I just want to get you out of my head. You're one of the most special people that's ever crossed my path and I think that's why I'm having trouble getting past you. You left my life as quickly as you entered it. It's been so hard at times not to contact you, but I'm proud of myself for not doing so. I see you're talking to someone more local. I'm happy for you, but I remember when that "new" guy was me and I had so many butterflies in my stomach. Maybe one day I'll get to experience that again with someone new, but you'll always be my first for so many things. That makes you even more special.
  20. My God, I still miss you. In another month we will have been apart for the same amount of time we were together. So silly. I'm doing better than I was. I still have moments of weakness where I'll get upset over you. I still blame myself for everything that happened. My insecurities, and ultimately my decision to break up with you. I've never regretted a decision like this before. I was in such a bad place when I made that choice. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to shut up and appreciate everything for what it was. I see you're talking to a couple new guys. I'm talking to
  21. Hi boy I miss you. I can't believe such a short relationship could impact me so hard. I think about you every day. Every single day, and it's now been two months since we broke up. Yesterday was 30 days since we last spoke. I wanted so hard for you to contact me this week because of my grandpa's death. You never did. Just a short message or something. I know you know what's been happening. Today I caved and checked in on you. You seem like you're on the fast lane to moving on. I hope I can be there along with you before too long. I just wish I knew what to do to get you off my mind. I'm
  22. I don't know why I still think about you like I do. It's been almost two months since the break up and almost a month since we last spoke. Ever since we met you are and have been the first thought on my mind when I wake up and before I go to sleep. I can't believe how I ended things over such a stupid reason and now there's absolutely nothing I can do. I think about you going on new dates and getting into a new relationship. I daren't look on your social media sites for clues because it would crush me. I'm still not in a place to date just yet. I hope some day soon I will be. You'll be hard to
  23. Each day seems to be getting easier - but I still think about you and all the memories I have from our incredible relationship. A mutual friend posted pictures of you guys at a concert last night. You seemed very happy. I felt a slight sadness seeing a recent picture of you, but this time I didn't cry. I think that's a step in the right direction. I still think we are a good match for one another. If we are ever to try again I need to first get over you. Talking to new people on dating apps and sites isn't helping too much. I still think about the way we first started talking. I wonder if
  24. Yup. Thought about you again today. My eyes watered a little this morning. But, I didn't cry. I've come to the conclusion you're not as tough as I thought you were. You aren't a fighter. When we almost broke up the first time, you just cried and didn't say anything but how much your heart hurt. You told me you'd walk me to my car. Then we made up because I initiated it. When we actually broke up, you were crying your heart out and all you asked me was "are you sure this is what you want?" I said no (you told me you thought I said yes when we talked about it later on), and that was it. Yo
  25. Hi. It's been two weeks since we last spoke. I think about you every day. I still say goodnight to you before I go to sleep. I miss you and I love you. Every now and then I still cry over you. I'm sorry for all of this.
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