ZhaoZilong5

Good for you, and I hope your post is a step towards overcoming anxiety. Do what you think is best for yourself. If you think your family will impede your happiness, then you're not obligated to come out to them. Good luck in your life, and kudos to you for being able to overcome such a bad lot.

Be upfront. If you get rejected, then at least you'll know. Yeah, not being confident is the hard part. A part of it is figuring out how to not care about rejection. It sounds like your ex only sees you as a friend, but you won't actually know until you ask.

I doubt he even visits ENA anymore.

If you were a good boyfriend, then she'll come back. It took one of my exes 2 years, but she didn't really come back. I had actually contacted her to catch up platonically, but it turned out that she had been waiting for me the entire time. Funny, because I was the dumpee. Classic case of grass is greener syndrome with a classic ending: the dumpee (me) practically told her that there was no chance of reconciliation.

Let's try it again. Day #2, though this isn't about healing.

Heh, this thread's probably past its point usefulness for me, but I'm bored, so I'll play anyway...kind of. Umm...day 2. Looks like I'll just post again on Nov 14th. Should be easy enough unless my ex contacts me.

This is one necro'ed thread that I actually enjoy.

Keeping this short. Got assholes apparently stalking my posts and trolling me. Anyway, it feels pretty good. I probably wouldn't take her back unless...let's see...9 more months pass. 2 and a half at the very earliest. Scheduling reasons, nothing more lol. I'm not sure if I feel good because time has passed or if it's because I know her affection's growing. Anyway, she keeps breaking the NC that I initiated, and there's nothing new, interesting, or important to respond to, so there's no urge for me to respond. I responded because I didn't want to feel like a jerk, but whatever lol. Sh

We were together for 10 months. We've been apart for two. She's still figuring out the break-up, but the one clear-cut issue was distance. The conversation lasted an hour. It was light-hearted and fun. Come to think of it, I've always been relaxed during any contact since a week after the BU. She kept apologizing because she felt guilty, but I was just whatever about it. It weirded her out a month ago that I took the break-up well, and she's still surprised that I haven't victimized myself and blamed her because that's what she's been used to with her exes. Nah, I wasn't really eager a

I'm the dumpee. After I went NC, my ex reached out to me, so I responded. She told me her feelings for me were coming back, so I asked if she thought about reconciling. She said no, since she wants to be decisive and stay with the new guy (I didn't know they were dating). I'm going to go back into NC, but I'm wondering since absence made her heart grow fonder, is that going to stop growing now that I reached out, and she knows I still want to reconcile?

Small things probably won't have a permanent effect. There's more than one person out there for you. With that said, the more "wrong" things you do, the more you delay reconciliation assuming there was actually a chance. A longer delay means more time for her/him to find somebody else, rebound or not. From both a dumpee and dumper's perspective, an ex getting mad at me makes me think I need to give them "extra" time than I normally would for that particular person to smooth over the resentment. An ex whose only words from start to finish are swearing and cursing, well...that's permanent

Logically speaking, there are ways to "maximize" the chance of reconciliation. The fact is that there are ways to completely ruin any chance of reconciliation. By not doing any of those things, the chance to reconcile is thus above 0%. Choosing inaction is action within itself. Do you all have to go back to grade school to learn what the concept of an inverse is? Let me state it more simply of those of you who somehow can't understand. I had an ex that I "dumped" that went NC on me. Years later, I wouldn't mind a new, "fun" relationship, but nothing serious. If she had gone psycho b*

Day 7. NC honestly won't do much, because I'm one who looks into reasons and details when figuring things out. With that said, after talking to my best friend, I considered my ex's reasons for dumping me, and I can't figure out how to fix the distance without a lot of time. So I moved on a little more after talking to him. However, now that I'm typing this, I feel somewhat annoyed that she loved me and we made all of these promises, but I guess she didn't love me enough to spend her life with me working through things. It makes me very distrustful of women, because I've been led on 11 t

I envy the lot of you who have family and friends who support you. Maybe not. The only thing that diverted me away from my pain from being dumped for somebody else was the pain of my friends turning on me...abandoning me, the anger in their faces and actions, the disappointment in their words. Such resentment flying at me not because I'm acting based on emotions that stemmed from the BU but because my BU gave me insight on what was finally the right thing for me to do. Now I say...f*ck them, and f*ck everybody else who is disappointed that I threw them under the bus for the high ground. I

What about G.I.G.S. in a LDR? My ex didn't want to move, and instead of talking to me about it, this exact scenario happened. I'm willing to move by the way, but that was stated after the break-up. How likely will she come back if I gave her space for 5 days the first week, and then space for good after the 2nd week? I already feel like I've started to move on, but I'm just curious.