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  1. I was with a guy for about 2 1/2 years. When I was 18 he left me. He was my first love and I was heartbroken. I did the begging and pleading and didn't talk to him for 2-3 weeks. Then I reached out, we started talking and got back together. About 3 months later he left me again. I went NC AGAIN, this time for 2 1/2 months. He had something of mine that I needed so I again reached out, we made plans for me to go and see him (by this time he had moved to another state). When we were talking on the phone he was talking about how he still loved me, how he wanted to be with me again. We met up, I got possessive and needy and was trying to move things along way too fast. He told me not to have any expectations about us as he was leaving for the military (even though on the phone a week earlier he was telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me). We spent time together, were intimate, and he left for the military and told me he never wanted to see me again. My point is, NC DOES work. It does not work if: 1. Your ex is a jerk. 2. If you don't change yourself for the better. I pined and waited for this boy for so long, I did not realize MY self worth. I didn't realize that I deserved better. I should have demanded respect from him. I should have worked on getting my own life instead of waiting around for him. Getting him back was the easy part. The hard part was fixing my self esteem and what went wrong in the relationship. You have to remember to take this NC time for YOU. Be the you that you love, that your ex loves, and getting them back will be easy.
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