exodus_fx

Hi There, I know exactly what you mean and are going through. I have and was going through what you are feeling right now. The best answer to your question is not; what you should do, rather what you should not do. For you to have any sort of friendship with your ex-girlfriend, you need to break away from her and live your life. Enjoy yourself and recover from everything that has happened. I'm not saying forget, more just to be yourself. Only then can you be friends, otherwise there will always be a question mark hanging over whatever relationship you have with her. Don't forget, she left you, so it is her that has to prove to you that she is worth taking her back. Whatever happens it is her that has to do the work not you. I still think about my last lady a lot, but I don't let it stop me being who I am, or having fun. Keep your options open, have fun with your friends, make new friends, enjoy life. You never know you could meet someone new.

Hi there, I am from the UK, and I am sort of in the situation you describe. The first and probably the biggest thing is COMMUNICATE about everything and anything. Large or small is does not matter. The second thing I will say is that DON'T hold her back, give her the space and time she will need adapt to her changing environments. The third thing is give her as much love, attention and affection as she needs and that you can give. But DON'T over do it. She will go through changes as will you, just Be there to support and help as and when she needs it. I know it's not always possible but be prepared to accept the worst. It may never come to that but just in-case. If you want to talk about it further email me. email removed regards

Cheers for that mate. She has never been unfaithful to me but I mainly think it is down to her age and in-experience. But one other problem I have is that she is tending to listen to other people. This really started after she had gone out with some "ex" friends of mine, when she came back she was slighly different. I eventually found out that the had been telling her to go live her life and not be tied down. Anyway, all she does now it come home from work, go to the local pub and stay up late smoking pot with them. I can see that they are using her and her place to get what they want. Deep down she is more mature than her age. Even her mum has told her that she has made a big mistake with me. I have chilled off and now just keep a watchful eye on her, but at a distance. It hurts but i am sitting back and hoping. Still enjoying myself though. Chat to me if you like via mail : email removed Thanks again. Any more advice would be still appreciated. Exodus

Hi all. Been with my girlfriend for just over 2 yrs. Everything was great until a couple of weeks ago, when after waking up together one morning she decided that she needed a break. As the day went on it went from a brief time out to a complete split. To say I was heartbroken doesn't even come close. I have to admit I have not been perfect, but I have never argued, or assaulted her in any way, physically or mentally, and I have never been dis-loyal in any form. I have been giving 100+% to her and up until the split she was too. Never do enough for her. I have spoken to and talked to her quite a few times and each time she seems to be holding back her feelings for me. When asked about the reasons she said that "the relationship got boring". I can't understand this seeing that we were always going out to the pub, movies, meals, bowling, etc. I can see and feel that her feelings and love are still there, just that's she's locking them away. Never have I put my foot down and stopped her doing anything. I understand about control and forcing someone to do something, which is why I have never tried to control, just support where needed. She is only 18, and I understand that it is the time in her life that she wants to go off and do things. She is now with a guy that is the complete opposite to me in looks and style. I know the quailties I have and doubt as to whether he has them. I'm kind, caring, thoughtful, understanding, too nice to everyone as I get told. Am I wrong for keeping in touch? Will she come back? How can I get her back? Is this break for good? Any advice would be appreciated.