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Okay, I have to share this with everyone and I need as much advice and thought on this situation as possible because I can't get it off my mind. There is this girl that I have worked with for the past couple years during college and I have always been attracted to her. She is the exact girl that any guy would want. She is beautiful on the inside and out, is lots of fun, and can always make you laugh. There is just one problem, she has a boyfriend and they have been together for a couple of years and are great together. He is actually a great guy, and has become a friend of mine. So, before I knew him, I was really attracted to this girl, and since the summer, I had really fallin in love with her. Then, this past August, her boyfriend started working with us as well and now I felt I could never flirt with her anymore. You see, when we were at work, it was as if I could feel that she liked me too, but she could never tell anyone. Well, after a couple of months with him working there, I still had this love for her, but I just tried to accept the fact that they were never going to break up and so I tried to move on and find other girls. Well, three nights ago, her, I, and some other friends went out to a club and danced and stuff. Her boyfriend was out of town, but I didn't think anything of it. As we were dancing, she started telling me stuff that I couldn't believe. She told me that since this past summer she has spent nights waking up and crying because she kept thinking of me and trying to figure out why she thought of me and why I couldn't be happy. She then preceded to tell me that she loved me and always has becasue we have so much fun together. I was completely shocked becasue I was happy to find out that she felt the same way, but at the same time, I was just as sad because now my feelings have come back really strong and everytime I see her, I want to grab her and everytime I am not with her I can't stop thinking about her. Well, she still loves her boyfriend as well and she doesn't know how she can love two people at the same time. She told me she hasn't told anyone else and she felt good to tell me. Also, that night, she came back and I was ready to walk her home, but she wanted to stay in my room and talk all night and cuddle. So, we did that and only that. I was one of the best nights I have had in a long time because I am really in love with her and just don't know what to do about this situation. Should I tell someone or just let it play out, or what? I need as much advice and thought on the situation as possible. How or why do you think she loves both of us and what do you think will happen...PLEASE HELP!!

do you think emailing her about my problem with her is best, or do you think I should talk to her over the phone or in person about this?

Alright, here is the deal... I met this girl and we went out exactly two weeks ago. We had a great time and even kissed at the end of the night. We had so much in common, and it was so fun. Later that week, Thursday, I went over to her house and watched a movie and we cuddled during and after the movie. It was great as well. But then, I haven't seen her since then and it will be two weeks this Thursday. I have talked to her over the phone a few times, but that is it, and I have called her everytime. So, I finally got to talking to a mutual friend today, and she told me that she had saw her ex-boyfriend the night that her and I went out to eat and that freaked her out. I really didn't think about it that much at the time when she saw her because she said it was her ex boyfriend. But, then my friend told me that she slept with him last week and that she has been dealing with him since the last time we talked. I don't know what to do anymore. I am completely confused. One week goes great, like we have something going, and then, all of the sudden, it stops and she is back talking to her ex. Why did she not just tell me instead of making me wonder what was going on? Should I call her or confront her in person about this situation, because it really pisses me off. Even when we went out, she said she was not a girl that played games, that if she did not like someone, she would just tell them. Well pardon me, but what the hell is she doing with me? Seems like a game to me...I just want as much advice I can get on what I should do about this situation. I know a lot of you are probably thinking that I should just forget about her, but we had such a great time and have so much in common it is unbelievable. I just wish I could understand a woman better. Please help!!!

but what if she doesn't call? I really think this girl and I have so much in common, that if I don't pursue it, than I have made a big mistake. So, do you think i should give a certain amount of days before I wait for her to call or what?

Okay, I met this girl about three weeks ago, and we went out and hung out a couple of times last week. Everything seemed to be going great, and we even cuddled and kissed. We have so much in common that I thought this was going to be great. But, this past week, I gave it a couple days to see if she would call, and she didn't. On Wednesday, I called and we talked for about 10 minutes and she said she would probably call me on Thursday, but she didn't. So, today, I gave her a call, and we talked for a couple of minutes and then I said I would call her later this evening. About 7pm, I called her and left her a message, but got no call back. I don't know what is up. At first, I thought she was having a great time with me, but now, all of the sudden, it is as if she doesn't want anything to do with me. I don't know what to do anymore. Should I wait for her to call me, or should I keep pressing and figure out what is going on? Do you think she is scared of a relationship with me because she knows I am a great guy (she said that before) and that she is not ready for that or what? I could really use all the help and advice I can get. The more the merrier. Please help!!!

Ok, here is my situation. Two weeks ago, I met this girl, so I asked her on a date and we went a exactly a week ago. We went out to eat and to a movie, and we had great conversation. At the end of the night, I walked her to her apartment door, and we kissed. I was so happy, becasue I felt like I had finally met someone that I had so much in common with and that I really enjoyed. As the week went by, I made her a couple cds from some music she enjoyed, and I left a rose on her windowshield of her car. She woke up Thursday morning and found it there. Later that evening, I got a call saying she loved the rose, that it made her day, and that she wanted me to come over and watch a movie with her. So, that night, Thursday, I went over there, and we cuddled and watched a movie. At the end of the night, she was tired, so I cuddled and played with her hair to put her to sleep. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and left. Saturday night, I called her, but she never called me back, and then Sunday, I called her and we talked for about five minutes, but it seemed like I was bothering her. She said she had another call and asked if she could call back in a couple minutes and I said fine. But, she never called back, and that is where we are right now. I am very confused because I thought we were having a great time, and then this weekend roles around and I don't even hear from her. I know she had a friend up this past weekend, but I feel if someone is interested in you, they would call just to say hello every now and then. Today is Tuesday and I still haven't heard from her, so tomorrow would be three days since I have talked to her. Should I call her tomorrow and see why she didn't call and ask her out to get together tonight or something, or should I find out why she has been avoiding the situation all of the sudden? I wish I knew, but I just can't seem to understand woman. One minute, it seems as if everything is good and then the next minute, it is like that last minute never happened. I don't want to seem like I am pressing to much, so should I keep calling her if she ignores me until I can get to the bottom of this, or should I just sit around and wait for her to call me? I am just afraid that if I do that, I will never hear from her. Something is fishy and I don't even know why. She just seemed so interested at one point, and then the next, she just acted like I got on her nerves, and I don't know why. Can somebody please help....the more responses, the better I feel and can understand, especially from a woman's point of view.

