nickim

I know where your coming from I was in the same boat, my x boyfriend and I were together 7 1/2 years and we still talk when he calls but he was mean and hateful and it is alot easier not talking to him but he calls and then I talk, we bought a new home 2 years ago this months and then he cheated on me, with a married tramp and denies it all, I have cell phone bills of his with calls to her over 153 times a month and credit card charges to hotel rooms 20 minutes from our home, trust me I feel your pain but there is always someone else out there, it doesnt feel like it now but there is something you learned from that relationship that will make the next one better. Smile and good luck!!!

I wrote earlier about my x of 7 1/2 years cheating on my with "a friend" was is married. Iam letting go slowly, he is supposably dating already (only been apert for 3 months) and I havent been able to "move on " as he puts it, is there something wrong with me, why is it so easy for him and I still cry all the time. I love him so much but know we could never work through this one because hes a cheat and 2 he really seems to hate me he never calls and has told me I treated him horrible for the whole relationship, but I did everything for him, what do I do ? Where do I go from here? Do I try to work it out or do I just let him and my new home go, Im so confussed.

No one is worth how did you say it bus a cap in him, no one. To hear you talk like that is stupid! You will find someone else that wont mess with your heart like that, she doesnt seem like so good a girl, when you love someone no matter what someone elses says or you talk about would let you kiss another.

I think the truth is told when people are drunk, its easier then. I heard it all before but my advice is to move on while the moving is good, it will hurt but she doesnt sound like a trust worthy person, not one to share with mom.

Thats what I use to think too, until he cheated on me for 1 yr with his so called friend who by the way is married. (see my did he or didnt he to see what I mean )

Stop it NOW!!!! There is no reason for him not to stop this, trust me it goes and snowballs from the friends thing!!!!(read my post did he or didnt he and you will see what I mean) His parents should understand. He needs to make a choice you or her, its early enough for you to get out before the stakes get to high, this just friend thing is a crock she will keep pushing and pushing, trust me it has happened to me! I just wish it had happened when we were 6 months instead of 7 1/2 years and a new home later!!! I thought keep your friends close but your enimes closer but Im not sure I believe that anymore.

I dont think it will help, if you read my post you will see what I mean( did he or didnt he). Time heals all Im sure of that, but seeing that person with all the feelsing you still have just keeps you re-living that pain, we have friends together after 7 1/2 years mostly all our friends are together and thats hard but make new friends, that way you've got your own life outside the break up world but dont forget about the old keep in touch but avoid the her times, out of sight out of mind, that seems to help it along faster, by all means miss her and remember the good times thats just part of the healing process, but distance will do 2 thing help you move on or make the heart grow fonder, distancing yourself can be good if you want her back or you dont.

Trust me it gets easier, it doesnt seem like it will but it does. Read my post its called did he or didnt he, then you will see my problem. We were together for 7 1/2 years and have been apart for 2 months and I still cry everyday and it still hurts like I cant even say, but there is always someone else out there who is better and will treat you better, it hurts this much now because you werent ready to let go these seem to be the hard break ups and the longest, but I believe that if you 2 split he wasnt your soul mate. Feel free to e mail me if you want to!! I lost 72 lbs in 1 month I didnt east for like 3 weeks if I did I got sick, I couldnt sleep didnt want to go anywhere, but once you act like you dont care everyone says thats when they want you back, I havent reached that act yet, but soon will.

I was with my X for 7 1/2 years we bought a new home together and I thought we were happy until...I found out about his so called friend. The 1st thing, he told me he was going with 16 people from work to Las Vegas the next day after he was there he called to say hi I asked him to name the guys that had gone with him he said UM ME, he was sharing the room with 3 girls. He got back and kissed up but a year later we came unglued. These 3 girls were coming to my house when I was out of town to party, this caused us to fight and argue, then he started going out without me all the time to hang out with these people, he strated lying and not coming home when he said. I found hotel room charges and his cell phone bills, placing over 153 calls a month to 1 of the girls, who is married. When I started to question his new group of friends I got answers of well we all suspected it but have never seen anything. One of the girls told me she had busted them following each other from a hotel on the hill, yes it turns out to be the same one the charges came from the same one I called and the lady said hes a good customer in here all the time. I talked to the married ladies husband(mind you we all hung out on the rare times he took me with him and her husband would go) and he thought so too, I even read him a email she wrote to my boyfriend stating "I love you and am excited about the new situation in our lives" They both swear they are only friends and her husband has stayed I moved to my grandmas house, and it has been horrible. He calls and we fight. I think he has cheated and he swears he hasnt. He dosent want me back because I yelled and fought with him all the time is his excuse, she calls and says mean hurtful things to me and when I tell him he says she wouldnt do that. But now hes yelling at me all the time and I'm just trying to be a friend. He says hes already dating someone and has slept with people and Im crushed, but I dont know why, he cheated I left Im not sure why I try to talk to him and be there for him, was I really in the wrong????

I know how you feel, although I wasnt married to him we were together for 7 1/2 years, we bought a new home together and I loved him with all my heart. I am a single mother and he had been around my son since he was 3. I found an email from her to him saying that she didnt know when he was gonna get on line next but she just wanted to tell him she loved him and she was excited about the new situation in their lives, and he denied it said I dont know why she would say that.I found cell phone bills with (on an average) 153 calls a month to her cell phone, and the catch is she is married!! I found hotel room charges on the credit card bills, and yes they both deny it. She is suppose to be just his friend and even came to our home and he would take me out around them although he seemed different toward me, we stopped having sex, he lied to me and went to Las Vegas with her and 2 other girls then called to tell me he was the only guy there sharring a room with them, but I still stayed, I thought it would get better he would change. I left him, all his friends told me that they have all suspected it but have never seen anything, except one girl she couaght them following each other from a hotel on top of the hill, bid co inky dinky same hotel the charges were from!! I love him still with all my heart I have never loved someone so much in my life (besides my son) but once a cheat always a cheat, it is the single hardest thing I will ever do in my life and it hurts everyday, but he will never change. We still talk if thats what you call it most of our conversations end in mean hurtful things he tells me he's dating and has even screwed this other girl, and I cry and cry we've only been apart for 3 months, I moved home to my grandmas and he has my home, my dream in life, he screwed me out of it too. This married lady calls me all the time and tells me things about them 2 and when I tell him he says he doesn't believe me and I could go on and on but I know your pain but like I said before once a cheat always a cheat, he wants his cake and eat it to, I went through the same things for the last 1 1/2 in my relationship and he changed, so I thought , it just postponed the pain, I think you should get out now and save your heart from the long run.