davekenshin

Hey all...thanks for your advices.. i really appreciate it. i think i'll pass the doctor first, since it's not really painful. i've trimmed the side of my nail (where the pressure was) and if it gets worse, i won't hesistate to see a doctor.. i really hate this. drats. i suppose fear of pain is the main reason i fear the doctor.*sigh* but...thanks all..*bow*

hi all..i've just realised i've got an in growing nail in my left toe i'm so very depressed! well, some of you might recommend seeing a doctor, but just to let you know, i had a similar experience 2 years ago, where my RIGHT toe had an in growing nail that required surgery. i'm feeling pretty traumatised about it as i know how it's like to undergo this similar surgery again, only on my other toe. *sigh* i wonder why we have toes with nails in the first place.. i can't sleep at night, and i fear that it would get only worst, but i'm terrified in the thought of seeing a doctor! HELP!

Hey hey. yeah, i can see life's pretty hard on you. i don't know how it's like to be having those disorders you have, but rest assured; psychiatrist are people who are very well trained in helping people. just trust them. try to listen to music. you heard of Tommy Emmanuel? one of the greatest guitarist Down Under? his music is very soothing for the soul. try to reduce on adrenaline music. maybe you could channel every hurt you have to playing and composing music. (or perhaps even into poems/different kinds of art) Van Goff (i forgot how to spell his name) had a very severe mental disorder, but he used it to his advantage, through art. the same goes for Ernest Hemingway; who wrote so many books. also try asking your doctor if there are any 'circles' which you could join, to release every burden and frustration you carry. groups like that have a high rate of healing people emotionally and spiritually, because you'll realise that you're not alone, and that there are others who you can count on. as for your boyfriend, well...i don't know. but do take a step at a time. don't see everything and deal with them all at once. it's not healthy. achieve and conquer your problems by dividing them into smaller problems, so you can slove them easily. "divide and conquer" works.. if you keep forgetting your medication, try to put up a notice somewhere where you'd see and remind you, or you could always use an alarm clock to help you remember your medication. you know, in psychology, there was an experiment conducted on dogs; there was this controlled group of dogs, and the experimented ones. the experimented dogs were kept in a cage where there was no chance of escaping, and they were administered with shocks, and guess what? eventually these dogs didn't even try to escape even though the cage was released. they accepted the shocks, although they could escape. Where as those dogs in the controlled group, were put in a cage where they could escape, and when they were shocked, they ran out of the cage. this is a theory of what is called, "learnt self-helplessness". it's all in the mind, my dear. Make friends, how? you might ask. well, it's a bit like business. you got to invest your TRUST in others, but not too much..bit by bit...until you're confident with them,BUT ALWAYS remember...choose your friends wisely. you cannot deny the fact there's always evil people around...but also, there are angelic ones around... Learn to live again, and find the passion and joys in life. I'll pray to God to keep you protected.

Well, i'm actually having the same problem here.. i really like this girl, and i know she's single, but i don't know if she is interested in me, as i am in her. yes, it's easy to say, "be honest with your feelings to her", and other advices, but surely there must be other ways of courting her right? i mean, i'm not the kind who would wanna get her flowers or anything like that, because i feel like it's as though you're "buying" her. maybe it's a paranoid way of thinking...but then again...i believe people who are in my shoes are equally paranoid and have the right to think so. but i think, i should take it easy, go with the flow, and just win her trust first. but shit man..it's so freaky scary, and i can't even think properly as i write when i write about her. the fear of rejection really sucks. i guess maybe that's why we chicken out in asking women out.