Confused Newlywed

Hi everyone I have a complex problem and not sure which way to turn. Here goes...I'm at a loss as to what to do next.... I have been married a few months and my husband and I are deeply in love. We hate being apart but something was bothering my husband about a fortnight ago and he would not tell me what it was. I asked a few times and he said it was ok......then I thought he would tell me when he is ready. I left it at that. He never told me what was bothering him. He was quiet and not his usual self. 2 weeks yesterday my world fell apart! I was contacted by a woman who told me that my husband had slept with her the week before - the week he had been very quiet. We met this woman about 2 weeks before that and I did not like her from the word go. What she said to me and said to my husband were 2 different things. She has a small circle of friends so we had her over for dinner and coffee one night. I spoke with my husband straightaway and he denied sleeping with her. I guess my problem is now that I thought I trusted him but find I always have a niggle in the back of my mind every time he is a bit late or does not return my call straightaway at work or even gets a call and I dont know who it is.......is it her again....i hate this feeling.....and i keep saying to myself could he do that to me? I am going round in circles at moment so would love someone out there to help me out....I am in despair sometimes.......he says he loves me dearly I hate this woman for breaking such a wonderful trusting relationship by even suggesting that he slept with her.....where do i go from here? I love him so much that even if he did sleep with her I dont know that I could throw him out.....how can i build that trust again.....should i ask him again if he slept with her....so many questions and so few answers..... Help me please.

Thank you for your thoughts. I come from a different angle in that I recently married a man who has a 14 year old son and we have 50% shared care with his mother. This arrangement was in place well before I came along. I cannot begin to imagine how it must feel for his mum to have me in her son's life and also for her exhusband to have remarried. I am very conscious of her feelings and have made a point of being friends with my step son....definitely not his mother. I have made this very clear with him and I hope he can learn some useful skills from me that can compliment what his mother has already taught him. He has a mother who cares for him deeplyand I will never stand in the way of his relationship with his mum. I get on well with his mother but we will never be best buddies. I do find my step son manipulative and find this very difficult at times and what you say is right...it is not an easy road to travel.......

I have never been on a forum like this and hope that you will read this message and I will find some people in the same boat as me. Also be great to have some unbiased opinions not opinions from friends who mean well but often offend unknowingly. I have been married for several months after discovering my true soulmate in life. I have never been happier but am finding that now the wedding is over that I have been feeling down and confused. You see, I have never been married and just 14 months ago I met a wonderful man. We knew we were meant to be together from the moment we met - sounds corny, but those of you who have had the same feeling will know what I am talking about. He is absolutely wonderful and loves me so much. We were married within 12 months. Both families are extremely happy with our match and say both of us have never looked happier. Now that all the excitement is over, I feel like I have no purpose in life...no direction....i don't know why.... He has a 14 year old son and often i feel left out when we are doing things together....he has a broad range of friends and i lost my few friends when i married as they were bitter divorcees who hate men.....get my drift....dont know what to do..... Can anyone offer some words of advice please. Thanks Confused

I am 42 and recently got married. This is my first marriage and ....no there is nothing wrong with me...i guess i just never met anyone who I wanted to spend my life. I settled for nothing but the best. I know who I am and had dealt with the past heartbreaks and challenges life threw me. I was sure all the good men had been taken...thankfully I was wrong and as the years went by I knew he was out there somewhere. I think if you marry when you are older you know exactly what you want in a man and have learnt how to communicate to your man exactly what you want. I am lucky as I have found the man I have been dreaming about since I was a little girl. I went to my friends weddings in my early 20's then watched them drift away following their own paths. Being single in a married circle was too complicated back then. It is very difficult meeting men and when you reach your forties, you have the issues of marrying divorcees with children. A whole new set of challenges however I would not swap my husband for anything. I met my husband through the internet and we knew on our first date where we would end up and I have never been happier. Hope this gives you hope.....