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She's 32. We met in January.. married in August. I know.. quick.. but really, I do love her and we met with a Pastor, saught pre-marital counseling just to make sure we were on the same page.. and we were really at peace with getting married. I do love her.. I just am no longer sure she loves me. I find that when I communicate with her.. she throws it right back in my face.. she would say.. "well, if you had planned better financially, we wouldn't be in this situation.." or "you told my parents you would take care of me!". I will communicate with her.. I just need to get some indepedent feedback because I know she's going to push back. She's a good person, but I feel as if her heart is being exposed and she doesn't know it.. you can't hide the fact that you don't care for someone... I feel as if that is coming out in her actions, where she knows it or not.

I'm writing this under an assumed name. I'm a 35 year old male who was married August 21, 2004. I'm going back to school for my Masters Degree. My girlfriend, when she heard I was going back for my Masters, was very supportive and we decided to get married. We moved to a new city and it's been all downhill since then. I take Masters level classes (15 credit hours) and I've had to take a full-time position as an engineer (my old career) to pay our bills. She sleeps in every day until 9 and then goes to work at a restaurant for $8 an hour 3-4 days a week. She has put in no effort to get a full-time job. Also, she wanted to be a physical therapist... now she says that dream is dead due to lack of funds (that's b.s., we can get a Federal Loan). Meanwhile, I'm working full-time 3rd shift and going to school full time. She doesn't seem to care that I'm never around and I'm exhausted... absolutely exhausted. This week I said I wanted to cut down my hours.. she asked "Does it get too tough for you by the end of the week" YES! Like she can't tell I'm tired?!!! all the time?? Tells me she simply isn't paying attention.. at all. We had one night together this week, "family night", she decided to cancel it and work to free up another night to hang out with her friend. So, I won't see her this week hardly at all. Starting from Day 1 of the honeymoon, sex is scarce.. lucky if we have it once a week. Such a joke.. she was all over me before we got married.. now.. she is ice cold. I'm beginning to think she simply doesn't love me. I'm beginning to think she got married because it was time to get married for her.. I just happened to be the one she was dating when she wanted to get married. Tonight was the boiling point for me. We have 30 minutes together before I leave for work.. as normal... she would not even stop watching a movie (she's a NetFlix junkie) to talk with me. I then accidentally knocked over her sewing kit (I'm simply exhausted.. a mistake).. and she flipped out. I'm at work now and I just need to run this by people. She thinks I'm absent minded.. maybe I am.. but I think it's because I'm tired and trying to take on too much. I feel as if I'm carrying 99% of the load. I feel as if I have no support. Can I have some advice? Thank you.

My frriend needs help. Which idea do you think is the best... from him.. -------------------------------------------------------- Hi, I'm a man in need of a woman's help (aren't we all?!!). I intend to propose to my girlfriend but I'm having a hard time finalizing the details. Here's what I have so far. I have a crystal wine glass that has "(name), will you marry me?" engraved on it in German (she speaks German as 2nd language). I have 3 options I've been thinking of. Please help me decide! 1) Private Affair in the Home: Cook dinner for her and give her a glass of wine at my apartment over candlelight dinner. Wait until she notices the engraving. 2) Private Affair at Church: Have the Pastor tell her that she left an article at church and she needs to pick it up. When she arrives he tells her it is on the altar. She walks up, translates it, and I'm waiting just behind her for when she turns around with ring in hand. 3) Public Affair at Restaurant: Order wine during dinner and have waiter bring glass to her with wine in it. Wait until she notices the engraving. What do you think? What do you prefer?!!

My brother (age 33) has been dating a nice woman (age 30) for about 2 months. They are deeply attracted to one another and very happy. He is leaving for 2 weeks on vacation. He wants to give her a "promise" ring before he leaves. The ring is nice, valued around $150.00, just a nice humble ring. Is it too early for him to give this too her? When is the appropriate time to give a promise ring? I mean.. they seem to feel they are destined to be engaged, so maybe this is a great step forward.