This girl and I have been talking for the last couple of weeks. Everytime we talk, it seems as if we click very well, but everytime I want to get together with her on a one to one level, she kind of shys away from the idea. She will agree at first, but then when I ask her if she wants to go out tomorrow night or something, she usually makes up an excuse like she has homework or something. But, she always wants to hang out if it is her and her friends with me. I think there is something, because she knows I like her, but she always returns all my phone calls, and she always wants to hang out when she has time, but just with her friends too. So I am kind of confused. Do you think she is just scared to be with me alone because she is afraid that something might happen, or do you think she only likes me on the friend level but is to nice of a person to tell me? What should my next move be? I talked to her last night, but I know she has a lot of tests this week, so I don't know what I should do nest. I really need help...girls, give me your insight because you girls know best.

Ok, here is the story...it might be a little long, but I really need help from a woman's perspective, so bare with me. A couple of weeks ago, I started talking to this girl. The first night we went out, I invited her and her roommate to meet up with a couple of my friends so it would not feel to awkward. We hung out all night and got along really well. Two nights later, I called her and we talked for about 2 hours on the phone. Over the next few days, we talked a couple more times on the phone and I went to her apartment and hung out with her...but also her roommates. I asked her if she wanted to go and get dinner sometime, and she said that sounded good, so she told me she was busy most of the week, but to call her tomorrow and see when she was available. I called her and she said that she was busy, and to try and do it next week. She said she felt bad, but that she really wanted to go next week. So, next week rolls around, and I ask her if she is still interested in going. She says yes, but she would know a little bit more of when she was available on Tuesday night. So, Wednesday night rolls around and I go over to her apartment to drop off a cd and while I am there I ask if she wants to go out tomorrow night (which would be Thursday). She thinks about it for a little bit and thinks that that would be ok. So, I tell her I will call her after I get off work that day. So, after work, I call her and she answers the phone in her car with her roommate because they were coming home from shopping. She tells me that she has some homework to do and that it probably won't work out to go out that night. So, this brings up to tonight. I haven't spoken to her since then, which was two nights ago, and it is killing me. I really like this girl and don't know what to do anymore. Everytime we talk on the phone, it seems as if she is in to me because she always picks up the phone or returns my phone calls. But, it seems that she has no problem with me hanging out with her and her roommates, but when it is time that I want to hang out with her alone, she kind of shys away. Do you think she doesn't like me that way and doesn't want to hurt my feelings, or do you think she really likes me but is scared that she might get involved on a serious level and she is not sure that is what she wants? I am really confused and don't know what to do anymore. Should I wait for her to call me to see if she really cares about me, or should I call her soon? PLEASE HELP!!

I met this girl and we talk all the time, but usually only over the phone. She seems very interested, because she always answers the phone or returns all of my phone calls. Plus she has invited me over a couple of times, but it always seems to be with her and her roommates. I have asked her out a couple times and she seems that she wants to, but when it is time for us to go, I will make sure, and she will push it back with an excuse of homework or something else. I really like her, but I don't know what to do anymore. Should I ignore her for a couple of days and see if she calls me, or should I just keep pursuing? She knows I like her, but I don't know her real feelings about me. Do you think she doesn't like me and doesn't know how to tell me, or do you think she likes me, but she is afraid to get close to me because she is still young and not sure if she wants to be in a relationship? Everytime we talk on the phone, we have good conversations, almost as if we are together. Somebody please help me out!!

Ok, I need some help....I have this girl that I have been talking to for a couple of weeks. We talk on the phone almost everyday, and we have hung out a few times. However, everytime we hang out, it seems to be with her friends and never just the two of us. I have gone on to ask her out to dinner a couple of times, but each time she says that sounds good. Then, when it comes time to go out or something, she usually says she has some homework or something for school, so she wants to push it back. Like two nights ago, I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner tomorrow night, and she said she thought that would be ok. So, I called her last night and she said that she had some stuff to take care of, and she wanted to push it back to next week. That is the second time that has happened. However, she then asked if I wanted to come over and watch television with her and her roommates. I declined, because I can't make it sound as if I am too desperate. But, my question is that I don't know how she really feels about me, and that is really bothering me. Do you think that she doesn't like me at all but doesn't want to be mean, or that she really does like me, but she is afraid that if we do spend time together by ourselves then something might happen between us? I also have a feeling that she is afraid of dating because of her roommate that she spends all her time with. I think she is afraid that her roommate won't have anybody to talk to or hang out with if she is with me. I am really confused, because sometimes, I feel as if she does like me, and then there are other times, like when she pushed back the date a couple of times, as if she doesn't like me more than a friend, but she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. I need to know what to do? Can somebody please help me...