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  1. I've been in a fantastic relationship going on 6 months. He and I are completely compatable and totally in love with one another. We are very open with one another and communicate our feelings and desires. While we are both dealing with a great amount of stress and time restraints, we still find time each and everyday to see one another, even if just for a few moments. Here in lies the problem. He is unhappy living here. He moved her a few years ago for a second chance with is ex fiancee, that time has since come and gone. We were an accident of meetings, neither of us looking for something this serious. He is ready to go back home, and few states from our current local. As much as he wants me to go with him, he has doubts. His ex fiancee picked up her life and moved states away to be with him once before. She transfered school, and eventually they were engaged. They hurt each other a great deal when they split. They too were very much in love, but her unhappiness of moving to be with him brought on too much resentment and bitterness. After they split, he wanted another shot, so he moved here, where she was. That time came and things did not work out for them. So again, the wounds opened and bleed all over again. Now, here we are, in a similar situation, and he is scared to death of being hurt that way again. He and his ex fiancee were a long distance relationship for about a year, so they really did not have much time to adjust to one another being in one anothers everyday lives. He and I, however, know what it is like to spend virtually everyday together. When school and work don't compound our time, we spend the night at one anothers home, cook each other dinner, help one another clean up, play with each others animals, and just spend QUALITY time together. Except for the past few weeks - again too much going on - the only time we aren't together - spare time we spend with our own friends (don't want to neglect anyone!!! ) - is when we are at our designated places in the day. I can't say I have ever been happier. I want to try going to his home and live there. I am not the type of person to hold resentment and bitterness against someone for a decision I have made. If I don't like his home, I can always come home, and atleast I will know we gave it a shot. He can't decide if he is willing to put his heart out on the line again. I can see him withdrawling, especially as the time for a decision to be made is nearing. He has told me that he loves me, and he shows that, but as each week continues to go by, he says it less. He still shows it in other ways, but I miss the verbal ques. I am not ready to give up on us yet, and I have spoken to him about all of this - a week ago. i don't want to pressure him in any way in this decision. I am tryin got not worry, and give him the space he needs, but I don't know when a good time will be to bring it up again. For my own sanity, I need some answers. I don't know what to do at this point. Its like we are both ignoring the big white elephant sitting on our laps! I've been dealing with this for about 4 weeks now, and I just can't keep staying quiet about it. I've given him my heart, i took a chance - I had thought he had too, but maybe I was wrong... Any ideas? Suggestions as to what I should do, what I should think? *sigh*
  2. My experiences in dating after my "real relationship" breakup have been full of ups and downs, as most people would know. After a 4 month relationship, of neither he nor I being completely happy with who each other is, we called it quits. In the past month or so, we have run into each other a few times at various locations and decided to try things on again. Things seemed to be going well, for the most part, but moving so incredibly fast again. Though we are only seeing each other in a casual way, it's almost as though we have picked up right where we left off, and the continueing arguments and hurt feelings have begun once again. In the beinging of "getting back together" things were fun and being almost childish, but things became intimate and now things are all confused again. I am doing the cute little things I did when we were together, but feel as though i am being suckered in again, while he goes off and galavants around. I know I ought to simply speak to him, but he becomes so possesive of me. He is quick to assume I am out with other men when I am at the library. I am not sure if he is still hurt from the orginal breakup? I can't tell if I love the person he is, or if he loves me. When we are together, and nothing is interrupting us, life is wonderful, but when work, family, friends and school begin to cloud the picture, everything backfires and the squabbling begins. I fear I am afraid to be alone. I can tell him anything, for the most part. I don't know if this is something I should continue with or just leave it in the past.....
  3. My first love, it's been over for a year, and I am still unsure if I would want to go back with him. I still love him and think of him everyday, and miss him terribly, but seeing what he has become in the past year, I wonder if he was that way all along....
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