I didn't send the letter but I accidentally bumped into him and it was great. We agreed this is not goodbye but we needed to work out our problems. I followed the a get your ex back type ebook and asked him for lunch to "go out on a high." He said no and we had a chat instead and he asked to see me next week. I know we won't live together and I happy about that as I love him but need to love myself before we can make things work. Keep up no contact guys if you feel it's the right thing to do as things will work out either way.