DaveO

hey guys ok, so can someone PLEASE help me out with this no contact rule thing? I'm doing really awful.. I'm more depressed, scared, lonely and sad than i have ever been. I don't even know what to do with myself.. and I keep having these awful thoughts and feelings. But about the contact... How long is it supposed to be before I call her again? Do I have to wait for her to call? I guess It's important to note that I was with her for over 10 months before our first breakup. (she said she needed time and space, things were just too hard with us being together but going to different colleges, and we would work things out when we saw each other again.) It's also only been a week since she really broke it off. But When she does call... what do I do... I really love her, but she's made it extremely clear that we aren't getting back together "atleast not soon" or "not right now" as she likes to say. I've bugged and bugged and bugged her about getting back together and trying to figure out why she left and why she's "interested" or "likes" someone else at her school... but claims that she's not with him and doesn't know what she wants or wants to do.. but her choice is firmly not to be with me.. although she claims to want to be really close friends and "best friends" as she puts it. Plus... If anyone can please please tell me how to stop thinking about her doing sexual things... the things that I used to LOVE doing and getting from her... with this new guy can you please tell me? that's pretty much the only thing left that's driving me crazy because she hasn't denied that she might do those things, but she said that she hasn't before and doesn't want to right now.. and that he has nothing to do with US or our break up and that she's only been into him for about a week... WHAT DO I DO.. my head is spinning!?

hey everyone, well.. let's see where do start. I love my ex. I know it. I truly deeply love her and care for her. We had the most amazing incredible relationship. I think most people would kill for the relationship we had, and I feel so lucky to have had it. Throughout our relationship, my girlfriend was always very open and honest with me. She was always amazingly cute and sweet and wanted to spend all of her time with me. We spent almost every single day (all day) together for 8 months. Our relationship actually began around x-mas time last year... but anyway... soon enough we both went off to college. She gradually became busier and busier and seemed to never have any time for me. She became less and less sweet and most often never really wanted to speak on the phone for more than a few minutes. She didn't have that many friends in high school, but has so many now. We fought more and more because I became needier and needier as I felt her slipping farther and farther away. We broke up once for about a month but I still told her every day that I loved her and needed her. Well, we came home for x-mas break after we had gotten back together about a month earlier (things were somewhat the same during this time except she called very often..) and she dumped me. For good it seems. Her mom has informed me that she is very interested in someone else, but she tells me she is not with him. She doesnt know what she wants to do and has told me that if she is going to do anything with him.. it's not going to be for a long time.. she just wants to be alone. Well that is the exact thing she told me a year ago. She won't give us another chance "yet" (so she says) because "things won't work", or "they are not working" I've been miserable and even thought of ending my life. She knows this. I cannot stop sending her all sorts of text messages and constantly wanting to call her and talk to her. I tell her I love her at the end of each phone convo and she says "i love you too" but very soft and quick and then hangs up... definitely not the same as she used to. This girl wanted to marry me and used to tell everyone she loved me. What do I do? How do I get her back? how do I make her see that we have something so amazing and special and not to give it up?