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Count me in as a guy who finds that appealing.

The best thing you can do in this situation is cut off contact with him. It appears he has moved on with his life but you're still holding on to the life you had together, that's something that you have to let go. You need time apart to resolve those feelings you have for him, only time will change the way you feel - but not if you're constantly thinking of him. At the very least keep your feelings for him and the relationship out of any conversation. You may always love him, but with time you may no longer be in love with him, then you can move on.

At 17 she really doesn't classify as a "women", she's still a girl - even if she is mature for her age. Personally I think the age when females transition from girls to women is about 21 - there's alot of growing up to do before that age. Being friends with a girl that young is fine, just keep it at friends - any sort of relationship will do her alot more harm than good.

Ah to be 15 again, my first kiss seems like a distant faded memory but I do have some advice, especially if she's more "seasoned" than you. Let her lead, it's like dancing. Feel free to initiate the kiss but keep in mind she's teaching you. Just close your eyes and let it happen, react on what she's doing and you'll be fine. Once you figure out what it is she's doing (and generally what it is she likes) you can return it. Just try not to get nervous thinking about it. Good luck.

It really depends ... without doing the things you listed can you really let go of the relationship and move on? It's always hard to be away from the person you love, especially when those feelings aren't returned - but we tend to prolong our agony by holding on to hope as long as we can. All I can suggested is .. a) the love letters - if the feelings expressed in them still holds true then keep them, if the love is no longer there throw them away. At least if he does come back he'll have a reason to write more of them. b) the pictures - how do they make you feel when you look at them? If they only increase the pain of being apart and make you miss him more, it's time to hide them, and leave them there. c) friendship - this is the hardest one of all. The problem is two-fold especially if the relationship ended on somewhat respectable terms. For the person leaving, its a way to make them feel less guilty, at least in the interm. For the person being left, its usually a way for them to hang on in hopes you'll be a constant reminder to them and they'll come back. For the most part, being friends with someone who you've shared alot of time with right after the breakup is difficult, if not impossible. If you spend the day thinking about them, wondering what they're doing, who they're with etc .. you're setting yourself up to be hurt when you find out the answer. The best thing to do is go your own way until those feelings start to fade, you may always love the person but chances are you won't always be in love with them - that's the best time to be friends again.

I guess it really depends on your relationship. Is he faithful? Do you trust him? Does he understand how you feel when he's around other girls or talks about them? He might not realize he does bothers you as much as it does. My ex was always a flirt when we went out drinking or paryting at the bars but I never let it bother me too much, although I'd be lying if it I said it didn't at all. I knew she was faithful and loyal and that there were no feelings exchanged when she did this, and at the end of the night she was going home with me.

I find in most cases the reason people aren't honest or straight forward is either a) they dont want to hurt someone or b) they dont want to be hurt by someone. There has to be a high level of trust for two people to open up and communicate on such a level where no matter what is said they will not feel judged or the message will not be taken out of context. People hear alot of things they don't want to hear in their lifetime but its important to understand why it's being said instead of just reacting to it.

Personally I equate "cute" more with personality where "pretty" is more exclusively based on looks. I'll take a cute girl anyday.

It's very likely that she has very strong feelings for you but feels its best that you're not together. She probably finds it very difficult to move on right now and feels that if she doesn't communicate with you she will be able to get on with her life sooner since talking to you would be a constant reminder of her feelings. Email is a bit more one way so there's less feeling involved as opposed to talking to someone directly. If that's the case the reason she's picking apart your relationship is to justify the breakup, its part of the grieving process for the ones that leave (as the one getting left sits and tries to figure out what they did wrong etc..). Chances are she does care about you but needs time to get over her feelings, the best thing to do is give her that space. The best thing you can do is to avoid talking about the relationship when you speak to her via email and keep in mind the reasons why she's acting the way she is.

Ask for the chance to prove you've changed - not by telling her but by showing here - and give it time. Changing might not take a long time for some people but proving it will.

At first I thought you were my ex posting since that's basically how she said she felt I met my ex when she was 18 and she's 24 now - we broke up a few weeks ago, although we were supposed to work on things and see how it goes. Of course right after she felt relieved and changed her mind and wanted nothing to do with a relationship anymore. She found someone else a few days after we broke up so I'm wondering if she's just trying to fill the void or she really did stop loving me and has moved on already. Unfortuneatly for me, once she left I realized how much I really did love her and looking back all of our problems were caused by the simple fact that we didn't communicate like couples should. Seems a shame to lose 6 years with a person due to a communication problem, especially knowing how deeply in love we were at one point. My hope was we would get to know each other again and let our friendship redevelop then see if we really did want to spend our lives together, but the chance was never given. My only advice is to talk about it, share your feelings with friends or loved ones - or even your ex and remember to take the time for your heart to heal, even if it takes awhile.

For me suicide was always a way to get back at the world for everything bad that had happened in my life, but then I realized the best way to get back at the world is to be here and make a difference in it.

1) Ease yourself into it - you dont' have to run out partying every day to be social. You must have some real life friends if you've ever stepped out of the house, see what they're up to. Find some other way to spend your day other than in front of the computer, its great to have friends online but people need to socialize and share time with people or spend time with themselves. If you already have someone you consider a best friend you're half way there - start with them. 2) Self Esteem - some people have more than others but if you can look at yourself once in awhile and say "ya, i am good looking" - trust that feeling, it means you've realized something other people already know about you. take care

I woke up with this same question myself this morning. Everyone I've talked to has said the exact same thing and I'm starting to feel like its just a friendly way to say "move on but don't give up hope". It's good to hear that you're trying your best to move on, if you've worked hard to get over your feelings but find they keep coming back, perhaps you should talk to him about it if you there is still open communication between you (and I dont mean beg him to come back etc..rather tell him why you still love him, talk to him). The one cliche that is true is that the person that leaves has to be the one to return, never chase a person hoping to catch up with them.