BlueEyedBoy

hey hey, I like this challenge. Ok well It's early days, its only been 3 days since I saw her and only really made the decision to go NC in the last few hours. So Day 3 : Deleted her from my Facebook earlier, and tomorrow I'm putting the few remaining things of hers I have through her door. We previously arranged to meet this saturday but in with her things I've put a note which simply reads 'I cant make it on Saturday' It feels Kind of good that she has no idea I've chosen to go NC and last thursday was really the last chance she got too speak to me until I don't know when. Let the NC Challenge Commence!

Yes, you are so right. If only she'd talked to me about it. If only I had chance to know what she was thinking and do something about it. But she chose to get some affection elsewhere and sleep with another guy. Damn. If only then we might not be in this terrible mess.

Yeh but I love her. She cheated on my 'cos she thought that i didn't but i did. I just didn't show it much 'cos I felt used by her 'cos she didn't have a job and wouldn't get motivated and go out and find one. Why did she do it?? surly if she'd sat back and realized everything that I'd done for her she'd of realized how much I cared. Grrr WHY??

When I met her I made a promise to her and myself that I was going to trust her completely. I wasn't gonna get all jelous when she went out without me and I wasn't gonna snoop through her phone or any thing like that. I wanted to leave my insecure past behind and not have those worries, I hate feeling that way, I just didn't wanna be like that anymore. Not only did I keep my promise but also I didn't feel insecure when she went out. In that respect it was the best relationship I'd had 'cos I never worried, I always just welt happy. It all changed when she cheated on me. I still love her, I know she loves me too and i honestly doubt she'll do it again now she's seen what it does to a relationship. Now she's gone out with some friends, I know its just a lunchtime drink but now I do worry when she's out. Ive asked her to let me know if she's going out before hand so at least I know about it. I think she's just taking for granted the way things used to be and thinks she can go out and I won't be bothered because I wasn't bothered before. She can't do it anymore and it will take a lot of time while I learn to re-trust but what can I say to make her realize this? She doesn't know me as a jelous insecure person because she's never seen that side of me before. I thought I'd burried those feelings long ago but she's gone and exhumed them all again.

Yes she is definitely pregnant, shes 4 weeks late and she did a test, the result was positive. We've talked about it and it seems pretty certain that there isn't going to be a baby. I feel terrible to say it but under the circumstances I think this the best option, rather than risk having a baby that isn't even mine especially in a relationship that im not sure will last after she slept with someone else. I really just wanted to know about the time of ovulation, I guess I'll never know for sure whos baby she's terminating

She hadn't been on the pill for several months but she had a 2 week supply left. She started taking them when her period started, the 26th of oct. She slept with him 7 days later on the 2nd of nov, he did ejaculate during intercorse. She slept with me 6 days later, 13 days into her cycle, on the 8th of nov, before I even found out about him. I did not ejaculate during intercorse. She had intended to obtain a supply of the pill before running out but never went to the clinic so i presume she ran out on the 9th of nov, two weeks after she started taking them. I know nothing is certain by a long shot but does someone know, from a medical point of view, who she is more likely to now be pregnant by?

I would reply to his text and tell him even though you said you wanted to go to india, you only said that because you cant bear to be here without him. Just let him know how much he means to you and leave it at that. Just cut off contact. It can take years to learn if you can truly trust someone and you've only been together for 4 months. Right now he probably does't know who to believe. I'm confident he'll soon realize that your ex frein is being spitefull for what ever childish reason she's doing it He'll come around in his own time.

I didnt realize that you wern't living with your mother. That may be for the best at this moment in time, it sounds like she is a bit unstable and there are problems of her own she needs to address. Where are you staying? I take it that your boyfriend was aware of the problems you were having with your mother when you were dating? When someone hears things about their partner at first it tends to come as a bit of a shock and fills them with rage... I know thats true for me anyway. But once the mist clears your boyfriend will calm down. At the moment he may be still talking to your ex friend and she may be still filling his head with false allegations but I honestly believe in the end he will realize he knows you better, he probably already knows deep down tht your telling the truth but just needs to cool off before it sinks in. I guess you have plenty of oportunity to see him at school and such? Just tell him your telling the truth, he means the world to you and you wouldn't do any thing to hurt him. eventually he'll come round.

Hi, Your fella does sound like a really great guy. I'm so sorry to hear that you were raped, that must have been awful, especially as you were so young. Its fantastic that he has been there for you and helped so much. It sounds like your friend is causing you a lot of problems, I'm not really sure why she might be doing this but if it continues I would reconsider as to whether or not you wish to keep her around as a friend. The thing about trust is that the only thing you have to go on is what someone tells you, the fact that your friend has told your boyfriend one story and he is getting a different one from you is bound to have put him in a difficult situation. I would try not to worry too much, just be honest with him, thats all you can do. He may not know who to believe but his gut feelings will lead him in the right direction. In my experience the truth always comes out in the end.

Wash your face first with hot water, the hotter the better as it oens up the pores and softens the skin. I find shaving downwards first then upwards to get closer, from your ear towards your chin to do your jaw and downwards on your neck gives good results.

