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  1. I've had a friend since high school and were now in our 30's. I live in another province and come to town to visit 1-2 times a year. I don't talk to her on the phone. The only communication I have with her throughout the year is via snapchat videos and the odd text. She still has this weird possessiveness over me whenever I come to town and always needs to be included in every plan I have even though she's not friends with some of my friends. She was acquaintances in high school but that's it. It's like she doesn't understand that I want to spend time with my friends without her. She used to caused a lot of drama and pointless fights but she's gotten better over the years. But even recently she'll reply to snapchats of mine with passive aggressive comments like "not that you keep me in the loop" and stuff. I would cut her off no problem if she wasn't such a great person and she loves her friends and is loyal as hell. It's just so annoying to have to deal with someone who can't take ownership of her own self growth or lack there of. We are 33 years old! She's the type of person that invites herself to weddings and says "I better be in your wedding party" to people who didn't plan on it and ended up having her in their party because of her comments! I'm getting married in a year and I can already feel the forceful energy coming from her. I just don't get how she can't read the room. I have 3 best friends whom I am close with and talk to every day and she is NOT one of them! What do I do? She is so sensitive
  2. When you are legitimately broken up then the other person doesn't actually get a say in what you do. They can observe your behaviors and make a decision whether or not they want to be with you but they cannot get mad about what you did while you were single. Maturity is needed to understand that though.
  3. The first step is to urge your friend to talk to her ex about this. After all if her plan is for him to take him then he needs to know that she plans to leave the country, no? You need to voice your concerns to her and be very firm that you think she is making a big mistake, she will do what she pleases with that information but you have to speak your truth. Then once the cat is out of the bag and everybody knows the plan, you will be able to see where the cards may fall. This "plan" of hers could completely backfire anyways. Don't panic until you know it's actually happening. Also, if you're really close to the kid make sure you express that to her and the dad. The more a child is loved the better. And if he the dad knows how truly close you are then it would make it harder for him to up and leave the area.
  4. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and he wants me to move to the USA from Canada with him before being engaged. He says he needs to see that I'll come with him no matter what. My stance is, I want to do things in the right order, if he wants to marry me like he says he does then why can't we just get engaged first? He's moved for me before (but a job was involved) and says he made the move for me and our relationship and wants me to recognize that he's made decisions for us because he feels like I don't acknowledge that. Advice please
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