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My thoughts exactly... thanks for pretty much making me feel confident that my observations are somewhat correct. Now how do I just go about approaching the subject to him maturily and in hopes that we can still pursue a friendship, just with little contact.

I feel the same way. However...I used to be the kind of girl that would get pissed off over the littlest things when my ex of 5 years were together. After we broke up I didn't want to be like that anymore. So thats why i let things slide..cause if it was another guy i would have kicked him to the ditch by now. But I still don't understand why Im attached with him. Buh...hopefully its a phase. But thanks again for your advice...i know it will help me in the long run.

It's all suggestions that I have myself came to the conclusions of. Im just so scared of losing him as a friend. We have never really even been friends when u come to think of it...if the sex element wasn't there I could say we were. Just now I feel the sex just killed it. We did go out for breakfest 2 weeks ago at a restaurant...but that was only cause we rented a hotel room the night before. Man he is cheap though...we sat down he opened the menu and said...yeah we got to keep this under 20 bucks. I first got mad but then I said to myself at least he is comfortable with me to say that cause another girl would have ditched him. Then I felt that to him maybe I wasn't worth anything. However were both university students and its really hard to budget. And now im making excuses for him. Im scared after telling him what I have to say (which I know thats what I need to do cause I can't go on like it's nothing) he'll be scared to even talk to me. He is so quiet and layback that I have no clue how he would respond. I think it's what frightens me the most. I think whatever he has to say will hurt me more then when him and I broke up. Do men feel anything for someone who they have sex with on an ongoing basis? Or are they just robots?

Thanks for your reply... The advice u have given me I have known all along. Just I was looking for maybe another way to go about it. Its strange for me...a part of me wants to be with him and a part of me remembers how things were when we were together. It was quite casual...cafes and that was pretty much it. I would be dissappointed if he chose his friends over me or didn't seem to pay any attention to me. But I never said anything cause i just wanted to avoid confrontation. I guess so did he. He did show he cared about me but was never "romantic"...he even told me when we broke up that he doesn't know how to treat a girl. He is a late bloomer...he is 22 and had his first kiss at 20. Ahh...just by typing this I think its all a lost cause. I think im really scared...after we broke up we got closer. But then I think back when we were together and I don't want to go back to that. Ahh...now im confused...I think i need to shake him to death so he can just tell me how he really feels.

Yup...thats the scenario I have been stuck with for the past 6 months now. I met this guy. We dated for about 6 months...very casual...never fought. No I love u's, nothing of that nature. Im not sure if we were afraid to say it or if we just never felt it at the time. I think it was more of a physical attraction more then anything. I knew he was going to break up with me toward the end it was just a matter of him saying it. I think I was to scared to cause I knew deep down inside i had feelings for him but i knew he wasn't ready so i just concealed it. So he did break it off cause he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship...and deep down inside i knew that too. He wanted to remain friends and so we did. 2 weeks later...I am reaquainted with a guy that I crushed over in highschool. Well...u know the story...fell both in love...then bam! over! (lasted 2 months) For some reason it hurt me so much...I thought at the time I was in love with him but i know it was just lust. But suprisingly my ex was there to help me through it. I knew he was kind of pissed off when he found out about him ... however our relationship when we were together wasn't that serious. Well since then him and I have gotten really close...for about 2-3 months we would see eachother 2 times a week. Our relationship got better...we got closer after we broke up. Everyone was saying "just get back together" it seems as if u are anyways. We decided to be friends with benefits and now its so weird cause I think I am in love with him. Just I have been scared to come out and say it. Then for about 2 weeks him and I didn't call or talk to eachother...it was like a game we played to see who could hold out the most...but the game was never planned we just knew that what the other was thinking. He told me that he was kind of concerned and wandered if i was mad at him for something and was trying to figure out why. I know I seem like I'm analyzing but thats what we women do. As for the guy that i dated after him I think the only reason why I did that was to avoid mourning over the break up with the guy im in love with now. Im not sure if i was in love with him when we were together but i think that with all the time and physical intamicy we have I think he just grew on me and I'm not sure how he feels. He is the most laid back person I know. So its been 1 year (6 months together) that its been like this...for 2 months things seem great. Then he avoids me for awhile .. then everything is back to normal again. We have sex alot...and i'm praying to god thats not why he still keeps contact with me. We do have it everytime we see eachother... however we talk all the time about everything. He recently told me that his mother and friends think will get back together and he says that he can see me as a long term gf in the future. Would a guy say that "just because" or do u think he means it? What I know of him...he is very laid back..doesn't talk about his feelings... is still in the stage "i want to hang out with friends" anti-social and doesn't pick up. Also has low self esteem and doesn't pick up. I can't type anymore cause my mind is working on overload..if u need any clarification just let me know? Thanks