n8

My wife and I can't seem to get on the same page regarding our money! She apparently wants a wedding in Hawaii and a house in the next five years but I am the only one who is willing to save money for these events. She spends too much money on herself and on other things. I don't know if she really wants the future she talks about?? I make enough money for her to stay home with our new baby. I don't want to be an authority figure in her life telling her when and what she can spend our money on, but I need to do something!!!!!! Can anyone out there HELP!!! Your advice is greatly appreciated!!!!!!

I agree! In addition, I would definitely try to work it out. Do something fun together! If nothing works, and you break up, work is going to be miserable.

Thanks for your advice!!!!! I was not as clear as I should have been! Its not that I look at porn and just imagine that its my wife. I actually look for a couple minutes, turn it off, and then proceed to do my business (thinking about my wife). Does this change your opinion at all? I love my wife more than anything in the world but sometimes I just feel like I am allowed to please myself? What do you think? I also travel two - three weeks a month for work. What should I do if I feel these urges while I am away?

HELP!!!!!!!!!! Occasionally (couple times a month) I look at porn to get aroused. I never actually masturbate to the porn, when I am to a certain point I will think about my wife until I orgasm. She has made me feel guilty about looking at porn, even though I think about her as I masturbate. She makes it like she is so hurt if I do this, like I think she is not enough, which is clearly not the case. Is this wrong? We have sex all the time and we both love it!!! I can't get enough of her! But I just have these urges to look every now and then!!! Should I feel bad?????????? Please help!!! Thanks