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  1. JaimeNLuv
    Well sweetie, all I can tell you is LEAVE!!!!! I have been there and it only gets worse. The stress you are enduring WILL harm your baby in the long run. I am speaking to you from experience. You need to go to a battered womans shelter and they will help you.... do not feel that you have no where to go. You must leave for the sake of yourself and your child. I am a single mom and life improves and it goes on.
  2. JaimeNLuv
    Well...thanks for all the advice. It is definitely not because of long distance and neither is it because of another girl. It is because we both were too stressed out in our personal lives to have the energy to look at each other to make it into a relationship. Neither of us were emotionally ready for a relationship and neither of us communicated what exactly we wanted so we each made assumptions without asking. I just want a companion, nothing serious and so did he except we didn't tell each other. Just kind of danced around it and assumed that we were "together".
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    Yes slider, I have heard of space and I am giving it to the guy I was seeing and by rekindling chemistry, I want to know if it is possible after not seeing someone for a few months and to try it again if it can be rekindled. Thanks Beec, you give good advice...... I appreciate it. I don't know if you remember my situation but he emailed me wanting to see me when he comes back from WA...so I wasn't sure if it can happen again or not, I figure I can try at least if not it doesn't matter because I have a couple in the reserve
  4. JaimeNLuv
    How do you rekindle chemistry after it has faded after stress and issues? Is it possible?
  5. JaimeNLuv
    I am off work today ..gotta go to the doctor... but anyways some thoughts have come to my mind and just thought I would share them with you: 1. Chemistry between 2 people. You may or may not have it right away but if you get along great then, hey give it a chance cause if you walk away too quickly... than you could be missing out on the love of your life. I know that chemistry changes between people when current things are going on in your life.... stress, money, just life so chemistry is also something that builds up. 2. Friends after break up? It is possible. It can also rekindle because some of the strongest relationships began as friends. I know it has happened to me. Many times. Give it a chance. 3. No contact rule? Follow it. Give it at least 2 weeks to a month with no contact before trying to iniate contact again. Do it "friendly" 4. They moved on? I tell you this from experience. I broke up with a guy because we didn't click. I dated other men and all I could think about was the ex and he also did the same. Do not get too distraught over it. You have to date other people so that you can figure out what you want from a partner. Do not hang on like a leash with hopes and dreams. 5. If you love something let it go, because if they love you or care about you they will come back. That is true. It is still happening to me. Men I went out on a date with once are still calling me after a year! Just some thought. Any comments or additions.. pls add! Thanks
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    Plus it is a bad sign on her character that although she has a bf that she gave her numebr to you.. what does that tell you about what she will do if you and her were together? Gvive her number to other men again and leave you when the grass became greener? Think about that. A person shows signs early on and we turn a blind eye to the obvious
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    I was explained in depth about the cat and mouse game and it is true..... the mouse gets scared into its hole and won't come out until the cat is gone. Vice versa and it is true. You will drive them insane when you cut off contact with that person.
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    I was given advice once, well not too long ago... but the cat and mouse game works.. really does.. it is hard. Stop initiating contact and dont be paranoid... just build up your confidence in yourself, Jason and your relationship....
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    As for why they end, I don't know. Maybe it is boredom. That is a great thought. I will think on that for a while and get back to you. I like to put things out there for complete understanding and maybe getting a whole feel of everything
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    Exactly Mar, I don't know how many times I have felt like a fool for saying it but hey, what can ya do? To this day, there are many people I wished I had told them how I felt and I still wish I could run into them jsut once and pour my heart out.. hey, I am about to call Montel Williams.. hee hee and make it an "I wished I would have told you" show! Just do it! What is the worst that can happen?? She is your friend, she sure won't hate you she may feel different if she doesn't reciprocate the feeling. You never know!!!
  11. JaimeNLuv
    I would tell him that when you both have had enough time to sort things out and have had enough space, lets talk. Other than that I like it. Tell him, you would like to start over again as friends first and move slowly back into things if it is possible. keep me updated. I wrote pretty much the same thing
  12. JaimeNLuv
    Nothing wrong with it.... I have dated all races and I think that in this day and age interracial dating is no longer "taboo" unless you are in some podunk town. BE confident
  13. JaimeNLuv
    Perfectly said Caliboy... sometimes in a relationship you forget about the rest of the world and then when it is over you have to start fresh cause everybody is gone
  14. JaimeNLuv
    Well, I say tell her. You never know when her calling will be and you never know what tomorrow may bring and you will kick yourself for not doing it. I have worn my heart on my sleeve many a time and I don't regret it even if it has been broken. The guy I was seeing just came back from Iraq in July and he will never be the same and the fact that I was there for him was all the comfort he had to look forward to.
