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If a guy ask a girl out does she think he is too aggressive and desperate? If both sexes think like that we'll die out pretty quickly dont you think?

Is it "inappropriate"? or is it the fear of rejection? just where does the convention come from? Its not written in the bible.

why does the guy always have to do the asking? what about equal opportunities?

he family problems meant she couldn't give any time to you. But somehow she had enough time for your mutual friend... maybe he's dumped her and now she wants you back. its up to you

i'm just reflecting what i read on the boards

Seems like in 8 out of 10 postings about breakups here, the women is usually the one that has a new relationship before the guys do. Is there a reason why women can move on quicker? Do they just heal much quicker or is it just easier for them to get dates as they don't need to be as proactive whereas a guy has to make an effort?

i agree there can be too much truth. I'm sure RJ probably sees loads of girls in the street that he fantasise about getting it on with. trust me, i'm a guy. It gets worst in the summer... if he told you about every time he sees a hot looking girl the conversation will never end. as long as you dont act on it it's OK.

sounds like you are moving on quite well so stay that way. maybe she's calling as she can't stand the thought of you being OK without her. If she really cared about you then she should let go and let you get on with healing.

knew i would get the wisecracks

just a quick survey for both guys and gals.

Seems like its always the women who jumps straight into a new relationship after a break up. I think some failed relationships are like cancer. you have to cut it out otherwise it festers and grows. avoid all contact. If she wants you back she'll call (thats if you want her back). learn to think and act like a women joins some clubs and meet new women. it'll give you some confidence back.

it seems like its usually the women who moves on first after a break-up. Maybe you should too. meeting someone new is a good way to get over an ex. i don't mean rushing into anything serious straight away. i broke up just recently and while i was wallowing at home, i found out my ex was already going out to dance classes, which is basically speed dating with music and clubbing. which is probably the right thing to do. it's not easy as you being the guy have to be proactive in initiating things and your confidence is probably low now. but give it a try.

Interesting to hear some views from the other side. It is not one persons's job ask someone out, at least in THEORY but in REALITY it's mostly the guys. ask a sample male and females how many date they've initiated and the males would come up much higher. getting interests from guys in clubs may not be the best way but for every 5 jerks there may be one nice guy. All the while, its a nice ego boost to get the attention. for a guy every rejection chips away at your confidence (i know we should just brush it off but unless you are a robot it does have an effect.) Not what you need after a break up. anyway hope i don't sound bitter i accept that's just the way the world is.

women i know seem to get dates so easily, like when one ends they're in another after 2-3 weeks. how often do the average women get asked out? once a week? after a break up it seems the women is always first to get back on the horse. someone said that after a break up if a women wants a date she just have to go to a club and someone will chat her up. For a guy he has to make the first move and after a break up his confidence is shot and women sense that and stay away. does anyone agree?