ertman420

that someone will eventually come along (probably when you least expect it) that will make your life complete. Trust me... when life is at its worst and you think things cant get any more horrible... something good will happen and you will begin to believe that good things can happen... and they WILL happen. Just have the patience to persevere and keep on lving your life. You will find someone... just give it some time. Everything will work itself out.

In your situation, if he has broken up with you and left you for another woman, you should not be letting him kiss you, etc. Since he has another girlfriend, he should be at her house, shouldn't he? If he really wants you back, he will ditch the other girl completely and work hard to do whatever it takes to get you back. Don't go back to him so easily, or else he will know that whenever he meets another girl he wants to hook up with, he can just ditch you, have fun with the new girl, and that you will be just waiting there ready to take him back whenever he feels like it. That is not being fair to yourself. Ask him flat out if he wants to get back with you, or if he wants to continue seeing this other girl. Don't accept non-definitive answers from him. Lay it out for him: it's a clear choice; me or the other girl. Somebody said it right- you're letting him have his cake and eat it too.

with the morrigan in that going out and casually dating will help you. I had a very similar situation in my recent past with someone I had very intense feelings for. When we broke up, she had virtually no explanation for why she was doing it. I have found that when they don't even give you a reason or they won't talk to you about the breakup, they typically have found someone else. Either that, or she isn't worth one iota of your respect. What you should focus on is you... go out and hang out with some new women that you have never met before. Ask your friends to hook you up with new people and GO OUT! When my ex left me hanging, I focused on her so much for so long that I missed out on a lot of my life. All I would do is sit there and ask myself (and anybody that would listen) Why did she break up with me? Is there something wrong with me? Did I do something to deserve this? I can tell you from experience.... QUIT asking yourself these questions. If she doesn't even have enough respect for you to give you a good explanation (Hell, she didn't even give you the courtesy of breaking up with you to your face) then you shouldn't even worry about her. The best thing you can do is stop worrying about her and start your search for a new woman.

OK- I finally hooked up with this girl I've liked for awhile but never really knew. Since then, we have hung out every chance we could (we live in different cities 1 hour apart). In fact, since I got Christmas week off of work, I have stayed at her house, even though my parents' house is less than 20 minutes away. She invited me to stay at her place all week, and even brought me into her bed, but we have barely kissed since that first time we hooked up. She seems to be into me, as we have been going out on what could only be called dates all week. She has been working all week, and its almost like we've got some kinda routine in the morning. I cant figure out why we haven't hooked up again... she initiated it the first time, so I waited and didn't make a move this time. I think maybe she was waiting for me to do something, but I have such bad girl radar, she may have just been being a good friend to let me stay with her. I don't know. We've already made plans to spend New Year's together, but I need to know what she's thinking ASAP. I know, you're probably going to tell me to ask her, but that is not an option. Any other ideas on how to fish for her feelings? Can you sleep in a bed with someone for a week if you didnt have any feelings for them? Please help. I am confused.

but I think it is entirely based on whether or not you want to have a realtionship (or even a friendship) with him in the future. If you still care about your ex, and think you might want to maintain a friendship or something more, than drop him a line and let him know where you'll be. You could even do something very informal like send him a 'I'm moving, here's my new address' card or something.

I hung out with Katie as friends for months before we got together. She dumped her fiance to be with me. We were together for a year and now she is with another guy. I have tried everything to forget about her and absolutely nothing works. I still fall asleep thinking of her, I dream about her EVERY night and I wake up thinking about her. I have never had a connection with another person so perfect and unique as our relationship. She's with another guy and I moved about 45 minutes away from her but I want her back. Every fiber in my being is screaming for me to go and get her back, but I don't even know where to begin. We have barely spoken since last summer and I made it a point while trying to forget her to not have any contact with her whatsoever for several months. I think I really ***ed up this time and I am thinking about writing her a letter and maybe burning a CD for her for Christmas. Think this is a good idea? Or anyone have another idea for me to get back in touch with her? PLEASE HELP

if there's one thing I have learned from my experiences with relationships, its that you have to act on whatever it is that your heart is telling you. If you have feelings for this friend, you just have to decide if the potential for what you might have is worth more than the potential disaster your friendship might become. If you think this guy might be something special, ask him how he feels and let him know that you want more than a friendship.