happyone

I have been separated from my ex for 5 months now, we have conversed on occasion which has gone well. I thought we had moved on to being friends, yet we were to get together over a week ago, had planned it a week in advance, and nothing. A mutual friend said she was perhaps listenening to others opinions, she was under the impression we were doing ok as friends and had thought the same as me. I have not contacted my ex since that time, but am inevetiably feeling confused as in all of our conversations she had indicated she really wanted to be good friends hang out and get together, Do I just walk away or do I call and ask "friends or what"

I am in a bit of a "flux" state. I had broken up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago, have moved on with my life. We have conversed on the phone on occasion. She is now interested in being friends, perhaps good friends. I know that she is not seeing anyone at present, yet am unsure if this will lead to other things. I do miss alot of what we had together, yet she has shared much about herself in the conversations we have had. On occasion she has made sexual reference to certain things. I just want to know(looking for advice) if she is really clear on just being friends or does she want more?

If she is that interesting to you, and she is not making any advances then perhaps the thought is to make a move and take the risk, if not you will always be in a state of unknowing, thereforeeee it is ultimately up to you. And if it doesn't work out, then at least you know you made the effort to see if there is anything between you.

I was in a relationship for two years, we have been separated on two other occasions tempararily, yet had reconciled. Currently we are sperated for three months now. We are both afraid as have been in past relationships with others where we both have been hurt. I had ended the realtionship in august as things were becoming "bizarre", I had wanted to talk, yet she was consumed in a friends seperation with her lover, using more substances,stressed out and i felt an emotional shift. I sensed a lot of avoidance, resentment, was unable to communicate with her on a non defensive level on both of our parts. We now still get together and talk, we have discussed reconciling, she wants to think about it, yet she has not said what her thoughts on it really are. How do I approach this matter, or am I just stuck and not really letting go? I truly do love her, we have been through many stressors, and many good times. How much time do I give for her answer? We have talked since this discussion on reconciling yet it has never been discussed.