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sounds to me like he was avoiding the hug for some reason. I don't know why, doesn't mean he doesn't like you, maybe he felt awkward or maybe it's something you don't know about. I don't know I didn't witness it so it's kinda hard to give good input. Maybe you should ask him, (I'm a guy) if I did that and you asked me about it, I'd tell you what was up cause there was a reason he was avoiding the hug. if he says he just felt like a handshake, I think it's a lie. If he does lie though, don't feel bad because he may feel uncomfortable. I suggest you ask him though.

You didn't say much about your relationship, but what I can tell you is that you will feel if he likes you or not. really, you know right now if he does or not. you are in doubt with yourself. why dont you ask him ? I'm sure he'd give you a straight up answer and then you'll know for sure. trust your 6th sense, it's there for a reason.

Hey, I'm really sorry this has happened to you because I have been there before just like many other people. the best advice I can give you is to try and get yourself to feel better and get your mind off of her. do you really want to be with someone who doesn't show your love for you ? no, you should be with someone who treats you right and should expect no less. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and I'm sure it would only be a matter of time before you found someone else. You CAN get through this you just have to give it time because you will feel depressed and there is nothing that can avoid that. remember the world is going to keep on spinning and you shouldn't let yourself down like this. You need to show her that you are better than that. I suggest you focus and plan out what to do to become successful person, make her feel like she's losing something big. I know you love her but if you dont feel it back, you are not getting anywhere. work at it, if you are always positive and keep your head up, there should be no reason why she wouldn't be with you. good luck and I hope things work out for you.

well, I guess I didn't say everything about it and I am leaving out some details that may make a difference. When I went there after deployment, I went a day earlier than I was supposed to and I drove from San Diego to Salt Lake. As soon as I got there, my wife had plans to go clubing but wouldn't let me go with her. it wasn't just her sister though, it was a girls night out. Yet one of the girls was taking her boyfriend so it wasn't that I had a problem with the girls night out, just that I thought something was going on and it didn't seem like a girls night out. Not only that she doesn't hang out with her sister very much until recently, they used to hate each other and all of the sudden they are buddies. I don't have a problem with that, it's just that her sister is friends with the guy she's seeing. She also said I have been too controlling, she doesnt give specific details but says I wouldn't let her go clubing and go to a concert with some friends. tonight is her deadline. she agreed to tell me today wether she wants to be with me or not but I don't know wether that will make a difference or not since I will probably never have the same trust with her as before. she will tell me tonight by 6pm what she wants to do and I'll post it tonight so everyone knows what's going on. Also this weekend (Halloween weekend) I'm going to fly over there to pick up my car, I know she wont be able to take it in court (or at least that's what I told her) because the vehicle's titile is under my Mom's name yet the loan is out under my name and my Mom hasn't singed the title yet so I might wait until this thing is over so I can keep the car and not have to split it. Please keep giving me some feedback, I still want to know what you guys think and I was asked if I still loved her. And to tell you the truth, I do but I don't have much hope for our relationship since I will always be more watchful over her and never have the same trust as we did before.

ok... I'm only 19, my wife is 18. we got married about a year and a half ago. I'm also on active duty and just got back from deployment and I relocated to california. My son has been in the hospital for awhile (he just received a liver transplant, which if you want to know he's doing great). I've been waiting a couple of months so that she can move to California with me but she was hesitating for some reason. My thoughts were that she was having an affair. I went there for two weeks and she completely changed, she didn't spend much time with me and it felt like to me that she didnt love me as much as I used to. I knew something was up. she started talking to one of her guy friends, I told her I didn't feel comfortable with this guy because I knew he licked her and I told her not to talk to him. this was about a month ago and she had been talking to him for a couple of months. a couple of days ago, I got it out of her that she has feelings for someone else. Yesterday she admitted to me that it was him. She told me she loved me and that she loves him as well a couple of days ago. Yesterday she hung out with him, and she told me that they decided to be just friends and she was still thinking about "us". I'm thinking the only way to deal with this is divorce. She also admitted to me that they had kissed once, she says they never had sex and that they are just friends now. she's lied to me so much lately that I don't know wether to believe her or not. I'm heart broken and I feel like crap and she's been using up the money on our account, buying meals for two, a motel charge, lots of gas (over 100$ so far this month and going) and yet she seems to have excuses for everyone of them. I dont know if she's telling the truth or not. She staying with her family for now and I am going there next weekend. What should I do about this ? if you need more details, just ask! any help would be great