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  1. So more of a backstory... It was him that wanted more than friendship initially, I did like him a lot but I bottled it. A couple days before I left I admitted that I had feelings too. It was a month long vacation and we don't live too terribly far from one another but there is an international border and there's no telling when it will be possible to get together. We have been talking and texting every day. So now I guess we should just continue as friends, it was only a kiss after all... 😞
  2. I spent a month getting to know someone, friendship grew into romance but it wasn't until the last days that we even kissed. I left, went home and now I won't have a chance to see him again for months. What do I do?? Go on with my life? Do we keep in touch? Should I expect that we have already started a relationship? Am I going to ruin this before it starts???!!!! HELP!!
  3. This is what the narcissist does and you are right to talk about it and you know what needs to be done but the narcissist still has a hold on you. That's what they do. You have to make a clean break and be clear of all the control and manipulation, stop second guessing yourself, listen to your gut and get away from that person. Work with your therapist on your insecurities and just trust your intuition in your next relationship, don't give the narcissist what they want...control. Best of luck
  4. I have found all of the advice here incredibly helpful...even the stuff that was hard to admit. One last question. Since I left things on a good note with him, I never said one word in anger and he asked me not to disappear from his life. He actually sent a message saying that he hoped time would bring us together again. I still feel disgusted and I want to delete him from all social media. I think any further communication with him will be toxic for me. Is that childish?
  5. Certainly is a blessing in disguise. I'm not wasting time any more time on this idiot man-child.
  6. I have been to 3 different cities in 2 weeks and not had to quarantine
  7. Damn right. And thoughtless ...unless he just subconsciously wanted to remind me that he did as he pleases and answers to no one.
  8. I saw that answer in your signature ... "Ignoring red flags because you want to see the good in people ..." ... And I'm not perfect either. I also didn't say anything about dating him, I asked if leaving was the right thing to do. I could have finished off the week and then choose to never see him again.
  9. We did not meet online, just to clarify. I never said we did. I appreciate the advice I get here but please at least read the post ... We met the old fashioned way and there we sparks.
  10. I'm a grown woman, I pay my own way. We met a few months ago, 3 to be exact. We spent 2 days together when we met, then 5 days at another time and then this time. He was always so sweet, kind and generous. That's why I don't get why he could be so thoughtless and disrespectful this time. Is it normal to let someone get the bad behavior out of their system until they realize they have a keeper and they get their act together?? I'm not perfect I've made mistakes.
  11. Thanks for your advice, you are all right that he was honest and up front and I ignored the warnings. H Here's what I think: He invited me, I paid my flight and all expenses, he could AT LEAST take the time to clean up his goddamn condom wrappers. I spent good money getting there I don't think that's too much to ask. Rookie mistake and a HUGE slap in the face. I'm angry but I left with my dignity intact. As for speaking to him again...I haven't decided. He's been in touch to find out if I'm alright but I can't even talk I'm too mad. I not even able to return home yet and I have to couch sur
  12. Yes, I was very calm and I said he did nothing wrong, I just couldn't stay.
  13. I was visiting a guy for a few days, someone I met a couple months before. He was on a business trip and invited me to come see him. He seemed genuinely excited that I was coming. I arrived and we were having the absolute best time and it was going really well. Three days in, I'm cleaning up and find a condom wrapper under the bed. My first thought is "the damn maid did a lousy job, ew" ,second thought "It's a damn good thing he didn't find it first, he'd wonder if I was up to no good while he was at work", third thought, that it WAS his.... Nah, can't be. So I asked him and he said it was.
  14. Wasn't pursuing anything, my question was ... is it ok for someone to expect another to listen and not pass judgement? Is that selfish or am I insensitive?
  15. I should be clear..... I said we just met, not dating exactly. He did say he was not ready for dating but he liked me and we were hanging out, and yes, sleeping together. Still I feel like I should not have had to endure that.
  16. Is there a fine line between confiding in someone and 'dumping on them'? Or is it just taboo?
  17. So awkward. I tried to be supportive but it just annoyed me, and then I felt bad for not being a friend.
  18. Is it normal if someone you just met talk nonstop about his ex wife? Literally everything we do, when we're out .... and even when we're in bed, he has to bring up his ex. It's all bad stuff. He seems damaged. I like him a lot and he's a good person. He's obviously still healing. I think I should stop seeing him. It's not that I don't want to help, I just don't think it's healthy for me. I think everyone will agree but if someone sees it differently I'd be very happy to hear about it. Also, I would like to give him some friendly advice. How can I say it without sounding insensitive? Or s
  19. You are totally right. I don't want revenge at all.... but I know what you mean. I immediately extended the olive branch, if he won't accept it then that's his choice. Sucks but that's life. Thanks
  20. I was seeing someone for a couple months and we broke up. It was both our faults ... just a bad mix. We got into an argument and I walked out. I regret not trying to talk it out but I was completely unable to cope with the things that were said, I thought it was too late for reconciliation. I probably did the right thing getting out. I was very up front about my issues and he said he could deal with anything I threw at him. In the end he just threw it all back in my face. I'm not angry and I forgive him for that. It would be nice if he apologized but he's just washed his hands of it. I hav
  21. I see the confusion now... I posted in the infidelity forum !! :D:tongue:
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