My friend (a male) has HPV (along with 25% of the population). He had warts show up on his penis about 7 years ago. They were removed and he hasn't seen them since. He wants to tell his girlfriend. Here is what he plans to say.. What do you think? "Sweetie, if you want to be sexually active with me, you are going to have to make sure you have a PAP test at least once a year. You see, 7 years ago a girlfriend of mine, unknowingly gave me HPV. I don't blame her, because she didn't know. But I had a few bumps removed and I have not seen it since then, but the virus is still in my system. The odds of you getting it now, are slim, but there still is a small chance. So, you have to read up about HPV on your end as well. You will have to have a PAP smear at least once a year to make sure you don't have any signs, otherwise, you really won't be affected. If you do have signs, they would be removed via a procedure." I'm sorry guys and gals, but I just can't help but give him advice to wait until she falls in love with him before he even bothers to say anything. They shouldn't have sex before then. Otherwise, the girl he cares for so much may never give him a chance. What is your opinion?

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You aren't playing a game of twister. It's not a game. Positions happen through trust and time. The best position of all time is the heart touching heart, eyes looking into eyes... I think you may be looking at sex as somewhat of a game, for fun. My suggestion is that you put caring first.. the positions will work themselves out through love. I mean.. you DO love him don't you?

Me and my friend have been talking about my brother lately. Here's his story. He's 36, never been married. He makes $100k per year as an Engineer He lives in a 1 bedroom apartment in downtown Chicago He has friends, but not a lot of friends He's good looking and is casually dating He asked a girl to marry him when he lived in Wisconsin 7 years ago, but she turned him down.. it just doesn't seem he has gotten over it. Should I leave him alone or get on his case? I mean, c'mon, it's like he's just given up on life. Maybe some girls would think it's attractive to be 36 and single, but I have a hard time with it as his sister.

Please remember that the guy may not want one in the first place. I don't give them because they are demeaning. My boyfriend agrees. Make sure your boyfriend wants you to give him one.

I caught an STD 8 years ago (venerial warts). It has not come back since then, but it is still in my system. I don't believe in sex before marriage. At what part of my relationship with this man should I tell him I have an STD? A) Beginning: It's too late now, but should I have told him earlier? B) Now: While we are growing in our relationship C) Love Time: When we both confess our love for each other D) Engagement: During the engagement E) Never What do you think?!

Big Dilemma Here: First date. The guy doesn't own a car because he lives downtown and it's insane to own a car, just a bad idea. It's a first date. She lives 5 miles away and owns a car because there is parking. Cost is not a factor.. Should he rent a car for the date or just do what he always does and use a taxi to get around? Girls, what do you think?!!! I mean.. in the long run.. if it works out.. he won't have a car available, so I'm wondering if she should just get use to using Taxi's with this guy. Is this even a big deal or am I making a big deal out of nothing?!!

It was tulips. An assortment of colors. She loved them.

My friend has spoken to a guy just three times in passing. She expressed interest in a date after he asked her and he showed up at her door with flowers for the first date! Now, I'm thinking that's a bit pushy and.. well.. I won't say what she said. What do you think of this?! I'll tell you what she said in a bit. Shouldn't flowers be for a more romantic date.. like at the very least.. the 2nd?!

Here's the deal: You will KNOW when you have a REAL orgasm. It will feel great from head to toe. Here's my question: Why is it that you can't get yourself (masterbate) to one? You may either need to relax more or whatever, but you should be able to get yourself there. How old are you? I have found that girls in their early 20's and older have no problem getting there. Are you still in your teens? The G-Spot (some consider it a myth) is not a separate orgasm. It's a place inside of you closer to the front of your body, that if touched, will give you extreme pleasure. Have your lover angle his penis towards your belly.. you will probably find it then.

Okay. He slept over last evening and I thought about it more. I actually dreamt about it but that's a different story. Last night about 2AM I woke up and lifted up the covers and took a look at his toe again. I spent a long time looking at it, trying to get use to it. I thought about your posts... am I being petty? It IS just a toe afterall. I looked at the toe some more, even the little tooth thing coming out of it. Well, this morning we had a long discussion.. we just finished... I guess I've been so paranoid about the whole thing because I've never told him that I had a nose job a few years back. Little does he know that our children may have large and gnarly noses. So, any physical deformities bother me. That's why I was so unforgiving. So, we'll have kids with big noses and 6 toes! Whoopie!!