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Don't know how to refer to one of my threads so here is copy/paste of what's going on with me: 2 year relationship. He dumped me because he said that if he did not want to move in with me now he never would (he is 30). He did want to move in with me for a while and then changed his mind. We had a good relationship, but it was very slow paced, he travelled a lot for work so it was difficult to gain momentum and have serious conversations. I went NC straight away, removed from FB, MSN,Skype, cell phone. 1 month post BU he called my sister to ask how I was (they are not good friends but they used to work together) and said that it was hard, and he thought about me a lot, but he had had to make a long term decision. 2 months post BU he wrote my sister to ask if there was any ''serious reason'' she had removed him from her friends. She just answered that she did what she hoped I would have done for her and there are no hard feelings not to worry. 2 1/2 months post BU he calls her to give his sympathies for the passing of a friend of hers that he also knew for work. 3 1/2 months post BU THIS MORNING I get an email from him saying that he read in the paper that my work union had obtained some major salary raises, He says it made him happy, I deserve it, he hopes I am happy, and he hopes the newspaper article is accurate. And he hopes I have a good week. SHOULD I REPLY ? if so, what should I reply ? I just did not feel like it today. If I do reply I am thinking maybe just a happy face ? I have been feeling better the last week or two. I feel like I can live with or without him. But if he ever wanted to reconcile somewhere down the road I would like to know. I am just so hell bent on NC from me that I don't know if responding at all is a good idea. And I don't want to wait to long before I reply... So I broke no contact after 3 1/2 months and replied this: ''Yes thanK you ! I am really happy '' I kind of figured I would rather reply something nonchalant rather than not reply at all. On the off chance that he is starting to regret...

Sorry missed the beginning of the challenge... Day 90 I think. Removed him from fb, msn, skype, email , cell phone on day one. 1 month post BU he called my sister to ask how I was that he thought about me a lot but that he had to make a long term decision at the time (BTW he is not close to my sister). I was already weepy, but that made me cry consistently for two days.And overanalyse the meaning of the phonecall of course. 2 month post BU he wrote my sister to ask if there was any ''serious'' reason she had removed him from her friends on FBook.That gave me some relief, because I was CERTAIN it had something to do with me, thought about it a lot than cried a lot when I realised it was neither here nor there. 2 1/2 months post BU he called my sister to give his sympathies for the passing of someone they both knew (it was odd). That gave me more relief, and I did not cry, I am just maybe getting used to having indirest news I guess. I have never contacted in any shape way or form since the BU. Have no news since 2 weeks and feel significantly improved (it's still a struggle though). Have been doing cardio at the gym (totally new to me) for the last 4 weeks and it really really helps. For the last 24-48 hours have been thinking that maybe he was not so great after all and don't know if I would take him back. Mostly worried if I will genuinely be excited about anything again. Starting to hope that he won't contact me for fear of being screwed up