GinaBug

Well, let me tell you one thing..That was a great story. I too had a fling with a guy from another state. I'm married and he's not. It lasted for 2 yrs and we talked everyday on the phone and PC. I believed I was deeply in love with him , at the time I was having issues with my husband. I thought it through and I knew it had to stop because I was married and I love my husband. ... You need to look deep in your heart and tell youself ,You're with your wife for a reason. If you wanted to be with the other woman you would have done what ever it took to be with her. Did you say you were in love with her? It will be hard to forget her and move on but that's what you have to do now... For you, your wife and the other womans sake. IF you don't you will never find happiness with your wife. I know the pain... [/b]

I really don't know if he has cheated on me with a woman . He has had voice mail and post on the web to meet women and men. The reason I post this message is to ease my mind. I love him and I have forgiven him but everytime around this time of year I think about what he did to me. I just need advice on this. I was just wondering if there are signs that he would rather be with another man. I have nothing against BIs or Gay people. I just don't want to be married to one and lied to... The only reason he told me anything in the first place because we got inot a fight on Christmas Eve last year and he left me alone in a hotel with my kids . We were 2 hundred miles from home with NO money or a way to get home.. I had him arrested and then I bailed him out Christmas Day. He lived with him brother. When I got him out that is when he told me.... and he said it happened 1 weekend while I was out of town 6 Yrs ago... how could he keep that from me so long.. Now it is hard for me to have sex with him.. the only thing that goes through my mind is that he had another man give him oral and God knows what else. I still have alot of anger... He will not talk to me about it.. what should I do now.....? [/b]

My husband told me that he had a guy proform oral sex on him while he was at a peep show... I have found out that he has talked to gay men online and on the phone. I'm not sure how many times he has met men on the side. He told me that he has not done anything to a guy.. But all the stuff I have read that he wrote to other men make me think differently. I'm so confused. I really love him and we have children together. I feel in my heart that he may be BI. Could anyone give me some feedback on this.

My husband told me that he had a guy proform oral sex on him while he was at a peep show... I have found out that he has talked to gay men online and on the phone. I'm not sure how many times he has met men on the side. He told me that he has not done anything to a guy.. But all the stuff I have read that he wrote to other men make me think differently. I'm so confused. I really love him and we have children together. I feel in my heart that he may be BI. Could anyone give me some feedback on this. [/b]