LOST IN EMOTION

Thank you so much for how kind you have been. I have posted on other sites and for the most part got blasted. I have good moments where I start to get excited because at least they will be only 6 hours from me. But them I have my really bad moments where I realize they probably arent in there own beds and i hate that!!!!! they dont deserve this......... Again, thank you!!!!!!

ok- so i called the police in Ill and explain the situation- FINALLY his family tells the police he moved to California. So then I decide to call his old job (its a grocery store and his sister works in a different dept) and ask to speak with him without telling them who I am. The guy there says he doesnt work there. I act surprised and say "really?!?! do you know where he went?" The guy says, "san diego" he then asks if i want to be transferred to his sister. I hung up. I also decided that I will start with sending certified letters to his old address to him, his sister, and his brother. I will, in a extremely nice way, ask for the address so i can know my kids are safe. That way when i get an attorney, i can at least show i was trying to find out where my boys are and nobody would answer. does that sound like a good idea??? everyone else says i should file in Ill now for custody because he obviously wont travel all the way back for a hearing but the kids are still legal residence of that state. I am so sad. I have never gone this long without talking to my boys. all i want is to know they are safe and warm. Robin~

So if i find out where he is then what can i do about getting my kids???? i was reading that it doesnt matter who has custody-if you conceal the childs wereabouts from the other parent then its illegal. does anyone know about that????

ok so here is the extended information needed. I agreed to let the kids stay with him because they are 16 and 13 year old boys who didnt want to leave there friends! He was in Ill and I moved to nevada to take care of my dying mother. (i now know it wasnt a good idea-i didnt realize this would happen) I ended up filing for divorce here in nevada representing myself. I put in the paperwork about getting custody. I had him served and he defaulted. When it came time for the judge to sign the decree they kicked back saying I couldnt put custody issues in because the kids never lived in nevada. I refiled an ammended petition and had him reserved which he also ignored and defaulted. When I went in front of the judge for my divorce he said he would grant the divorce but no custody since the kids never lived here. He granted the divorce but told me no body had legal custody of the kids. There wasnt even visitation ordered. word for word I had to write on the decee "The courts have no jurisdiction for custody or visitation issues because children reside in Ill." He also has never filed for custody in Ill. And now.........well, read the first post and that will tell you what has happened. My ex has never been thrilled with the divorce but when I talked to him last week he seemed friendly. We discussed the boys coming out here for summer break, even told me it was good to talk to me again. I have called the boys every single day they have been apart including sending money clothes and presents. I have not ignored my boys. I am so worried now. I dont want to get my ex in trouble but I NEED to know where my boys are and that they are safe!!! Please help!!!!!

My ex husband was living in Ill. I live in Nevada. The kids were with him in Ill. I got the divorce here in nevada but since the kids didnt live here no custody was ever given. Our divorce papers say- courts have no jurisdiction. Last thursday night I called to talk to them and my ex's family (whom he was staying with) told me they had a fight and he packed up everything and and left with the kids. Nobody would tell me where they went and they hung up on me. The following morning I had the police go out there and his family said he was moving to california. its now saturday and I still havent heard a word from them. I am beyond worried....he does not know anyone in california so I have no idea where he would take the boys. I know he could never get an apartment cause his credit is so bad. I am so worried. What should I do next. I need to know if my boys are safe but I dont know what to do or who to call. Remember, nobody has legal custody of them. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!! Robin