Hi,
I just read your story and almost thought I was reading about part of my own life. First of all, it is imperative that this woman take her medication and not mix it with any other substances as this interfers with its effectiveness. I was just recently in a long term relationship with a woman that has a combination of Bi-polar and alcoholism- what fun! Not really! Anyway, she would drink excessively and would take her medication but the alcohol would cancel it out. I feel for you, as I also went through the cycles with her. One day everything would be perfect and I would feel so connected to her and the next she would be carrying on like she was insane- really! We finally parted ways this summer after she started having an affair- she still contacts me and tells me she loves me "and I still deeply love her" but has not been willing to work on "our" relationship- its sad as I know she doesnt want to lose me from her life but at the same time this situation isnt fullfilling my needs- as I am sure you can relate. Anyway, if there is any hope, she must do the medication as well as counseling. I would also recommend you go to counseling together- I am sure it would help. This disease tends to get worse with age, so if you can, try to get a grip on it early. Hope this helps !