A guys diet can affect the way his cum tastes quite a lot acidy or spicy things like curry, chilly or citrous fruits will make it taste particularly bad, smoking makes it taste worse too.

She was the second partner that I have had unprotected sex with. In both cases with both girls I made judgment with respect to the risks involved based on thier life style and previous partners. Surely you cant expect to make every new girl you meet get tested before going unprtected with them. When she cheated on me it seems she made the same reasonable judgement about the guy, as far as the risk for him goes, it was his choice as far as i'm concerned. The thing that bothers me the most is the fact that she came back to me and because she didnt tell me I didn't have the oportunity to make the choice. Iv'e only just realized this but shes playing god with my life.

Hi than you to everyone who replied to my post yesterday. link removed I was all set for staying with her but having read your responces oyu have really opened my eyes. I'm still not sure what to do but if i do choose stay with her would it be unreasonable of me to insist that she gets herself tested for std's?

First of all, keep your chin up. I know that situations like this can be disheartening, especially when you havn't experianced teenage relationships. Women are mysterious creatures, no man will ever learn everything he needs to know about a woman in order to be her perfect partner. Dating is all part of an emotional learning curve where you discover how you naturally choose to treat women and learn from the mistakes you make along the way. Your interlude with this woman, albeit breif, will have taught you valuable lessons about life and yourself, she did the right thing in telling you about this other guy. Many girls would have lead you on while they decided what to do. If she chooses to date this other guy then respect her decision, its much better to have done things this way than break your heart 6 months down the line. Dont be bitter be happy theres someone for everyone.

Quite a big age gap there. If I had to be honest, I think I'd find it difficult to see how this is a relationship that could last, but then I dont know either him or you. I think i'd be inclined to leave it at that and remember the good times you had.

I think you should definitely tell him exactly how you feel, you never know, if youv'e been spending a lot of time with this guy lately it may be that he has feelings for you too. It has the potential to turn into a wonderful relationship. However, if he's not willing to commit to you, I don't think you should carry on with him as things are now. Having him around as a 'friend with benefits' won't do you any favours in the long run, it sounds like you really like this guy and sex will only make those feelings stronger and will only make it harder for him, but more importantly you to start a relationship with someone else.

I appreciate anyones point of veiw that if she felt strongly enough about me she wouldn't have done it in the first place and I should cut my losses etc etc My ex cheated on my also, in heinsight staying with her was totaly stupid on my part. Afterwards she constantly gave me the cold shoulder, looking back, thare was nothing to work with anyway. My current gf though, when I look into her eyes I can see she regrets it so much. I dont have to say anything, she knows just by looking back at me how hurt I am, she cries because she feels certain that shes going to loose me. I just want to know, is there anypoint in continuing with this relationship. I guess im worried that a year from now my vivid imagination about what happened on those nights will still haunt me. Has anyone tried, with success/failure? or any other thaughts?

Johny's right, If your instuctor says you're ready then as far as driving ability goes you have nothing to worry about. Think of it as a performance rather than a test, there isn't a time limit so the examiner isn't going to say 'times up, stop the car' take your time and enjoy it. Driving is Fun! Good luck!!

From my past experiences I've trusted my the girl in my life completely, right from the word go. Innocent until proven guilty thats what I say. But I mean seriously, how do you know?

Please help. My relationship is in such a huge mess right now, nothing like this has ever happened to me before. My feelings are numb I'm really confused and I've no idea what to do. I'll try to cut a long story short as much as I can. I met her on a night out in January this year, she was 20 and i was 24. She had long dark hair and a really sweet smile, I was instantly drawn to her. When I met her she was living in her ex boyfriends house, they had been broken up a while but he said she could stay there while she was looking for somewhere else to live. She had gone into care when she was 13 and moved in with her ex when she was 16, resultantly having nowhere else to go. When she met me, her ex said that it was inappropriate that she carry on living with him so I moved her and all her things in to my house. My parents were mortified, they couldn't understand why I would take someone in off the street. I reassured them that she was going places and just needed time to get on her feet. It wasnt long before holes appeared in her personality. She got a job but quit after a few weeks. I felt annoyed that she took me and all my support for granted. I did everything for her and never complained because im highly tolerent. In June I had to move about 150 miles because i got a new job, by then I'd had enough of her lazyness and told her she had to find her own place and she could come and live with me when she was more responsible. I didn't give her reasonable notice and ended up taking her with me. About 2 months after we moved, still lazy and unemployed, the inevitable happened. I sent her to go stay with my parents while she found somewhere to live. 2 days later she moved into a friends house. that lasted 3 weeks then she ended up having to register as homeless, she was put in a b&b and has been there ever since. I go and see her every few weeks to see how shes getting on. Ive always told her as soon as she starts wearing a responsible adult hat she can move back in with me. I feel sad about her being on her own and ive given loads of encouragement but she still wont get motivated. Everything went horribly wrong 3 weeks ago when i went to see her, I phoned and txt but couldnt get hold of her so went to see her foster sister to try and find her. I found out that she had been seeing someone else for 2 weeks!! Her sister told me that this wasn't the only time she had been unfaithfull apparently she slept with someone else months ago!! The next day I got hold of her and arranged to meet. I confronted her, she admitted that she had been seeing someone else and sleeping with him but denied sleeping with another guy aswell. I feel like I'm to blame for what happened, I had good reasons for telling her she had to leave my house, but did she understand them, did she realize that i did want her to come back when she was ready. Maybe she did what she did because i didnt show enough affection yesterday she sent a txt to me by mistake it was meant for her friend, It basically said she was late for her period and she was worried she may be pregnant. I phoned her and had a huge argument with her, asking if and when she was planning on telling me about it, she said she was scared. the idea of being pregnant came as a shock to me because weve taken reasonable caution, when I asked her what she thought about that she had to admit that she hadn't been as careful as she could have been and it was likely that if shes pregnant, its not mine. She also admitted to sleeping with the other guy her sister had told me about. When I asked her why she did these things, she sais its because she was annoyed with me. She knows that I love her and she sais shes sorry for what has happened. now that she realizes what she means to me she regrets everything that shes done and she doesnt want to loose me. I dont want to be too hasty and finish with her just because im angry. To be honest my feellings are still very numb right now. no one has ever treated me this badly before I think its still sinking in. What im mainly worried about is the fact shes told me so many lies I just dont know if i can ever trust her again.

