Dizski

Ok not sure if anyone anyone reading this knows my situation, but you can refer back to, What a Mess".(under breakups) Well if so here is my latest and greatest plan, it has been a month now since she has left me, and still wears my engagement ring, we talk every so often, and she still tells me she loves and misses me but she keeps saying that we wont work, (why i dint know). Well in January i am going to get on a plane, get my butt back to AZ for 2 weeks. The day i get back i am having a friend bring her to our favorite bar, and i am going to show up totally unexpectedly,with a few roses, a teddy bear, a big red bow on my head and tell her, "Baby, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year, so sorry im late, Santa forgot me, I love you." Im hoping for the best but eiter way i need to get my stuff back from her and i will finally be able to sit and talk to her face to face. I am so excited to do this i cant even sleep at night, its sucks but i cant wait, well let me know what you think, if you want to talk about it and have some good info for me IM me on AOL. Well hope to see some of you soon, Bye bye, ~Jim

wow man i am having the same exact problem, there is a little slightly different twist to mine but the whole thing about here needing time and the struggle we are dealing with of being left in the dark, im totally right there with you, so hey my aol screen name is DSlim10 im always on, if im not there will be an away note, but im here with ya and ill be more than glad to share my story and just maybey we can get through this together.

I have been dating a girl who is married for the last 4 years, we have been living in sin the entire time. We were so happy and both decided to never hold what was happening against either of us. Well after 4 years of being together she decided finally that it was time to break it off with her husband. She called me up and told me that she was on her way to his house to have him sign the papers, after about 5 hours she calls me back crying and telling me that she and i need a few week apart in order for her to get her feelings together. In the past we have always talked about becoming married and having kids and living to become old together, it was so picture perfect, except for the fact that she was married. Well my point is that now that i have molded my life around this woman for the last 4 years and she means the world to me, she just shut me out in the dark to see if she can repair her marriage. He doesnt know about me, and i am just totaly confused on what i should feel. I am in a totaly different country then her for my work and i am going crazy. She told me she just needed a couple of weeks to see how they would be together again, she told me not to wait for her but i know she wants me there if it doesnt work between them, what should i do. I love her and she is everything to me, i believe that she needs me and is just scared to admit it.