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Alright here's my problem.... PLEASE HELP ME OUT At the time my girlfriend and I had been going out for about a month And we decided to go to a party. I had a little too much to drink, and so my girlfriend didn't want to hang around me, because she thought I was being annoying—I don't blame her. So during the party I was off talking to my friend, and she with hers. At the party there was a 24 year old military police guy, who showed up at a high school party, b/c he was friends with one of the guys there. Anyways… to cut the story short, my friend ended up driving me home, and I left my girlfriend with a couple of her friends to home with. The next day I found out that that 24 year old ended up talking advantage of my girlfriend who was also drunk, and had unprotected sex with her in his car. She spoke to an officer at the school, and went to a hospital the next day, but for whatever reason she didn't want to press charges. Some of my friends were telling me that she probably wanted it. But I chose to believe my girlfriend, b/c I found out that that 24 year old is known to take advantage of girls like that. It's now a year later and I still can't forget that night. I sometimes blame my self for leaving my girlfriend behind at the party. Now I just get these images in my head of that guy taking advantage of my girlfriend who I am still currently with. Please tell me what, if anything, I can do to try to get over this and move on and continue to date my girlfriend. PLEASE GIVE ME UR ADVICE [/b]

Alright its a bit of a complicated matter, so try to keep up. I've been goin out with my girlfriend for 10 months now. Ever since day 1 i could tell that her ex still wanted her, he even told me that he likes using her for sex, and hes been trying to break us up ever since. At first she i was ok with him hanging out with our group of friends and stuff at school b/c i thought they were over, but then i find out that they had been seein each other behind my back, but my g/f said she was tryin to get back at me for something i did earlier. Anyways...my g/f and I ended up breakin up the night before prom over this guy. The whold relationship had been mest up from the bedgining...i can right a whole book about it. But we're so far itno out relationship now, and its a lot better then it was before. We agreed to put that behind us and start fresh, and everything has been fine till now. Her ex who had moved to a different province couple of months ago has been trying to call her up again b./c hes coming back down for the holidays and im guessing hes feelin horney, he prob. doesnt think we're still together, and she hasn't taken any of his calls. My girlfried told me that she never wants to see him or talk to him again b/c of what he does to our relationship, which we have been working so hard to keep...and its been great. I wana know should i still call him up and tell him to back of or let things be?