arizonasun

Well I agree - it does sound like you are off to a good start. Though, I don't have room to talk - my husband and I moved fast, but not without our problems later - I suggest holding off on telling her that you love her. It just seems a bit early. Considering she is shy as well, Let her feel more comfortable with a man that is into all parts of her - not just the sex. Once she starts to open her shell, then I think it might be an appropriate time to say love. (Though that doesn't mean you can't show it).

I was wondering if you could help solve a problem between my wife and myself. We live within close proximity of both my wife's family and my family. Usually on holiday occasions, we alternate every year with where we go and bring our children. This past year though, my father has become sick and I feel the need to be there again for christmas and new year - just in case it is his last. My wife doesn't seem to mind, but my in-laws are complaining about not seeing the children. My wife has offered to bring them over the weekend, but they are just complaining (or so it seems) that half the fun of a holiday is spending it with your family. My wife and I believe we are doing the right thing, I guess we just needed a gut check.

My husband and I are on the site now for the first time. We came accross your message and can't believe the similarities in our own lives. Without going into detail we were where you are now. We got married quickly/young, followed the same path with the children, and realized that we didn't spend enough time up front with each other before taking on all of the additional responsibilities. My husband had an affair. It devistated me and it really tested our marriage. Though he did consider leaving as well (I did) - (my husband wanted me to put that in there) - he and I sought out some professional help and have worked through it. It has been 2 years and though it still comes up every once in a while, we are happy with the choice that we made. My husband can totally relate to your infactuation with this other girl - but he wanted me to tell you just that - she is a girl. She does not do, I am sure, the day to day things that make your life easier that your wife does. It does sound like your wife was/is slightly immature too, but it also sounds like she is worth something to you. Fight for her, fight for your children. In the end, my husband does not regret his choice (I don't). We are stronger because of it. Remember this - life is always changing, it never stays the same. The same goes for people. The things that don't change are the basis of who we are as individuals. You obiously feel very strongly for your wife and seem, according to you, a man who doesn't walk away - who has integrity. This is just one of those life challenges that tests that. I guess if you are as strong as you say (and apparently your wife agrees) you are - your family is worth fighting for. Good luck. And I hope you have as much success as we have.