  15. JaimeNLuv
    I know you are right. Basically I had replied that I understand and that I accept the friendship offer. Than I waited a couple of days and wrote a long letter explaining my feelings and that if he wanted to try again in a few months that is fine but yes, it would be best if we began as friends and move at that pace slowly. If not that is fine and that I appreciated the time that we had and the friendship that we had together. That was a week ago and I haven't messaged or anything since. I still have his birthday gift and I am just thinking about waiting about a month to give it to him. I bought it about 3 weeks before this happened. I figure I will just swing by and tell him I was just in the neighborhood and wanted to drop it off. No chit chat and just be like I am in a hurry so I can read his body language. If he gives me the signs like "oh god why is she here?" than I will keep on moving on. I have been dating. It just seems weird. As for what we had, it may have been short lived but we were very close and he had planned on introducing me to his father. I already met his sisters and all of his friends. I felt very intimidated by his family, he has his masters and working towards a PhD I think, his father is a retired Doctor and his sister is an attorney. I have very little education although I am going back to college to finish up my nursing degree...I am a single mom. He knew about the pregnancy before we met and was really excited to meet her.
  16. JaimeNLuv
    exactly I know what you mean. I am also talking about before love. There are guys that were trying to date me and they just annoyed me with "too much" and then the ones that are kond of nonchalant got my attention. It is like a chess game. Basically. I am just speaking from my own feelings and my own way of thinking. I liek a challenge.
  17. JaimeNLuv
    well women are like men... want what they can't have. In my case, usually I can not stand a man that is constantly calling and chasing me... but when they reject me!!!! OOOOOHHH I am the cat. Heck look at my posts.. I can't handle it. so yes, in my case, cat and mouse game works. as for other women, they like all the attention. For me, when they stop showing me attention I get a little .. hmm how shall we say? Offended? then I vye for it again and then back and forth it goes. Keeps my attention.
  18. JaimeNLuv
    Here is what I would do... I am working on the exact (well almost)... write him a letter of apology but DO NOT SOUND DESPERATE just basically apologize, tell him to think about it and that you will be on in your own life and if he wants to discuss it then fine if not than fine... good luck
  19. JaimeNLuv
    that is not enough to know whether or not she is just shy or uninterested. Talk to her when she doesn't have to go right away and then read her body language
  20. JaimeNLuv
    exactly what she said. Hey let me tell you.... it takes practice and it is always weird with a new person and you have to get used to them and just kind of "learn each other"
  21. JaimeNLuv
    Ok I am a little flustered. As some of you know, I was dating a guy when out of the blue he tells me that he was frustrated about chemistry and said we could be friends. Well, I emailed him about a plan that we had made a week before Thanksgiving. He replied "Thanks cut I can't I received my military orders so I am gone for 2 weeks. I apologize for not answering your emails lately but I think it is for the best. I hope you understand" Did he say that because I was argumentative and he didn't want to argue? Or is it because he wants nothing to do with me and is ignoring me?
  22. JaimeNLuv
    Why do guys say that want to be friends after everything is going sooo good? I am so confused. I was dating this man and we get along great... never a problem, common interests and all of a sudden he says I am a great woman, with many many great qualities and I deserve someone who will give me all of their attention and appreciation but unfortunately he is not that man. Why do they do that? I swear I found my soulmate. what can I do to win him?
  23. JaimeNLuv
    Hi... I need some advice on this: Hi I have been dating a guy since September. However we have been penpals since March ( he was in Iraq) during that time I had a baby and my life has been upside down just as his is too. We were getting along great and everything was perfect.. there was passion,,,, no sex but passion but he felt we were moving too fast. The last month things have fizzled. He tells me he has a profile on link removed but he wants to see how things go with us but he doesn't want to close off any other possibilities. Well, one day I get really annoyed (a little too emotional) and I basically told him that if he was no longer interested to tell me. He replied that he had wanted to see how things go but now thinks that we can be friends because he doesn't see a romantic future. I think he is wrong (my intuition tells me) because we are exactly the same. too many things in common. I think after 9 months, there is something and that are stress levels are too high and we should have waited. I want to win his interest back and apologize but I don't know what to say or do. He thinks I had people emailing hin (which I didn't I am not that immature) I have never felt like this over anybody (I am 26) but my gut instincts tell me no to let him go... what does he mean by friends?
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