My ex cheated on me about a year ago, the situation was slightly different to yours in that afterwards she seemed to show little sign of guilt or remorse, she said she told me about it because if things had been the other way round she'd like to have known. Her feelings towards me deteriorated, I forgave her for what she'd done and pleaded with her not to finish with me. After about about 3 months things didn't improve so i didn't see any point in dragging things out any longer and decided to call it off. We still saw a lot of eachother and gradually things improved and we ended up getting back together. Things from that point on were pretty good allthough at first I constantly felt as though she owed me something and she should do something big to make things up to me, this feeling faded but never really went away. I think I constantly felt let down by what she'd done in the past. We ended up looking back at how unhappy we've been over the last few months and ended up breaking up again. I'm sorry I cant give you a conclusive answer as to whether you should or shouldn't forgive him but i guess the questions you have to ask your self are whether or not you'll completely be able to forget about what he did and put it in the past? Does he really mean that much to you that you're willing to take the risk of getting hurt again or do you deserve better? You may still feel very strongly bout him now, but there are loads of other guys out there and when you find one who truly treats you the way you deserve to be you'll find it a lot easier to live without him than you imagine at the moment.

Two months ago I called things of with my ex because neither of us were happy and we needed to spend some time apart to figure out what we wanted. Having been without her for that amount of time i realize how much I love her and I'm able to see all the errors of my ways during the time we were together. I miss her deerly and would like nothing more than to give things another try but i know this is something that can only be done when the time is right and if we both feel the same way. Since we separated I met up with her and told her that if she felt there was no chance that we'd ever be able to give things another go i'd prefer it if she could tell me outright. This was very hard for me to do because, although it would give me closure it's actually the last thing i really want to hear. She sais that at the moment shes enjoying single life, and doesn't want a relationship with anyone. As far as a relationship with me in the future goes, shes still deciding what she wants. The thing I fear the most is being kept waiting for months only for her decide she doesn't want get back together. In the mean time I feel at a complete loose end and not really sure what to do.

It took me a while, i must admit, to realize that a girl can infact talk to/socialise with or even be flirty with a group of guys without having intentions of taking things further. Perhaps some girls just find it easier to connect with guys as friends 'cos they dont tend to be all that complex, its pretty much a case of what you see is what you get? But do guys understand this kind of behaviour from a girl? do they understand that shes just being friendly or do they instantly assume that 'cos shes being a little flirty that its her way of saying shes interested in them, perhaps different guys read into this in different ways? Well the girl im talking about is my ex (guess you kinda spotted that one coming) we decided to call things off for the time being so that we could see where our relationship was going, i know it was for the best 'cos we were having probs and i did need to see things from an outsiders point of view. In the last month in her bid to search her feelings she has slept with someone. To be honest finding that out did hurt a great deal but provided that she never gives me the exact details its something i think i can deal with. The guys i'm talking about are supposidly my friends but sometimes when im in the pub she'll come over to talk to me and then she'll start talking to/being flirty with them. I dont think she has any intentions with them 'cos it seems shes just being fiendly and shes no more flirty with them than she is with me. A couple of weeks ago one of the guys took her number and has been sending her texts since and last night one of the other guys asked him to set her up with him. If she were to take things further with him it's not something that I hugely have a problem with but what has upset and annoyed me is that for the last few weeks this guy could see ive been having a hard time of coping with things. He's been saying helpful things like "you'll be fine mate, these things just take time" and then he goes behind my back and tries to get her to hook up with him. I just dont know what to make of the whole situation, maybe i should just walk away from her and that group of friends for the time being. I dont know. I feel so shut out in the cold at times.