Josima

Some people tend to get addicted to things more than others. There is a gene that is in charge of our tendency for addictions. If you only smoke the weed once ot twice a week, in a party or with a friend, you're fine. My boyfriend smokes every day, a few times day and it has ruined out relationship many times. I see him lose grasp over life, can't concentrate, dropping classes, being broke, spending money on weed when he has no money for food... And the sex drive, lord, boys, I am a sexy girl, and he just wants to chill, or play a computer game, or just fall a sleep. I am close again to that point of ending it, hoping I'll have the strength to make it final this time. After 2 years, I should have learnt I can't change him. He has to change for himself, and I can't wait forever. So...don't let it ruin your life.

A man who wouldn't have sex with you. I would be too curious not to investigate and find out the truth. Either he really was a cheater, and then you better off without him, or there is another issue. However, in any way, it is not normal and is not OK for a couple, before even marriage, in love, not to be sexually active. You had every reason to wonder and suspect. Did you ever ask him what was the reason for his avoidance? What was his answer?

Does he smoke dope? I had the same problem with my boyfriend and that was the reason. Other reason can be very low self esteem or depression.