I hear you. I've been a frequent "watcher" of this website, but have never really posted many times. Unfortunately, I'm going through a similar situation...with my ex-fiance...she keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Despite her breaking the engagement, I stuck with her throughout the past year, asking for no more lies. However, she continued to lie to her friends, family and me. I am convinced this all leads back to upbringing, wanted to please her parents, always afraid of disappointment, etc. Anyway, my point being, people have to WANT to change. It's their life, and you have yours. You can only control yours, and what people are part of it (and what they represent). Perhaps this boss represents something missing from her upbringing? Control and guidence,...who knows. And, it doesn't really matter. You have the point exactly-- control what you can. Your life. Just make sure she doesn't keep controlling yours like her boss is controlling her. Free yourself. I'm not free yet, but each day gets a bit easier.