lovelessons

I am new here and I had no contact for 14 to 17 now, I am not sure did not keep track cause I was to ticked off. I love this person but when he told me he wanted or needed to help his son out I did not understand why because his son does not want his or my help. He is a 25 year old drunk. In any event moved in with son and another guy. about two weeks into staying there he goes cold on me. I am not stupid and I do not chase, look, inquire as to what is going on in that home. I listen to what he was not saying and I ran cold when he said he was coming home I replied what you done getting wet now you want to come home? he said no girl no tramp you are what i want and need. I did not believe him said no lets wait. that same night he moved in with a girl he had affair with some time back. Have not spoken to him since and I have been going out all the time. When his son called me to chat said something like well although you and my dad not together any more we can still be friends and started to talk of his father I cut him off by telling him of a date I had and then said good-bye. I was with this person for 8 years + and yes I want him back. But I will be dam if he thinks I am his door mat or that he can do it again. He better do some crawling to me or it will never happen cause I have a lot to offer so earn it now. What gets me the most is this, you read how people in general do not like needy people yet the person he is with is needy as hell go figure. Any one have answer to this.