well, I guess I didn't say everything about it and I am leaving out some details that may make a difference. When I went there after deployment, I went a day earlier than I was supposed to and I drove from San Diego to Salt Lake. As soon as I got there, my wife had plans to go clubing but wouldn't let me go with her. it wasn't just her sister though, it was a girls night out. Yet one of the girls was taking her boyfriend so it wasn't that I had a problem with the girls night out, just that I thought something was going on and it didn't seem like a girls night out. Not only that she doesn't hang out with her sister very much until recently, they used to hate each other and all of the sudden they are buddies. I don't have a problem with that, it's just that her sister is friends with the guy she's seeing.
She also said I have been too controlling, she doesnt give specific details but says I wouldn't let her go clubing and go to a concert with some friends. tonight is her deadline. she agreed to tell me today wether she wants to be with me or not but I don't know wether that will make a difference or not since I will probably never have the same trust with her as before. she will tell me tonight by 6pm what she wants to do and I'll post it tonight so everyone knows what's going on.
Also this weekend (Halloween weekend) I'm going to fly over there to pick up my car, I know she wont be able to take it in court (or at least that's what I told her) because the vehicle's titile is under my Mom's name yet the loan is out under my name and my Mom hasn't singed the title yet so I might wait until this thing is over so I can keep the car and not have to split it.
Please keep giving me some feedback, I still want to know what you guys think and I was asked if I still loved her. And to tell you the truth, I do but I don't have much hope for our relationship since I will always be more watchful over her and never have the same trust as we did before.