badboyjoe5050

yeah I think you guys are right, if I find it does cause more pain, then I will definitely quite all contact. BUt I think I will just do the cards on birthdays and Holidays for a while until I move on, I'll tell you guys waht the past few days, I am feeling better and better, time IS the only healer and keeping busy .......... Thanks to everyone who read and responded!!

Yeah I think your right! I might send hime a card on his b-day, but no call or visit. I think that It would be tough staying in contact and then finding things out about her about new guy friends she has and stuff, dont you think...... so maybe just cards on holidays or calling and going to visit!!

Wow great question! As for me I gained alot: I learned so much from my ex its not even funny, I learned what kind of person I was. I was too comfotable with my life, going to school part time, living at home wit parents still , spending hundreds on my car and having no money in the bank at the end of the week. I learned that school needs to be one of the top priorites, my car shouldn't be the best car in the world, I should have money saved up for a house that we were supposed to move in to when we would have gotten married. My ex without telling me any of this taught me all of this within 2 weeks of seperation. I now have no bills at all, $1000 in the bank saved up and ready for my last year in college, with all my classes. She woke me up out of my comfort zone!!!!! I tell everyone I meet now that " her breaking up with me was the best, and worst thing that ever happened to me"!!!!!!

Well my ex-just recently broke up with me from a 2 year relationship, because she was unhappy and things just weren't the same for her anymore. Well its been 3 weeks now and the pain has progressively went down but I will always have a place for her in my heart. Anyways her whole family: father, mother, sisters, cousins, aunts and uncle all LOVED ME TO DEATH. NOw should I stay in contatct over time with them ....slowly letting go, or call them once a week or something just to see how they are doing... not her! Or do you think that I would never get FULLY over her if they invite me places when she is not around. Today her little 12 year old sister invited me on her feild trip with her class to the zoo as a chaperone. I went and had a great time! Was that ok to go, would you consider that part of the healing process as keeping busy. Or do you guys/girls think that its only going to cause problems in the end. Her father also invited me over for his birtyhdat party on the 24th of December, I haven't seen her or talked to her in about a week and plan not to until she calls. I don't want to go over when she is there and I know when she is there because I know her work schedule. So bascially the question is should I or shouldn't I contact the parents at all or just special occasions, remember I will know she wont be home if I call and I wont be talking to her or seeing her for as long as I know!!! Good idea or bad idea????

Sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you. I am a guy and when guys start going on date with other girls thats when you have to tell your self that you are better than that. YOu do deserve better! You don't deserve to be second! I know how you feel because my ex is putting me through the same exact thing your going through. One day you'll realize, all of a sudden!!!! Its over between us, its not going to work out, and I will move on!! Then you'll feel like a wait off your shoulders. If you know you have done all you can to save the relationship and it still dont work, Realize that it hurts now but tommarow is a different day!!!

Well as for me, we all know what it feels like to lose someone, PAINFUL. She knows what she lost and I am sure she is telling you things like she has changed and she loves you the most of all the guys she has met. I would think she has changed. After my girlfriend broke up with me from a 2 year relationship, I was crushed and did everything to get her back. THe 2 1/2 weeks that we have been away now, I have changed bigtime into a better person. Everyone things that its the person who broke up with us is at fault..... Its not, we have to realize that it was both our faults. Either it was not enough communication or just saying stupid little things that hurt after awhile until one of us got fet up. Basically what I am trying to say is you know how you felt when she left you, and you know feelings have changed between you two , but if she honestly cries over you and really seems sincer, MAYBE you should be friends and over time tell her that maybe you two can get back together. Your heart has a harder case around it now, you have control and I bet it feels good. If you do date her, now you know that you can be the one to break it off this time........... but what she did was wrong and make her realize that. I would tell her to write you a 500 word e-mail why you should take her back after what she has done to you......... then tell us what happens and keep us posted!!!

holy crap, yeah listen to Disillusioned, of he can make it so can you, It seems he had it really rough. Way to go man! See, if we just hang in there then maybe there is something good that can come out of all this pain!!

I know what you are going to also. I also receentlt got left by my once thought future wife also. It feels like losing my wife and kids because thats what I wanted us to be and have, I am 25 and she was 20, Everone tells you "its going to be ok" but we think thats not going to be ok! I too want my ex-girlfriend back really really really bad, but then I started thinking, if she really loved me then she would try to make it work. Girls are weird man, I have those really tough days too, I try to work alot and keep myself busy like everyone is saying. It does work, but you gotta look at it this way, do you really want your girlfriend back after being with another man? I know it sucks and it seems like it would be easier to end it all but WE ARE MEN, AND WE ARE THE STRONGER ONES, you gotta keep your head up keep reading everyone elses stories that are going threw the same thing you are.... If I can deal with it, I know you can. Gotta be positive and say things cant get any worse..... Don't call and don't see her like everone else says and she will slowly and I mean slowly fade away. We can do it together Man, Lets hang in there ok.....

Well my girlfriend just brloke up with me a couple of weeks ago also! The toughest thing in the world to me too. All I can tell you is the best thing for me was to make one last call and let everything off youf chest, when I say that, I mean tell her "How exactly did we do to come to this?" get the answer, then tell her "thanks for the time we spent together, I appreciated all the love that you gave me, and that you respect your wishes on whatever she needs to do with her life, be supportive and tell her hopefully in the future things will work out between you two, lastly tell her that you will always love her and bee there for her if she needs you". THen stop calling her! Telling her all of this and finding out where the realationship went wrong will KIND OF give you closure. Now you know that if she wants you back, its all up to her, I haven't called my ex in about 4 days, its tough but I just keep in there waiting for the time to pass. When the time is right for you get back together she call and its your decision on what to do next. YOu don't even need to answer your phone if she calls, be strong, and hang in there. Just keep this in mind..... if its meant to be then she call back, if not let her go!!!